A 19-year-old reddit user sought the advice of his fellow redditors after a spontaneous gay hookup with his best friend last month.
“I had a gay experience with my friend I thought we were both straight,” he writes. “Feeling confused and don’t know where to go from here.”
The teen shared his experience in full detail hoping to get some guidance from users of reddit’s relationship forum. He writes:
Some background for the situation: I’ve known my friend Danny, the friend in question, since we were 14. We were part of a group of four guys and we all got along really well. Him and his best friend and me and my best friend would all hang out together all the time after school and on weekends, play video games together and go on adventures, you know, just teenager stuff. Anyway, at the end of high school we all went to different colleges across the country for different reasons. Danny and I both came back to our hometown for the summer, but my best friend and his best friend both stayed at their schools to work and take summer classes and such.
I’ve been hanging out with Danny pretty much every day since we got back. My parents repurposed my bedroom to a workout room almost as soon as I moved into the dorms so I live in my basement and usually he’ll come over and we’ll play games or watch tv or listen to music, and then he’ll crash on the couch, go home in the morning and then come back over in the afternoon, rinse and repeat.
Last night we were watching some shitty movie, or really more like just talking with the movie on in the background and there was a sex scene. I asked him if he managed to get laid at all at college, and he said no. I admitted that I hadn’t either. We started to talk about sex a little. I could feel myself getting excited but I didn’t really understand why. The conversation kept up to the point where I said something along the lines of “I would really love to know what it feels like to have somebody suck my cock.” He said “what if…” and then blushed. One thing led to another and next thing I know he’s blowing me. I felt weird and conflicted about it but it was so good. It was like my mind switched gears in the middle of it and all of a sudden I was so turned on by him. When he finished me I asked him to let me return the favor. Afterwards we kissed, and then he awkwardly said that he should leave and went home.
As soon as he left my mind went into overdrive. A lot of things clicked into place in my mind but I’m still confused about a lot of things. I don’t look at porn often but when I do it’s usually women, but I’ve never met a woman irl that I was actually attracted to. I thought it was because I have high standards, but what if it’s because I’m not into women? I can’t make sense of it. I was super horny this morning, I’ve jerked off three times already today and I tried to think about women and look at straight porn but my mind kept drifting back to Danny’s body, Danny’s dick, Danny with his mouth around me. It’s crazy because I’ve never once felt attraction to a man before, never noticed guys in a sexual way at all, but now all I can think about is him.
I’m really worried that this will fuck up our friendship. I don’t regret what we did, but what if he does? What if he’s been scoping me out this whole time, waiting for his chance to pounce? I don’t know how I would feel about that. Also if he decides he doesn’t want to be around me anymore, I’m going to be alone for the rest of the summer. None of my other friends are in town. And then what happens if we do decide to get together, become a couple. What happens when we go back to school? What do we tell our other friends? Hell, what would I tell my parents?
I texted him earlier, just a simple “Hey” and I haven’t gotten anything back yet. I’m kind of losing my mind waiting on an answer. I would really love advice regarding what to say to him when I talk to him next. I want to continue to explore my relationship with him, but I don’t want to scare him off by coming on too strong. I need to feel out his thoughts first.
Does anybody else that’s been in a situation like this have any advice to offer? What should I say to him? How can I salvage our friendship if it turns out that he doesn’t feel the same way as me? I’m looking for any general advice regarding sexuality and figuring yourself out as well.
tl;dr: Thought I was straight, ended up engaging in mutual oral sex with a friend that I also thought was straight. I want to figure out my sexuality and continue to explore this new territory with my friend, but stay friends with him if he’s not interested. How do I approach the topic so as to not scare him off? And how do I figure out if I’m bi or gay, just for my own personal peace?
EDIT: He just texted me back and asked if he could come over. I said yes. Wish me luck!
A few days later, he provided this update:
I’m getting a lot of update requests, and Danny just headed home so I figured I’d go ahead and post. I have exciting stuff to tell you guys! First I wanted to say thanks to everybody who commented, you all really helped me calm down and stop overthinking everything. I appreciate it a lot.
