Just a friendly reminder that the brain of those who have suffered trauma is physically different than a “normal brain”. Trauma and abuse has a severe, long-term psychological and neurological effect. This is why you have difficulty concentrating, why you have trouble sleeping, why you can’t seem to stay focused, why you cry at the drop of the hat, why you’re not satisfied with yourself, why you think everything is your fault, why you think you’re toxic, why you’re full of regret and you don’t know why.
And get this. When you experienced this trauma, no matter how long it happened or how many times, your brain instantaneously made judgments about the world, your sense of self, and others. This is why you’re paranoid. Why you trust no one. Why you perceive things to exist that aren’t true in reality. It’s why people say you’re crazy, over-dramatic, or too emotional.
You may not heal in a day, but know this: it is not your fault. Your brain is responding to trauma.
this is also why you may have memory problems - undergoing severe trauma or prolonged periods of stress can cause the amygdala in your brain to change shape, thus causing damage to long-term memory and troubles with making and maintaining short-term.
A little tip for parents with children in school (or for children in school to show their parents)
My mom gave me and my sister two days every semester that she called “mental health days.”
Those were days, that for ANY reason, and without having to tell my mom the reason, we could skip the day of school. We’d just tell her we were taking a mental health day and she’d call the school and let them know we were not coming in.
#1 This helped keep our grades up by lowering our stress levels. I never got a C in any grade school class. The majority of my classes I received A’s. I also took 4 AP classes and they were not weighted. Trust me, it made a difference.
#2 I never felt the need to skip school. I knew if I ever wanted to or needed to my mom would help me.
Your kids are young and need time to recover. They need some days where they can do nothing but stay in bed for no reason. They need their own space where their privacy is respected. It will make a huge difference.
Will do this when I have kids
I would like to add something to this for the teachers too! (I may have already told this story on tumblr but OH WELL I’m telling it again)
One of my math teachers in high school had a policy called The Red Beanbags of Don’t Bother Me. He kept a pile of red beanbags on his desk, and at any time of the day you could go over and take one. From that point on, as long as you were in his classroom with a beanbag on your desk, no one could bother you. He wouldn’t call on you to answer problems, no students were allowed to talk to you, and perhaps most importantly, no one could ask why you took a bean bag that day. The only caveat was that if you used the beanbag more than three times in a semester you had to go talk to the school counselor about it.
I only used the beanbag a handful of times during those 4 years, but it was a godsend when I needed it. I knew people who would camp in his classroom during lunch (or even skip class and stay there all day) under the protection of the beanbag. As a teacher there’s not always a lot you can do for a student suffering mental illness/emotional abuse/ other struggles, but giving them some space and privacy in your class can make a HUGE difference.
SO INSTEAD OF TELLING YOU WHO TO VOTE FOR, I’M GOING TO TELL YOU HOW TO VOTE BECAUSE NOBODY EVER SEEMS TO DO THAT.
Remember that the 2016 presidential election does not just take place in 2016. The primaries are just as important because they decide who gets to run for president in the national election in November.
to give you an idea on not only how hot it is in the uk, but also just how heat-intolerant we are as a country, i went upstairs to close my blind and stop the sun coming into my room and i started to get dizzy after a few minutes. i didnt sleep last night because of the weather.
is not just that its hot, its that we as a country are built for rain and sleet and hail and howling gales. we dont need AC because its pointless and a waste of space and money if the average temperature is barely above 20 degrees. we live in boxes of insulation. our foods are heavy and hearty and warm for getting us through the cold. we live in almost constant cloud cover so we’re not used to the sun.
my mother and i are constantly panicking over my 9 week old baby sister because she could very easily overheat and die.
heatwaves in the uk are not a fucking joke.
This morning I got out of bed, stood up, and it was so hot I got dizzy, my vision went black and I fell over.
All of our windows are open, there is nothing for us to do. I am lying naked on the bathroom floor because that is the coolest place.
