okay, i have been trying to say this in a way that makes sense for ages, so here goes:
a lot of hatred of dresses, pink, stereotypically “feminine” stuff is based on internalized misogyny. and that’s definitely something we all need to look at within ourselves and address and work on.
but: a lot of hatred of dresses, pink, stereotypically “feminine” stuff is based on the fact that femininity is compulsory for people who are assigned female at birth.
like, this is a fact. this isn’t something i’m making up. femininity is compulsory. i have to wear dresses and makeup to be taken seriously when i go to job interviews, when i go to social occasions, when i present myself in any formal setting. when i don’t do that, people notice. they’re rude to me.
when i shop in the men’s section, store employees and customers glare at me! my relatives press feminine clothes on me during the holiday season because they think i should dress in a more feminine way! when i go to get my hair cut and ask for it to be cut in a certain style, the woman cutting my hair literally ignores that explicit instruction because it’s “too butch”. femininity is compulsory! i am not allowed to present my gender the way i would like to present my gender!
it’s not the fault of femininity that it’s being forced on me. and the patriarchy does devalue femininity. and the current rhetoric of “you can wear pink and skirts and still be a feminist and still be queer and it’s other people’s fault for not taking you seriously, not yours for dressing that way” is great.
but i’ve heard people say to me, “you can wear lipstick and dresses and still be a feminist” about a thousand times, and i have never, ever, ever heard someone say to me, “you can refuse to wear lipstick and dresses and you are no less of a woman than someone who does wear them.” i had to figure that out all on my own.
i’m allowed to be angry at the cis women who force me to present myself in a way that i don’t want to present myself. i am allowed to do that.
I will scream the bolded from the rooftops for you if you want. <3
What is America’s obsession with Bill Nye the Science Guy I once said in class that I had never seen it and this girl yelled YOU’VE NEVER WATCHED BILL NYE and in 5 seconds flat half the class was screaming HOW COULD YOU HAVE NEVER WATCHED BILL NYE while the other half chanted BILL BILL BILL BILL
America is starting to sound like a fucking cult tbh
Get a rat and put it in a cage and give it two water bottles. One is just water, and one is water laced with either heroin or cocaine. If you do that, the rat will almost always prefer the drugged water and almost always kill itself very quickly, right, within a couple of weeks. So there you go. It’s our theory of addiction.
Bruce comes along in the ’70s and said, “Well, hang on a minute. We’re putting the rat in an empty cage. It’s got nothing to do. Let’s try this a little bit differently.” So Bruce built Rat Park, and Rat Park is like heaven for rats. Everything your rat about town could want, it’s got in Rat Park. It’s got lovely food. It’s got sex. It’s got loads of other rats to be friends with. It’s got loads of colored balls. Everything your rat could want. And they’ve got both the water bottles. They’ve got the drugged water and the normal water. But here’s the fascinating thing. In Rat Park, they don’t like the drugged water. They hardly use any of it. None of them ever overdose. None of them ever use in a way that looks like compulsion or addiction. There’s a really interesting human example I’ll tell you about in a minute, but what Bruce says is that shows that both the right-wing and left-wing theories of addiction are wrong. So the right-wing theory is it’s a moral failing, you’re a hedonist, you party too hard. The left-wing theory is it takes you over, your brain is hijacked. Bruce says it’s not your morality, it’s not your brain; it’s your cage. Addiction is largely an adaptation to your environment.
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We’ve created a society where significant numbers of our fellow citizens cannot bear to be present in their lives without being drugged, right? We’ve created a hyperconsumerist, hyperindividualist, isolated world that is, for a lot of people, much more like that first cage than it is like the bonded, connected cages that we need.
The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of our society, is geared towards making us connect with things. If you are not a good consumer capitalist citizen, if you’re spending your time bonding with the people around you and not buying stuff—in fact, we are trained from a very young age to focus our hopes and our dreams and our ambitions on things we can buy and consume. And drug addiction is really a subset of that.
With the amount of “stop, drop, and roll” education I received growing up, I kinda thought catching on fire would be a more common problem as an adult.
people you send them to can be charged with possession of child pornography
you can be charged with distribution of child pornography
don’t take nudes
This is not about body shaming, this is not about ‘telling you what to do with your sexuality’ this is literally a federal crime don’t fuck with the law okay.
I hate people who encourage underage girls on this site to share their bodies. Please report it to tumblr support if you see this. It’s not about “dobbing” people in, it’s a legal issue and is harmful to minors.
