“Can I kiss you?” is probably the cutest thing you can ever hear someone ask.
Yes. Yes, let’s romanticize actually asking for consent verbally. Let’s stop making it out to ‘ruin the mood.’ This is so important.
My boyfriend says “Can I have a kiss?” Every time he wants to kiss me, no matter if he just kissed me three seconds before that. As soon as we stop, he will ask again for another one. And if I just peck him on the lips but he wants a longer kiss, he’ll say “No, can I have a real kiss?” Today he asked me if it bothered me that he always asks.
No. This will never bother me. This means he respects what I want.
This, gentlemen (and ladies) is how you acquire consent. Even if you just had sex ten minutes ago, that doesn't mean consent is assured the next time. You must always have consent.
Asking “Can I have a kiss?” will not turn a girl off. I can pretty much guarantee it. If anything, it will do just the opposite.
I have played truth or dare (and other variations) many times, and never has any guy asked before kissing me. HOWEVER, I have made it abundantly clear that if I do not want to kiss them, I won’t
everyone here is so quick to preach about how aromantics, demiromantics, and grayromantics are erased, but what about the rest of the arospec kids?
what about the quoiromantic kids, who can’t tell if the attraction they’re feeling is romantic or platonic?
what about the cupioromantic kids, who don’t experience romantic attraction but want to be in a romantic relationship?
what about the lithromantic kids, who feel romantic attraction but don’t want it reciprocated or lose the attraction when it is reciprocated?
and especially, what about the aroflux kids, whose romantic orientations are always on the aromantic spectrum but whose position on it fluctuates?
we’re doing a great job of making sure that everyone on this site knows that aro, demi, and gray aro kids exist, but please remember that those are not the only three places you can be on the aromantic spectrum. the rest of us are here and we matter just as much as the other arospec kids.
can we start a club for teenagers who were constantly complimented on their intelligence when they were younger and are now having trouble coping with the realization that they’re actually of average intellect at best
can this club have a support person that helps us to study because we didn’t need to before so we don’t know how to now
xkit guy can’t save us because y’all circulated a post calling him a predator with 100% no proof and he had a mental break because of all the unfounded hate messages and posts and hasn’t updated xkit since
I looked it up and that is 100% what happene oh m god
fuck
he was so important what tha fuck
burn this site to the ground
Oh my god you can’t
This website is a damn cesspool
i hear a lot about period cycles becoming in sync when women spend a lot of time together, but do they just average out or is there one cycle that’s just like the alpha cycle and makes the other one conform
I would actually like to know the answer to this
As a bio major and female I can confirm: there’s one alpha cycle that others conform to. The female with the most estrogen is typically the ‘alpha female’ and the cycle that’s followed by others. I’ve had friends go ‘wow this is so weird my period came like a week early’ and I’ve been like ‘lmao sorry my b’
Oh wait. I thought they meant like the moon or something.
So one of my co-counselors at a middle/elementary school camp I’m working for has a SUPER cool necklace that incites a conversation with nearly every person he meets.
“Is that real?!”
“How do you water it?”
“Where’d you get it?”
And I figured this company could use the advertisement boost it deserves among Tumblr bloggers who seem to adore small plants.
CHECK OUT THESE COOL LITTLE DUDES:
They would make a super awesome gift!!
They’re surprisingly inexpensive; only $4.99 each!!
You only need to water them around once a month!!
And watering them is super easy; you just submerge them in a shallow layer of water for a minute or two!! You don’t even have to remove the capsule!!
Just look at how adorable they are!!
These are the actual size measurements of the capsules:
Height - 1.5 in (4 cm)
Width - 0.23 in (17 mm)
So you can carry one with you wherever you go!!
They can live within the capsules from 3-18 months depending on the plant and care provided.
Once they grow big enough to leave the capsule, you can move them into these really cute pots sold by the same company (you can find pictures in the link below).
There’s actually no reason why you shouldn’t buy like 5 dozen of these babies.
You can attach them to your bag, or to your phone as a charm
or you could make a necklace out of them like my co-counselor did!
DON’T RESIST THEIR ADORABLENESS AND YOUR TEMPTATION TO PURCHASE ONE (OR TWO OR THREE)!
^I think I might get this one for myself!
TLDR; THEY’RE SUPER INEXPENSIVE, EASY TO CARE FOR, AND THEY MAKE A FABULOUS GIFT FOR ANY OCCASION!
whatever you do: don’t tell your baby girls that when a boy is mean to them, it’s because he has a crush on her. don’t teach your little girl that abuse is a sign of affection.
don’t
do
it
ON THE FLIP SIDE,
Don’t ever ever tell boys its okay to show affection in that way.
Just introduced a kid to her adoptive parents. They brought her a dozen roses. We met at a restaurant. I arrived early to get a private booth and told the waitstaff what was up. So all the servers were having a cry in the corner. I’m at a coffee shop a few miles away, giving them space and having my own cry.
Adoptive mom clarified to me later: roses were pink because pink means forever.
What’s more important than the roses, though, is they also brought her a luggage set so she wouldn’t be moving her things in garbage bags. The luggage matches theirs, cause it’s family luggage for family trips.