As someone who has lived with the unbearable combo of humidity + no AC (Louisiana after a hurricane is fucking awful) cold wash cloths are your best friend. Put some in the fridge and switch them out putting them on the back of your neck, wear as few clothes as possible, NEVER take a hot shower, avoid stimulants like caffeine, nicotine, and any medication that is not necessary because they can not only raise your temp but most of them make you pee more and will dehydrate you faster. Any type of electric fan, literally anything that gets the air moving is your friend, make sure babies get a cool wipe down often and left in only diapers as often as possible, also pedialite or a knock off of it (it’s like Gatorade for babies without all the sugars and helps keep them hydrated when they’re sick). Fuck capsaicin just don’t touch it I know curry is delicious but DO NOT FUCK WITH SPICY FOODS your systems probably aren’t adapted to handle that plus the weather. Keep your pets well watered and calm. Seriously guys any questions feel free to ask because Louisiana has humidity equivalent to a rainforest in our driest months and I will gladly help keep y'all safe.
^hero.
Also don’t forget that you can put plastic water bottles in the freezer overnight! Fill them about 4/5 to the top (ice takes up more space than water, so if you overfill the bottle will burst) and when you take them out the next morning you will have a bottle-sized ice cube which will melt easily in the heat. The water inside will stay cold because 1. hello, bottle-sized ice cube and 2. it’s literally only just melted. This method works way better than regular sized ice cubes because the water starts out cold.
That said, guys, don’t drink only water. It’s true that caffeine etc will dehydrate you faster, but when you sweat you lose salts and minerals that your body needs and if you only drink water then you won’t replace them. Drink mostly water but be sure to have at least 500ml of something else - orange juice and Sprite work well. And enjoy some guilt-free crisps. Right now, you need that extra salt.
Regarding sleeping, I know a lot of people can’t sleep with wet hair but if you are one of the lucky few, and especially if your hair is long or thick enough that it takes a while to dry even in this weather, try it. It’ll keep your body temperature down, and it beats sleeping in wet pyjamas.
Get a metal bucket or bowl, fill it with ice & set it in front of a fan = cheap A/C.
Regarding babies, playtime in a cool bathtub works great & they love splashing around. :) Make sure wherever they sleep is kept DARK DARK DARK & have a fan blowing NEAR but not ON them. You can totally use the bucket trick in their room, too.
Get as low as you can, too. Sleep on the floor of the lowest level of your house. That’s where it will be coolest. Heat rises, so don’t even try to go upstairs. :P
If you have a basement, move everyone there until the heat wave breaks.
We have window unit A/Cs in America (Idk about overseas) & a small one can be as cheap as $50. Even if it only cools one room, you can keep that room closed off & use it as a cooling station/makeshift bedroom.
I’m going to keep saying this on every post because it’s not being mentioned:
IF YOU HAVE PETS MAKE SURE THEY HAVE PLENTY OF SHADE AND WATER. Make sure their water is out of the sun. IF you can bring them inside. If not shade and water.
You can also directly add salt to your water (like a pinch) and do that to like every third cup of water you drink and that will help keep your salt up.
If you have a spray water bottle that will help too.
Also not only washcloths but bandannas can be wet and kept cold (or frozen). Put them where your skin is the thinnest (back of neck, wrists, ankles, etc) and it will help keep you cool.
If you have to wear a hat for some reason, soak the hat in water first (especially if you’re outside with it). If you can not only soak in water but put in fridge to keep it cool before you have to wear it.
If you start feeling dizzy, SIT DOWN and drink water.
I don’t know about UK aquariums but I know here in So Cal (where we are a hot and dry desert) our aquariums though slightly pricey are moderately cool because the water creatures need to not be boiling. So that’s an idea.
Also, so much yes to the bucket of ice in front of a fan. I do that occasionally in my bedroom (because it’s aluminium and isn’t able to be hooked up to my house’s a/c).