Listen if I want to fucking send a nude to my boyfriend of over a year I fucking will I’m pretty god damn sure the government doesn’t have my phone tapped.
the government literally does have your phone tapped… and if you break up with your boyfriend he can ruin your life with those pictures… long story short don’t send underage nudes
SWIFTIES THIS IS NOT A DRILL TAYLOR IS CURRENTLY LOSING TO IGGY AZALEA BY 300K+ VOTES I REPEAT THIS IS NOT A DRILL PLEASE REBLOG THIS TO SPREAD THE WORD
Or by simply tweeting “I’m voting for @taylorswift13 for the #BBMAs Chart Achievement Award! You can vote here: http://bit.ly/BBMAsFanVote” (without the “ ”).
If you’re an international fan, use Holato bypass area restriction.
UPDATE: We are slowly catching up on the number of votes via tweets but Iggy is still on the lead. We can do this, keep voting!
Reblogging again bc IMPORTANT
COME ON GUYS WE CAN DO THIS
WHERE IS THE SWIFTIE POWER?! CMON GUYS GO GO GO
CMON GUYS
What the fuck? How is she not winning this is a travesty!
We can each vote ONE HUNDRED times per day. That’s the limit. Why do we slack so hard on fan voted categories????
As of 11:40 am central time, Taylor has 916,908 votes and Iggy has 1,040,235. WE CAN DO THIS.
one of my favorite things is that there is surprisingly little scientific literature about the common house cat, because it turns out cats are the least cooperative research animals on the planet. They don’t care what you want them to do. food? you know what, we’ve decided we’re not even hungry right now. what is this, a maze? we’re gonna sit right here and lick ourselves for the next forty-five minutes, what are you gonna do about it.
it’s like, “okay science, we’ve done about 4000 tests to determine the intelligence and emotional perspicacity of domestic dogs, let’s do cats next”
“well sir, we’ve conducted a full battery of all the standard tests”
Every time I’m reminded about how amazing Ginny is, by a friend or a post or a stray thought —
Like how great her talent must be at Quidditch for being able to play both Chaser and Seeker competitively and even beating other players who’ve been training as Seeker the whole term while she only filled in for Harry…
Or how she always, always, always defends those who cannot defend themselves — that girl from the battle, Luna, Neville, and even Harry…
Or how she must have been the loyal friend to Hermione when Harry and Ron were being idiot boys quarreling with her…
Or how she fought against the trauma of being possessed by Voldemort, and how she never lost her sense of humor in spite of everything that had happened, and how deeply she still cared for those around her…
Or how she always understood Harry on a level that needed no words and explanations…
I think to myself, “man, Harry must love her so much.” He would probably get moments where he would just stare at her and count himself lucky not only because she loves him, but also for the simple fact that she is there with him, she is in his world, she exists. He would just look at her and think, “Marry me,” and even after they were already married, he’d still get those moments. And he’ll always have those moments for the rest of his life because Ginny is his great love and that is beautiful because I could not wish anything less for him.
There’s a glitter war in my house. It started with me putting glitter in my sisters bed. She then threw the glitter on me, covering the couch with sparkles as well. At this point, it has escalated to a point where there’s glitter in the fridge, the freezer. You can’t eat food without chowing down on some. It’s in every room of the house, coating everything. My brother went to school with an outfit that could put David Bowie to shame. Today we had to have a family meeting, and I have never seen two people look so disappointed and so fabulous.
PETITION TO MAKE LEARNING ANOTHER LANGUAGE COMPULSORY IN ENGLISH-SPEAKING COUNTRIES FROM A YOUNG AGE BECAUSE ENGLISH SPEAKERS ARE LAZY ASSWIPES WHO EXPECT EVERYONE TO SPEAK ENGLISH AND NEVER BOTHER EVEN LEARNING ANY OTHER LANGUAGE.
Actually, most of us would love speak another language but our education system sucks so we literally learn 4 words. It’s not because we are all lazy.
AMEN TO THAT
AMEN GURL. How can you stereotype all English people as lazy you little worm
^^THIS. I took nine years of public school Spanish (VOLUNTARILY, I MIGHT ADD) and I can name you like six colors, five buildings, and a handful of emotions. Working hard to learn another language DOES NOT MAKE UP FOR SHITTY-ASS CLASSES.