I’m not crying, you’re crying. 😭😭
This is what I want to do with my life! These are the things that make it worth it 😭😭😭😭
Ok so a few years ago my brother got married on April fools day, and he called my dad and he was all “dad guess what I got married” and my dad was like “haha funny happy April fools day” except my brother had actually gotten married. So a few months later, my brother calls “hey dad, Sara’s pregnant” and my dad’s all “wth who’s sara” and my brothers like “my wife. We got married on April fools day so you didn’t believe me, remember?” And long story short my niece just turned 4 and my dad is still pissed about that
Why do we have gay straight alliances and not 100% queer only spaces for queer youth…………? Why must the straights be included…………………………….?
because GSAs allow closeted LGBTQ youth to join without outing themselves
also because it is possible for gay and straight people to be friends??? that is sort of the whole point of GSAs? for gay and straight people to be friends? for straight people to come to know gay people and like them and learn how to effectively stick up for them??? wow it’s almost like inclusion and acceptance benefits everybody look at that
When I was in high school, I knew I was some sort of queer since I liked girls and guys, but I wasnt really sure what to identify as. So I wanted to join the GSA to maybe find some people like me and idk explore. When my dad found out, he got really angry and asked if I was gay. I told him I wasn’t and that I was the “straight” in GSA, and I just wanted equality for everyone and to have everyone feel included. He still got mad when I said I was going to a GSA meeting or something, but it saved me from a bad situation with my family
Also it’s important to remember that a lot of people, of any sexuality, may well not really be sure what their sexuality is, maybe for a long time, so it’s good practice to say “hey it’s cool, you can hang out with us even if you haven’t decided yet, and if you realise that you are actually just interested in opposite-sex then that’s okay, you don’t have to stop hanging out with us!”
Not to mention that constantly grouping ourselves away from straight people doesn’t help normalise our existance as just a thing that happens and is not a big deal. It also leads to the prejudice against bi and pansexuals within the gay community, especially bi and pan people who get into relationships with those of the opposite sex and/or gender.
I’m all for designated safe spaces for discussion of specific issues, but being GSM shouldn’t be a special secret “no straighties allowed” den all the time.
ok so there’s a garden centre across from my house and you need to go under a bridge to get to it, and today, on my way back (after having bought several packs of seeds, a bag of compost and a trowel) there was this creep under the bridge, and he shouted “nice arse” and came right up behind me and without even thinking i whacked the fucker with the newly bought trowel. moral of the story is dont fuck with gardeners
a 5'3" girl smacking a huge ass creep with gardening equipment and sprinting away with a freaking 70 litre compost bag over her shoulder deserves more than 18 notes guys
when i saw all time low in 2013 this kid threw his ipod on stage and rian picked it up and it was opened to notes and it said “can i sing dear maria with you?” and the band were pretty much like “yeah get up here” and then it turned into “WHO CAN PLAY DEAR MARIA ON DRUMS/BASS/GUITAR” and they found people who could and straight up handed them their instruments and let these four kids from the audience play dear maria on stage and it’s one of the coolest things i have ever seen
Things just transpired in my house hold that are equal parts offensive and hilarious… Here goes.
So my roommate, Dale, has a gf who does not live with us, but she’s here all the time. So Sunday when my gf was her we were on the couch and we kissed (scandalous, I know) and she saw it, and I’m pretty sure that’s the first time she’s seen us be affectionate, that’s neither here nor there.
So today she tells Dale she’s “uncomfortable” here and wants him to move out because she thinks me and my lady are going to hit on her or something, she doesn’t like living with lesbians, cause it’s not “normal”, so now I’m pissed. Then, Dale goes, “well you don’t live here, so it shouldn’t be a problem, just stop coming over”…things escalated and Dale is trying to break up with her, but she won’t leave our house….she locked herself in Dales room.
So, Dale barges in my room wearing a bathrobe and goes, “call every lesbian you know, we’re smoking this bitch out!” Then turns around and whips his robe like a cape…
And that’s the story of how there are 8 lesbians climbing through the window of Dales room…
Holy shit.
this was so fun to read out loud to my lesbifriend XD
Okay! My friend accused me of being a mother duck (and that I spend way too much time at the school theater) Like an idiot I told her to prove it. She had me empty my bag and i was made to promise to show tumblr.
We got school books and such. This is normal. Cool.
Headphones, phone charger, and portable phone charger. You know what? I am electronically prepared.
Emergency stuff. This is normal. These are normal things…
Well… I have an excessive amount of fidget/stim toys. Things to do… I use them when I need them and give them to any friends that are anxious or bothering me.
Sometimes people have food. I have food. Granted I’m usually feeding others my food. That is not helping my point, but food is normal for a backpack! Sorta…
OKAY. I’M NOT HAVING ANY OF MY FRIENDS GET PREGNANT OR GET SOMEONE PREGNANT OR NOT PRACTICE SAFE SEX. I’M IN HIGHSCHOOL. THIS HAPPENS.
And then… Okay, deodorant, toothbrush, toothpaste, band-aids, antibiotic ointment, chapstick, Excedrin, pads.(My First said kit is MIA) I am a male and I only carry the pads for my female friends who may need them… and most of the other stuff for others….
Am I really a mother duck?
Yes. Yes, I am.
Whatever you want to call it you’re a great human being