If you don’t like being naked (which is honestly the best thing for you when it gets really hot to keep cool) wear the minimum amount of clothes possible and the lightest clothes possible.
And I know some of you with pets want to cuddle them. Your pet’s body temperature runs hotter than yours. I’d very much advise NOT cuddling them to keep cool.
Blackout curtains (if you can find them) work wonders at keeping places a little cooler. Or aluminium foil on your windows to help reflect the sunlight away from your windows.
The frozen water bottle thing? You can do that for your pets too as something they can lick to help cool off. Or you can put ice cubes/chips into a bowl for them to either eat or lick and wait to melt so they can drink the leftover water.
Good luck to UK people and please stay cool.
I don’t know how blasphemous this is, but you might start googling some sweet/iced tea recipes to cool off. The reason why it’s such a big thing in the American south is because it gets so ludicrously hot and humid here.
When our AC was busted, one fast cooldown tactic we’d use before bed, when it was often too hot to get comfortable, was to run our wrists under a cold tap for 30 seconds each. This cools the area and blood flows from there to the rest of the body.
since the accident at the parade Nomi hates going to hospitals, so whenever she has to go, will, sun and wolfgang tag along, bc if anyone even tries to talk to her w/out her consent they will fuck shit up
as soon as kala learns about capheus’ mom, she starts sending him medicine every month, bc they are cheaper for her bc of her job, he insists on paying her back, and she says that it’s not necessary bc she just wants to help him
whenever one of them need to take a plane, they always call capheus, bc no matter how many times he has been on a plane, he always loves it so much
when sun is lonely she will call capheus, sometimes they watch movies, sometimes he will take her to his favorite places on town, and sometimes she’ll just tag along when he’s driving, bc his positive vibe is always good for her
lito teases will about that time they had sex every single time they see each other
kala shows capheus all her favorite bollywood movies (he loves them all)
kala teaches sun how to dance since she is so good at martial arts
riley makes them cheesy playlists when she’s bored (each sensate already has about 15)
wolfgang teaches lito how to punch things bc “its not that hard man u cant just fake punch people forever”
now that’s what i call ineffective tumblr discourse! featuring such hits as “why aren’t you talking about this thing you didn’t know about”, “this 3-hour-old post has 20k notes instead of 100k clearly you’re all willfully ignoring it”, “if you don’t reblog this you’re a bad person”, & more manipulative bullshit that only exists to make the person saying it feel holier than thou!
Girls, if something about a guy scares you or makes you uncomfortable, get away from him as fast as possible. Listen to your instincts. Don’t make excuses. Just run.
Because like a thousand people have felt the need to add comments like “Boys, if a girl scares you” or “People, if a person scares you” and “this goes for everyone” and “this shouldn’t be gender specified” I am going to make it very clear that this post is for girls.
THIS POST IS FOR GIRLS.
Why? Because girls are socialized to not be rude, not ‘be a bitch’, to not hurt a man’s feelings, and that they’re being silly and overreacting if something they can’t explain makes them afraid. Because girls are preyed on by men who use every one of these things to their advantage, who lure girls into their control and molest them, rape them, beat them, and kill them. Because it happens every fucking day and girls need to know that if something feels wrong, they need to get the fuck away from that man.
You don’t like that this post is gendered? I don’t like that girls are abused and date raped and murdered every fucking day and they are STILL pressured to “give him a chance” when a man makes them uncomfortable. So get off your pretentious fucking high horse and support girls instead of telling me “this goes for everyone”.
4th of July is the Independence Day of the United States of America. Pretty big holiday. You probably already notice this. Let me make something clear.
I don’t want to hear shit about how terrible America is from 12:00 AM July 4th 2015 — 11:59 PM July 4th 2015. NOTHING. Period.
As a multiracial (but mostly Black/Seminole/Polish) gay man with Jewish heritage, I am quite informed about the conditions of my country, and I don’t need a fucking reminder on most days, but especially not this day. You can save your “Just a reminder that this country was built on the slave trade (:” posts and anything to do with Christopher Columbus’s fuckass or how awful Jefferson and Washington really were. Seriously. I don’t want to see it.