So, there’s this girl. She’s tragically orphaned and richer than anyone on the planet. Every guy she meets falls in love with her, but in between torrid romances she rejects them all because she dedicated to what is Pure and Good. She has genius level intellect, Olympic-athelete level athletic ability and incredible good looks. She is consumed by terrible angst, but this only makes guys want her more. She has no superhuman abilities, yet she is more competent than her superhuman friends and defeats superhumans with ease. She has unshakably loyal friends and allies, despite the fact she treats them pretty badly. They fear and respect her, and defer to her orders. Everyone is obsessed with her, even her enemies are attracted to her. She can plan ahead for anything and she’s generally right with any conclusion she makes. People who defy her are inevitably wrong.
the thing you forget until you watch a show like supernatural is how damn impressive it is that leverage managed 77 episodes without ever having a character make a dumb choice just to advance the plot
Recovery tip: When someone says “You can call me any time”, take advantage of that. Actually call them when you’re having a bad day. That’s what they said they would be there for and it’s better than you having a relapse. A relapse can kill you; a friend could be yours for life.
I TELL THIS TO EVERYONE I CARE ABOUT AND NO ONE UTILIZES IT AND IT MAKES ME SO FRICKIN SAD
no one ever says that Rome needed help from aliens to build their empire
#l laughed for days when i found out that #ancient egyptians used water to reduce friction and move blocks for distances #and that this was literally DEPICTED ON THEIR HIEROGLYPHICS #but ~western archaeologists~ #thought that the pouring of water depicted ~superstitious rituals~ #jfc
As an archeology major, I can vouch for this being absolutely true:
Any time we see something we don’t understand, we mark it down as ritual purposes. It’s actually a catch-all euphemism for “We have absolutely no clue what these people were doing here yet so until we work it out we’ll pretend it was something to do with their religion.”
And yeah, sometimes it is a white people thing. When white people went into Canada the natives introduced them to the delights of maple syrup. The white people asked “Well, how did you ever work out this sap was edible and delicious.”
The native people responded, “Oh, well, Squirrel showed us.”
White people: Hahahaha They’re off on that totem animal spirit guide thing again.
It wasn’t until this century that scientists actually observed squirrels in that area cutting holes in sugar maples, waiting for the sap to crystallize, and eating it.
The native people were actually being literal and the white people thought they were being metaphorical. Sigh.
Reminder that Steve Rogers was born in 1920, and Bucky Barnes was born in 1917, which means that Steve was in his early twenties during the war, and Bucky was in his mid twenties. I know that they’re both portrayed by 30 year old men, but really? They probably looked more like these guys:
Don’t forget that Steve Rogers and Bucky Barnes had to grow up way too
fast, not only because of the war, but because they were teenagers in
the Great Depression, they were part of an extremely marginalized group during a time of extreme tension, and the whole dead parents thing. Don’t forget that Steve and Bucky probably never got
to do dumb teenager things because they both had to do whatever work
they could to stay afloat and then a WAR happened.
Think about all that pressure once Steve was “Captain America” and became a propaganda piece. Think about the atrocities of war that they’d have seen. Think about the fact that they both faced death. Think about the fact that Steve’s best friend died. THINK ABOUT HOW THESE KIDSARE NOW SUDDENLY 95+ YEARS OLD. Think about Bucky, waking up and technically being maybe 27 and having to reconcile all the things HYDRA made him do as the Winter Soldier.
Peggy Carter was born in 1919. She is only a year older than Steve. She’s still in her twenties during Agent Carter, y’all. Let that sink in for a moment. She’s still in her twenties.
That flashback scene in The Winter Soldier with the “I’m with ya till the end of the line”? They were teenagers then. TEENAGERS.
REMINDER THAT THE MAIN CHARACTERS OF CAPTAIN AMERICA: THE FIRST AVENGERS WERE ALL CHILDREN.
THIS IS NOT EVEN IN THE FOOTNOTES ON THE LIST OF THINGS THAT ARE OKAY
“Kids love black holes the way they love T-Rex. And I think it’s because each of these entities can eat you. And anything that eats you, you give your highest respect.”—
Neil deGrasse Tyson, The Inexplicable Universe: Unsolved Mysteries (via
u know what women need to stop being embarrassed about their periods
need a tampon? ask your friend for one, even if there are boys around
replacing a pad? don’t bother hiding it on the way to the bathroom
u have cramps?? dont be afraid to tell your male teacher that you need to go to the nurse for a pain killer
you don’t have to apologize for talking about your period in front of men, if they’re uncomfortable they can go away but I have a feeling they’ll survive lol
can we just please stop making what almost every single woman goes through every single month as a way of ensuring the human race doesn’t go extinct into something taboo
That’s one thing I cannot stand. Gay people will refer to the LGBT community as the gay community, refer to LGBT rights as gay rights, refer to same gender marriage as gay marriage, but when a bi/pansexual person wants to call themselves gay all of a sudden using the word as an umbrella term becomes a major problem.
