Yup. This is why you should look askance at anything that claims it will “boost your immune system”. ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL ME, NICE HEALTH FOOD STORE LADY?!
Ever since gay marriage became legal in Spain in 2005, thousands of
lesbian couples have tied the knot. But this law has an interesting
precedent; Marcela and Elisa were married in 1901. In a church wedding!
Wedding photo of Marcela (left) and Elisa, dressed as a man.
Of course, same-sex marriage was not legal in Spain at the time, so the
two school teachers had to come up with a delicate scheme. One day,
Elisa and Marcela simulated a fight in the house they shared in the tiny
village of Dumbría, and Elisa moved to A Coruña.
While there, Elisa cut her hair, started wearing men’s clothes, and took
up smoking. She found a priest desperate to gain parishioners, and he
baptized her as a man. She adopted the name ‘Mario’ and returned to
Dumbría. Marcela then introduced Elisa to her family and neighbors as
‘Mario’, Elisa’s cousin, and said they were going to get married.
Indeed, people were amazed at how much this ‘Mario’ looked like Elisa;
same height, same voice, same mannerisms and temper.
The wedding was held on the 8th of June, 1901, in the Church of St. Jorge in A Coruña.
After the ceremony, the happy couple was photographed at José Sellier’s
studio. The next day, the newlyweds returned to Dumbría in a horse
carriage.
Eventually, Marcela and ‘Mario’ were outed by their
suspecting neighbors to local authorities. A huge scandal broke out, with both national and international newspapers writing about the ‘disgraceful’ marriage which did not include a man. Both women were fired from their jobs,
excommunicated, and an arrest warrant was issued for both of them. The couple fled to many Spanish cities, until finally boarding a ship to the
Americas, presumably to Argentina.
It should be noted that
Marcela and Elisa’s wedding is still valid to this day, since it was
never annulled by neither The Catholic Church nor the Civil Registry. Therefore,
Marcela and Elisa’s union is the first officially registered same-sex marriage in Spain, 104 years before it became legal for Spanish lesbian couples to marry.
You know what I love? Redemptive story arcs. I love characters who fuck up. Who know they’ve fucked up, and it’s not because of something they couldn’t control or didn’t know - it’s because of their own choices. And I love it when they are brave enough to stand up and say “I was wrong”, and then they spend forever trying to undo what they did. To me that’s more important than heroes who never screw up, because I’m not perfect, so when I screw up and need the courage to admit it, I need people to look to who did the same thing.
Leia finds out that neither Finn nor Rey know who their families are, and she refuses to let them be in a room alone together until they can both produce family trees that go back three generations.
“Never again, Chewie” Leia tells him as they watch BB-8 aggressively roll between them every time they try to get within arm’s reach. “
I know it’s unlikely, but never again.”
Okay, so I might get a lot of hate for this, I might not. I don’t particularly care either way, as long as word gets out about this, because it’s extremely important to me.
As I’m sure most people know by now, bees are disappearing at alarming rates. Simply put, our entire species could not survive without them. This is due to a syndrome called Colony Collapse Disorder (CCD).
On the other hand, beekeepers are essential to increasing bee populations. They monitor the bees’ health and help protect them from dangerous parasites and pesticides that are suspected to cause CCD. In addition, well-kept bees never need to use the amount of honey they produce; Honey is made by the bees to consume only when there is not enough food for them outside the hive. In the care of a good beekeeper, this will only happen during the winter months, and the keeper will leave enough honey for the bees to thrive until it’s spring again.
It’s best to buy local, organic honey if at all possible. Local beekeepers will not use dangerous factory-farming methods, and it helps maintain your local bee population! If you want to help bees in a more active way than buying local honey, you can plant a bee garden or even become a small-scale beekeeper! (I don’t have a link for this, it’s best to check out local resources. Maybe even ask the person selling honey at your farmer’s market!)
Re-blogging because this is important to note!