I spend 364 days a year critiquing my own country and fighting for positive change, give me my one day to eat some goddamn apple pie and light things on fire.
I am super anti-American but fuck that on july 4th I am so pro-American like i’ll shove a firework up my ass and sing yankee doodle dandy
Headcanon that McGonagall is offended on a personal level that Umbridge loves cats.
This literally got 600 more notes just while I was at dinner what the fuck
How has nobody thought about this before tbh
Ok but imagine McGonagall in cat form prowling around the castle, in strategically chosen places so that Umbridge will come across her.
Umbridge takes the cat back to her office and feeds it a little saucer of milk. The cat starts coming back to Umbridge’s office around the same time every night, until eventually Umbridge gets into a little routine of setting out a saucer of milk for the cat before bed.
McGonagall now has all the best secrets on Umbridge, all of the results of the evaluations, and most importantly, is in a perfect position to spy on the ministry for the Order of the Phoenix.
I would honestly prefer reading about the stupid paranormal romance where the weird non-human boyfriend can’t work out the DVD player over Brooding Manipulative and Controlling asshole trope
[screaming at the DVD player] IM 800 YEARS OLD CUT ME SOME SLACK
“Unless you know how to work a 15th-century printing press you can stop laughing and show me how to Twitter again.”
natasha having visceral reactions to disney movies and old American cartoons
natasha not reacting to the cold because she trained in the snow in shorts and a tank top
natasha hoarding her food
natasha seeing someone not eating for an extended period and fetching them something from the fridge and silently setting it down beside them and walking away before they notice
natasha reciting all the states in alphabetical order when tony jokingly suggests that none of the avengers could do it
natasha always counting everyone after major battles because she’s seen friends die too many times before
natasha having nightmares that she’ll do to her new friends what she was forced to do to the old
Stan Lee says characters should stay how they were intended to be.
>Peter Parker shouldn’t be black, and Black Panther shouldn’t be Swiss.
>Says there’s no reason to change the characters when you can just make new ones.
>Tells people to create their own characters instead of changing existing ones.
>Also mentions how wanting a white character to stay white doesn’t make you anti-black/Latino/etc. because most people also wouldn’t want a black character to stop being black.
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My opinion:
He’s completely right.
Stan’s the man.
THANK YOU Stan Lee for being a famous person who speaks the truth instead of bowing under SJWbullshit pressure.
School:
haha there is no need for students to be stressed out about the exams .....,,,,, they r well prepared if they did the 12 hours of homework daily
Students:
if i throw myself down these stairs i have three more weeks to study
Me reading a retelling of an Arthurian legend:
It's amazing how I can love Merlin in one version and hate him in another. It's so much fun to see all ways people imagine King Arthur as a good or bad king, and I love seeing characters like Nimue and Mordred depicted in all sorts of ways, from wicked through and through to being misunderstood and full of goodness. There are so many ways to imagine these characters, and none are wrong!
Me reading a version in which Guinevere isn't a good person:
why is this book so full of sin
One time I was working at the jewelry counter at work and I was showcasing some diamond necklaces to an older lady and I was always taught to try to connect with people in order to make a sale and so we were talking about her husband blah blah blah and she goes “are you married”
…………
Now the normal response to say is no, since I am not married
However I didn’t comprehend what she said and I was like yeah
So I quickly had to switch my ring on to my ring finger and make up a fictional spouse on the spot
And to this day she comes in periodically asking about my wife Morgan (who is now pregnant with twins!) and I mean I have been stuck with this alternate fictional life for a year and a half now
Our anniversary is Wednesday if anyone wants to get us anything
But, I’m sorry, Bernie Sanders 100% has my vote. He stands for everything I stand for. Not just some things like Hillary. I’ve been told that I’m not a “real feminist” since I don’t plan to vote for her. I want to see a female president just as much as anyone else does. But Sanders could lead this country in a wonderfully amazing direction and I am confident that he has a lot more to offer than Clinton does. Sorry not sorry.