When Danny showed up we were both really nervous and awkward at first. I was really scared to say anything, but I broke the tension by telling him how much I had enjoyed the night before. He broke out into a huge grin and turned bright red, lit up like a christmas tree. He told me he was so relieved, and that he had been obsessing over it all night worried for the same reasons I had been.
I told him that it was my first sexual experience ever and that I was questioning my sexuality now. He told me that he had been questioning his sexuality for a while, and that he had feelings for men before, but had mostly seen me as just a friend until last night, when he realized that I was kind of sort of coming onto him in a really roundabout way. It’s funny, I didn’t really think of myself as coming onto him but I definitely made that statement hoping something would come of it…
Anyway I told him that first and foremost I valued our friendship and wanted to stay friends whatever happened between us. He agreed strongly. He asked me if I was okay with working out our feelings together (read: having sex until we figure out how we feel) and I told him yes. After all this heavy conversation we decided to play some CS:GO together like we usually do but we ended up in bed together instead. Afterwards we talked some more and discussed the possibility of a relationship. He said he feels like we know each other well enough that he wouldn’t feel like we were rushing in, and I agreed with him. He asked me to be his boyfriend, and I said yes! I’m so happy about it, too! I’ve never felt so attracted to anyone before.
We haven’t told anyone yet, but decided not to go out of our way to keep it a secret. The area we live in is reasonably tolerant and neither of our parents are anti-gay, which I am grateful for. I am worried about telling my sister, who has recently become a born-again christian and had a lot of horrible things to say about the supreme court ruling on FB. I’m also a little concerned about telling our other two friends, but I think after the initial shock wears off, they’ll come around.
Now, I’m not super duper concerned with slapping a label on my sexuality and calling it a day (thanks to you guys, I appreciate all the advice in that regard!) but the more I think about it, the more I think that I really am gay, or at least gay-leaning bisexual. It kind of feels like the best time to be realizing it with the gay marriage ruling happening. Every time I think about it I feel giddy.
tl;dr: Talked it out, sexed it out, we’re a couple now! Thanks for helping me stay sane, reddit!
a good chunk of the mars press conference this morning was scientists discussing how not to contaminate the martian waters with terrestrial microbes from the rovers and permanently alter the development of life on mars. in other words we already have to obey the prime directive and I’m delighted with that
vikings made their woman handle the finances because they thought math is witchcraft
The idea that unicorns are only able tamed and captured by virgins originated as a medieval joke. The idea was that it took a mythical creature to catch a mythical creature.
There was once an English minstrel called Roland the Farter. He was awarded lands by the king on the condition that he turn up to the court every Christmas to perform his characteristic “whistle, leap and a fart”. His children could keep the lands after his death if they learnt and performed the same trick.
There is graffiti from the Norse invaders that reads (roughly) “ I slept with Ingiborg, the most beautiful woman in the world ”
A close friend of Alexander the Great named Dioxippus, once told one of his generals, named Coragus, to stop being so up himself, Coragus took offence and challenged him to a duel in front of all of his troops unaware that Dioxippus was a champion of Pankration, Ancient Greek Wrestling. Coragus turned up with all of his weapons and armour, Dioxippus turned up naked with a club, lathered in Olive Oil. The match was over in about 5 mins and Coragus got his arse well and truly kicked.
When an army of Swedes went off to war with the Norwegians, they left all the women to manage everything, however, in the village of Smaland, right on the Southern Border, they were attacked by an opposing force of Danes. The women, led by a woman named Blenda, responded to this by inviting the invaders in, feeding them, making them comfy and basically having a massive party to get them REALLY drunk. When all the invaders all passed out, the women slaughtered them all with anything they could find, and when the men came back, the King was so impressed that he basically granted them a bunch of new rights that were previously unavailable to them. From that point on, all daughters had the right to inherit property, money and land equally with their brothers, and were allowed to wear military-style garments around town and at their weddings. They were also given the prestigious right to wear the Royal Coat of Arms on their clothing – a tradition that has lasted to this day.
The term in Chess “Checkmate” is thought to have come from the Persian term “Shah Mat” which means “The King is dead”.
Captain Benjamin Hornigold, the mentor to Edward “Blackbeard” Teach, once captured a ship just so he could steal all of the crew’s hats, because his crew had gotten drunk the night before and thrown all of theirs overboard.