I’m actively trying to switch my sugar usage (in coffee, tea etc) to local honey, because even if it’s more expensive I want to do my part (and it being more expensive means I use less in each cup, which is good for me too)
For anyone who has ever stained their underwear with period blood…..put your stained underwear in a mixture of ¾ ice cold water and top it with a ¼ of peroxide……mix it…….give it about an hour or two……let it dry……and ya got brand new, blood-free underwear
Reblog to save your favorite pair of underwear (and a life)
my sexuality is that shot in the opening of xena: warrior princess of lucy lawless turning toward the light with wind flowing through her hair, looking more beautiful than any human being has a right to look
like what the fuck!!!!!!!!!
i knew exactly the moment you were describing in an instant but thank u for providing a pic anyway bc……. what radiance!? what splendour.
and the picture doesn’t even do it justice like……….. it doesn’t capture the movement, the way she turns, her face before she smiles, the music playing in the background……. lucy lawless is a gift
you know why it’s so critically important to celebrate women over the age of 40?
because young women and girls need role models. need someone to aspire to become as they age.
as it is, society basically tells girls and young women: aspire to be 18-22. do not aspire or imagine past that, for you are useless without youth and beauty. do not aspire to be wise, or strong, beautiful without youth, or valuable with lines and wrinkles. and THAT is scary. we put a cap on aspirations for girls, because we want them to think the ideal comes and goes by 20–when really, we’re at our best for many, many years beyond.
Not to make a post about real life into a post about scifi, but this was the biggest thing that struck me about Leia in The Force Awakens. I can’t think of another time when I’ve gotten to see a teenage girl character grow up like that. Getting to see that Leia Organa grew up to continue to be shrewd and emotional and a respected leader who was still vital to her cause was incredible.
things I’ve learned to say to boys:
-you’re not funny
-don’t talk to me like I’m dumb
-I probably know more about this than you do
-don’t fucking talk about her like that
-I’m not comfortable with this
-I don’t owe you anything
-you just repeated exactly what I said
-no
It’s 2015. If doctors don’t know how to operate on fat bodies. Then they shouldn’t be doctors. We have enough resources an equipment to deal with “obese” patients. There is no need for the medical community to continue fat shaming.
Let’s talk a little bit more in depth about how obesity affects surgical procedures.
In most serious, intensive surgeries, you’re probably going to be under anesthesia, right? And you’re probably going to have medications to take afterwards. Stuff like this filtered through the kidneys and liver.
Obese patients have much higher rates of renal hypertension, which affects the kidneys, and morbidly obese patients have a 90% likelihood of having abnormalities in their liver.
That all adds up to a really bad time, and drugs being filtered out of the system quicker and therefore not working as intended. And you really want your anesthesia to work right when people are cutting into you.
In addition to this, some weight-based drugs are affected by fatty tissue, and some are not, so this can cause problems in determining the proper dosage.
Obese patients are at a higher risk for deep-vein thrombosis – this is when a blood clot forms in a deep vein, like in the leg. Surgery is recognized as a risk factor for DVT, and so obese patients undergoing surgery are doubly at risk.
Finding veins in the patient is also made difficult – it’s the difference between finding the edge piece in a 1000 piece puzzle, vs finding it in a 100 piece puzzle.
It’s harder to monitor blood pressure in obese patients as well, as standard cuffs may not work due to there being too much fatty tissue between the blood vessel and the cuff.
When you’re performing surgery, you have to pull back the flesh and muscle to get to where you’re trying to operate on – the more you have to pull back, the more difficult this becomes.
This image shows how much more you’re having to work through when doing an operation on an obese person:
So no, it’s not a matter of doctors being bad at their job. Surgery by itself is a difficult and risk-laden process – adding obesity on top of that adds an uneccessary layer of additional risk and complexity.