Being a real feminist doesn’t mean voting for a woman because she’s a woman. It means voting for the candidate that will best advance women’s issues. Bernie Sanders is that candidate.
So I went to the eye doctor, right, and I sit down to fill out the paperwork like you do and the lady was like “Thanks, Doctor Doctor will be with you in a moment” and I was like why did she say doctor twice that’s weird but then I looked at the business cards on the table and his name was actually Dr. Chad Dockter and I looked around and the other assistant caught my eye and just nodded like “You just had the moment didn’t you”
full name, everything, told me to go crazy and spend spend spend. I’ve never spoken to him before, and he was only on the phone for 11 minutes.
An hour later he asks why I didn’t buy anything.
I didn’t buy anything because I have fucking common sense. If you get a guys credit card number that you don’t know and buy something you are fucking up. All it takes is for him to call to his credit card company to claim fraud, and to get my full real name, my address, and cops at my door. I dunno how many girls he’s called trying this, but I know a lot of new girls are on niteflirt, and I know a lot you are kind of desperate for money. I know the idea is great, but don’t ruin yourself over money you’re not even going to get.
….Why are so many none sex workers and underage people reblogging this?
Could slightly relevant out of context to the people who the online chat thing to kinda keep em aware of predators and mean people.
Yeah I was underage non sex worker once and with a guy who sent me lots of gift cards, and not knowing any better if he had ever sent a credit card number I would’ve gotten myself into some shit.
Ah
yeah it’s just a good anti-fraud thing to know
is this on the phone? because if it’s on the computer couldn’t you print the messages and show them to the judge for your innocents and still get to use the money before hand?
Even if it was, that doesn’t matter, it’s still credit card fraud regardless because the card holder says it is. Don’t put yourself at risk. It’s best to just avoid the whole situation
I was told by my professors that Kitty Genovese was a 28-year-old unmarried woman who was attacked, raped, and brutally murdered on her way home from her shift as manager of a bar. I was told that numerous people witnessed the attack and her cries for help but didn’t do anything because they “assumed someone else would”. Nobody intervened until it was too late.
Now… is it likely that people overheard Kitty’s cries for help and ignored them because they thought someone else would deal with it? Or, perhaps, did they ignore her because they knew she was a lesbian and just didn’t care?
Maybe that’s not the case. Maybe it was just a random attack. Maybe her neighbours didn’t know she was gay, or didn’t care.
But it’s a huge chunk of information to leave out about her in a supposedly scientific study of events, since her sexuality made her much more vulnerable to violent crimes than the average person. And it’s a dishonour to her memory.
RIP Kitty Genovese. Society may only remember you for how you died, but I will remember you for who who were.
this was one of the first lessons I had in psych too and we were never told about this either nor was it in any of the reading materials
I don’t want to downplay the possible impact that Genovese’s sexuality had on her being a victim of brutal violence, but it’s worth noting that the popular narrative around the attack is very probably a myth. The “numerous eyewitnesses saw the attack and did nothing” narrative was spun out of wholecloth by the police and regurgitated by salacious reporting in the NY Times. The police claimed, and the Times repeated, that thirty-eight people actually watched the attack for half an hour while doing nothing - none of which could be corroborated by later investigation.
At least one author claims the actual number of eyewitnesses was between four and six, of whom two genuinely refused to get involved. Two of the other witnesses actually did call the police… only to be put on hold, and for no squad car to be dispatched even when they actually got through. And another person rushed out after the stabbing to try and help Genovese, although she was too late.
It irks me no end that this story is still routinely taught in psych classes, because it’s most likely a lie made up by the police to cover their asses and spread by the media to sell papers. There are real, important lessons to take from the way society failed to prevent Genovese’s murder. But we should be careful about the stories we tell about it.