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This is very true. When I had open heart surgery, there were various complications as well as problems with the anesthesia because of how fat I was. Thanks be to God my surgeon was top notch. But the fact of the matter is that if I was a thinner patient, the surgery would have been far less traumatic. In fact, if I had not put on so much weight, my aortic valve would have lasted me longer. So, yeah, biological and scientific realities are at stake when you carry too much weight.
I have seen some communities on tumblr try to push a “body positive” self esteem agenda by dismissing health risks of obesity as fat bias.
Yes. You can be beautiful no matter what your body looks like.
No. You cannot always be healthy regardless of what your body looks like, and while self confidence is important, taking care of yourself and addressing health problems-including being overweight- is important.
Thanks for someone being honest and real about the risks of obesity and the medical field
Im glad this didnt explode and now ive learned a little more about health risks and obesity. Thank you tumblr
is that it can be really dangerous. The idea that only you know yourself and your symptoms best is shlock. You don’t. And you most definitely should be aware that your sense of self is even further compromised by illness.
I diagnosed myself with depression last year. I knew what it was, my sister had depression and she was getting better with medication. I had all the symptoms and I fit in with every checklist and I’d suffered depression off and on for years.
Desperate and armed with my internet searches I went to my doctor and demanded relief. I wanted drugs and help and NOW. My life was a wreck, I was a wreck and I couldn’t do it anymore. I wouldn’t take no for an answer. Unfortunately (as it would turn out) my doctor trusted me and gave me what I wanted, anti-depressants and a referral to speak to someone about my mental health.
I walked out prescription in hand, relieved for the first time in months that things were going to get better. And they did! But only briefly.
Because I got my diagnosis wrong.
Or I guess you could say 50% wrong. I had diagnosed myself with Major Depressive Disorder and yes, I was most definitely depressed BUT what I actually had was Bipolar Disorder. Type 2 specifically.
Now, what’s something that a person with bipolar disorder should never ever do without supervision and a mood stabilizer? Take antidepressants.
What followed was the mood rollercoaster from hell. I had moved to a new city and separated from my doctor continued my medication in the hopes enough of it would work. It put me into a mood episode called a mixed state. I constantly angry, agitated, crawling out of my skin. Things were so awful I began to question if the world was even real. How could a place this painful even exist?
I felt a constant, desperate, clawing need for…what? Something. I couldn’t identify it. A saviour maybe? And I did find one in the end. Death, I thought, would be my saviour.
If this is all sounding a bit dramatic it’s because I’m trying to illustrate a point. 2 months after misdiagnosing myself and starting anti-depressants I tried to commit suicide. Off we went to the hospital where an overworked but well-meaning emergency psych handed me another prescription for anti-depressants. I left the hospital, filled the prescription and was right back on the mood rollercoaster. 2 weeks later I tried to kill myself again. This time when I got to the hospital they told me I couldn’t leave.
Being locked up for a month wasn’t fun, but it was probably one of the better things that happened to me. It was the first time someone really asked me questions instead of taking me at my word. My diagnosis changed and I still need medication but now I have the right kind.
What annoys me most about this is that I LOOKED at Bipolar II as a diagnosis. I looked right at it and said nah. That’s not it. I wasn’t able to objectively evaluate my moods. I see the cycles of hypomania and depression now but at the time I just thought that was me. I’m creative! Of COURSE I work a ton sometimes and can’t bear living other times! Some of the blame here lies with my doctor and some with me. I should have said I have all these symptoms can we figure out what is going on?
Anyway, that was 8 months ago. Things didn’t get 100% better right away and they still aren’t 100% better now. I still question my diagnosis and I have once or twice ditched my meds only to be quickly reminded why I need them when my mood starts kicking my ass.
To be clear: self advocacy is FINE. That’s not the issue. Advocating for yourself is how you open a conversation. (And of course ditch your doc if they’re dismissive of opening a dialogue.)
The real issue is this idea that’s taking hold that doctors need to trust their patients because only their patients know themselves best. It’s dangerous when patients believe this and it’s especially dangerous when doctors believe it. Don’t diagnose yourself. Yeah, you might get it right, but if you don’t? It’s fucking russian roulette.
My doctor trusted me and I trusted me and it was almost fatal.
For all there is to hate about Trump, I’m much more scared of a President Cruz than a President Trump.
Why? Just curious.
Bottom line is that Trump wants attention. Cruz wants power. Trump is an entertainer. Cruz is a master politician who believes petulance is a political ideology. Of every Republican in the field, Cruz is most steadfast in his ultra-conservative beliefs and will never bend or meet for compromise.
Trump craves attention and will always put himself above policies. Cruz is incredibly methodical and is always playing the long game to accomplish his policy goals. Yes, Trump is far more likely to accidentally set off an international incident, but Cruz in power will strangle this country and bring it to its knees before he allows it to become something he doesn’t agree with.
I cannot stress how evangelical Ted Cruz is. If he wins this election, it will be on the backs of the religious right.
He wants constitutional amendment to make SCOTUS judges have retention elections so he can boot off justices like Kennedy who become more liberal over time.
He’s willing to shut down the federal government instead of allowing any funding of Planned Parenthood.
He wants to ban birth control including IUD and morning after pill
He did actually shutdown the federal government because he doesn’t like Obamacare.
The next president will probably nominate 4 justices to the Supreme Court. (1 Conservative, 2 Liberals, 1 Swing) Cruz will not consider any nominees who have a hint of moderate in them. This could easily lead to a 7-2 Supreme Court decision outlawing abortion, ending Obamacare, or abolishing affirmative action or civil rights protections.
The reason Trump will never scare me as much as Cruz is that Ted Cruz is brilliant, he is a true political organizer and mastermind. He’s skillfuly united faith circles all over the US and will ride a wave all the way into South Carolina.
And just to prove my point. Look at the Tea Party. It’s a tiny segment of American politics, but the power it carries is because of Ted Fucking Cruz. When met with something he didn’t like, he SHUT DOWN THE GOVERNMENT as a freshman Senator! A FRESHMAN! Imagine him with real executive power.
no shade but what’s the point of spending thousands and thousands of dollars to go to college if you’re just gonna ditch every other class like just save your money and stay home my dude
This. Like I have a friend who’s financial aid covers her tuition, enough to the point where she actually gets a lot of money back, and it even covers her textbooks. And then she’s skipping every day and failing classes. I mean she is literally getting a free college education, at a state university, something many kids would kill for.
that literally made me cringe reading it i’m so upset
When you hear a new song on the radio and you’re desperately trying to pick a notable phrase so you can google it later
Gather round, kids. Let me tell you a story from ye olden days because I am tumblr elderly. I used to DJ for a radio station. I played records and CDs and we had station IDs from bands on 8 track cartes. People would call me asking what songs were–but they had to mumble, sing, or play the song on an instrument. I had someone call me to ask what Smells Like Teen Spirit was when it was a single. They played it on an accordion. I forgot about it until a moment ago when I saw this post.
You know what I want to see more of in sci fi? Aliens who deviate from their species’ “norm.”
Like, queer aliens, but queer in alien terms; like, aliens whose typical family unit is a trio comprised of three different gendersexes, but sometimes aliens will form trios that only have two different gendersexes, and they still produce viable offspring, but only of the two parent gendersexes, and that carries a social stigma because each gendersex is supposed to play a separate role in the family unit.
Aliens for whom it is the norm to change gendersex upon reaching a certain age, but sometimes (possibly due to a genetic anomaly) it doesn’t happen, so those aliens either a) continue to present as a juvenile gender despite being a stage 2 adult, b) present as a stage 2 adult despite their physical characteristics, or c) undergo medical procedures to change their body artificially, though the technology in that area is still imperfect.
Or disabled aliens who have prosthetic tails/fins/wings/tentacles/etc. Aquatic aliens who can’t hold their breath for an accepted amount of time and so have to carry around atmosphere tanks. Aliens with degenerative conditions that are slowly losing their infrared vision. Aliens who lack their species trademark color-changing camouflage skin. Aliens who are allergic to common foods on their own planets and are frustrated that interplanetary restaurants don’t take that into account when listing which menu items are “safe” for which species.
Neurodivergent aliens who are not connected to the hivemind, who do their best to blend in and guess what they are supposed to be doing, but who are cast out when they are discovered, only to have their numbers build up enough that they are able to build a society on their own using communication aids such as verbal or manual language.
Aliens who are just different in small ways, like generally all three eyes are different colors, except that rare genetic quirks sometimes cause two or even all three to be the same color. Aliens born with five fingers instead of four. Aliens who are more coordinated with their prehensile toes than with their hands, which is inconvenient when most products are designed to be used with hands, but they manage. Aliens born with vestigial wings instead of just residual bone nubs. Aliens born without horns or tusks or spines.
and okay, so I’m basically arguing for more diverse representation of aliens, but like, if our default mode of thinking is to assume that all members of a species are a certain way, then what does that say about how we view our own species? that only ones who follow certain norms qualify as “human”?
or whatever maybe i just think that thinking about this sort of stuff is cool.
i just want to say to fic readers that big long rambly comments on fics, where you say the things you loved about it and sometimes get capslocky and squeal and use exclamation points and quote parts and praise the smut or the characterizations or the world building or the chemistry or all of the above, comments like that are fucking incredible and every fic author loves you, thank you
PSA if you send me nice messages and i don’t respond
there is a 100% chance i saw it and it made me super duper uber happy but i have no idea how to respond and i will let it sit in my inbox for days or weeks and smile when i see it but still have no idea how to respond
there is a 0% chance that you annoyed me and i don’t like you.
the only way a han/leia Empire Strikes Back romance plot for finn/poe could work is if one of them is completely oblivious about whats going on (i’d like to think it’s poe) like “come on admit it. you want me to stay because you have feelings for me” “of COURSE i have feelings for you! you’re my best buddy in the whole galaxy” “THATS NOT WHAT I MEANT AND YOU KNOW IT” classic poe
Nah, I think Poe is fully aware of his feelings for Finn what with the whole jacket giving, lip biting thing.
If anyone is oblivious it’s Finn.
“Finn, I love you.”
“I love you too! I’ve never had a best friend before!”
*Rey facepalms in the background and Poe starts to cry because he doesn’t know how to make it any more obvious.*
so you know the rule in fairylands where you cant eat or drink anything or you’ll have to stay there forever? does like.. .eating out/sucking dick count
holy f uck jane
its a serious question
well like, the whole thing is that you cannot have consumed anything belonging to the fey realm. so, yes, probably, you would be stuck there. the same would apply if you just straight up ate a fairy.
new question: would deepthroating count in this case even w/o swallowing
no. temporary doesn’t count, otherwise fairies would all be running about sticking their hands in your mouth to get human servants.
you gotta digest it.
so like??? if you puke afterwards?? maybe it doesn’t count?
huh! i wonder how long is enough time for it to be legit. like whatever goes through your stomach immediately condemns you no matter if you throw it up later?
Well Persephone only ate 6 seeds so she only stayed 6 months, so maybe if you spat out most of it you’d just be condemned to the occasional day “BRB got go pay the two day toll for fellating a fairy.”
“you wanna come over for the weekend?”
“oh man im so sorry i sucked some fairy dick once and now i have to keep coming back to do it again– its a long story”
“you what now”
i can hardly believe this isn’t already the plot of an Oglaf comic
Dads who refuse to do anything that is traditionally considered “feminine” with their daughters are lame dads. I’ve been in the store and overheard a dad tell his little girl who might have been 12 to go by herself to go get pads after she asked him to go with her. “Go get them yourself.” and he looked mortified she even asked him to go. Like dude she clearly looks like she needs help. Take her to the god damn tampon/pad section and help her and if you don’t know what she needs go ask some one in their pharmacy to point out a good choice for you. Tampons and pads are part of pharmacy so chances are they will be able to help. Fuck all that. Help your daughters! They ask you to paint their nails, do it. It might turn out messy but so what? They ask you to have a tea party, do it. Sure the tea might be imaginary or just water and served out of tiny pink cups but get over it.
This. Also, don’t be afraid to teach your daughters “manly” things. You’re building something and she asks what you’re doing? Tell her. Teach her how to use that drill and do it right. Going hunting and she wants to come? Bring her along. She likes auto shop? Take her out to the garage. Even if she doesn’t, teach her how to do a basic oil change, how to change a tire. Teach her how to do things for herself and that she is fully capable of doing it. Don’t divide your kids into gender roles, see them as people.
“gentle reminder that cleopatra’s beauty is rumored to have started wars in ancient history” — a post going around Tumblr
Actually Cleopatra was said to have not actually been that beautiful — men said that until she opened her mouth, she was simply average. What made her beautiful according to Plutarch was her personality and intelligence. Her sparkling wit, charming personality, talent with over half a dozen languages, and in-depth knowledge of almost everything was just so impressive that she often became beautiful in their eyes.
So while that post is nice in that it’s trying to say that women are becoming more beautiful and that if you lived in 30 B.C., you could have started wars, I like this version much better.
You may not be traditionally beautiful, but goddamn neither was Cleopatra and she seduced two of the most powerful men in the world.
An open letter to executive producers, writers, and cast in the age of Twitter, tumblr, AO3, Instagram, Youtube, whatever social media platforms come next, and global audiences.
Congratulations! If you’re reading this its highly doubtful you’re in any way involved in mass media production but I’m fucking sick of shitty audience engagement by multi-billion dollar media companies and anyway this was better than working on my dissertation you’ve probably got a successful show!
That’s fantastic! Your work is being viewed by millions of people! Pat yourself on the back! But wait! Oh dear. There’s a hiccup. Suddenly you notice tweets and messages and questions at SDCC about your characters - your beloved, money-making, copyrighted intellectual property - being…gay??
You didn’t intend this, your protagonist and antagonist and supporting characters and background characters are 100% heterosexual!! What ever will you do?!
Fear not, my hypothetical content creator! I’m about to break down some key do’s and don’ts for when you find yourself suddenly in possession of a queer fandom. I will categorize my advice in three simple levels to help you best choose which type of engagement with your fandom is right for you, your show, and your network: Beginner, Intermediate, and Advanced. Please note: this is not an exhaustive post. I can’t literally write the book for you on how media producers can engage their diverse, 21st century audiences (well, lol I could but you’re not paying me so suck it) and fandoms - like any subculture - vary greatly in demographics, linguistic quirks, norms, and culture. That means there is no ‘one size fits all’ strategy for dealing with your most passionate fans. Theoretically, you have marketing people who earn a paycheck. Make them work for it by doing some actual research instead of just changing the fonts on the SDCC posters.
Ready? No? Well too fucking bad because here we go.
Actually, no, I’m sorry, hold up. We need to lay some groundwork first. Let’s call these our a priori assumptions about fandom in general but queer fandom in particular.
Assumption 1: Your queer fandom is not going anywhere. You’re fucking stuck with us. You will not get rid of us. Better bigger assholes than you show runners, executive producers, marketing teams, writers’ rooms, and casts have tried. We’re still here. We still show up at all the conventions. We still produce fanfiction, art, videos, meta. We still spend ungodly amounts of money, time, and energy engaging with the media you have created. Even sometimes especially when we are angry at it. We are here to stay.