Napoléon Bonaparte, the Corsican soldier who eventually became the Emperor of France following the French Revolution and Maximilien de Robespierre’s “Reign of Terror”, was terrified of cats.
funraising fees are fucked up did you know gofundme takes up to 7.9% of everything people donate you + $0.30 per donation
that means that if 10 people help you raise $1000, you’re losing $82 bucks
if youre a kid in trouble trying to raise money dont make my mistakes and use youcaring which is apparently toally free, and not gofundme
Gofundme just sucks in general. After a woman tried raising money for an abortion, they pulled her campaign and changed their terms of service so that starting a campaign for an abortion is basically against the rules, but anti-choice groups (some of which are known to be violent) are still able to use the site. source
But they let Darren Wilson have his campaign after he murdered Mike Brown
^YouCaring is great, in my experience. They can stay free because they ask everyone who donates to a cause whether they’d like to donate $1 to the website to keep it running.
They look utterly ridiculous and they are my favourite thing you’re welcome and goodbye
That’s a fucking Sandshrew.
It’s a small dragon.
They’re so hunchbacked that even though they walk on two legs their front feet are almost always scraping the ground.
BONUS! Tree-dwelling version!!!
Also bonus, There’s a fuckton of different kinds!
Enjoy.
Also! they’re going extinct due to poaching because people love their golden scaley pelts! These are the only mammals in existence to grow actual scales, created from fused fur, like rhino horns! If you would like to donate to their conservation fund, or find out more about Pangolins in general, go here!
Ok because I really need to practice my art and HALLOWEEN IS COMING SOON, everyone who reblogs this I will draw you a Halloween bunny based on your blog
OKAY BUT CAN WE TALK ABOUT DEBORAH SAMSON, A WOMAN WHO DISGUISED HERSELF AS A MAN TO FIGHT IN THE AMERICAN REVOLUTION
AS A KID SHE GOT EDUCATED BY BRIBING NEIGHBORHOOD BOYS TO TEACH HER WHAT THEY LEARNED IN SCHOOL, AND ENDED UP BECOMING A TEACHER
IN 1778 AT AGE 18 SHE ENLISTED IN THE ARMY, UNDER THE NAME OF ROBERT
SHIRTLIFFE
SHE FOUGHT IN MANY BATTLES FOR THREE YEARS WITHOUT ANYONE SUSPECTING SHE WAS A WOMAN
SHE GOT INJURED TWICE (STABBED IN THE HEAD AND SHOT IN THE SHOULDER) BUT DOCTORS STILL DIDN’T FIND OUT HER SECRET
SHE WAS ONLY DISCOVERED DURING TREATMENT WHEN SHE CAME DOWN WITH BRAIN FEVER. BUT THE DOCTOR WAS NICE AND DIDN’T TELL ANYONE. INSTEAD WHEN SHE GOT BETTER HE SENT HER TO DELIVER A MESSAGE TO WASHINGTON
WHEN WASHINGTON READ THE LETTER HE WASN’T EVEN MAD HE JUST DISCHARGED HER AND WROTE HER A MESSAGE AND GAVE HER MONEY TO GET BACK HOME
SHE WENT BACK HOME AND GOT HERSELF A CUTE MAN AND HAD THREE KIDDIES
SOME YEARS LATER SHE GOT SUMMONED TO DC WHERE GOT A PENSION AND LAND IN EXCHANGE FOR HER SERVICE (WHICH PAUL REVERE HELPED TO ARRANGE)
SHE DIED AT THE AGE OF 66, AND IN 1983 WAS NAMED OFFICIAL HEROINE OF THE STATE OF MASSACHUSETTS
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bless this post I had no idea
Really now? Let’s go ahead and test that then.
Oh good, it blocked the post! Let me go ahead and see how they tagged this to protect me from my triggers.
Goodness gracious would you look at that.
Seriously. Tumblr Savior will block a post even if it contains the word “trigger” in it. It doesn’t matter where or how, it will be blocked. Take it from someone who blocks commonly used phrases that happen to tie into a tag I want to block, and has to check if someone just happened to use that word or if it’s actually the thing I wanted to block. (*ahem* One Piece and Wrestling.)
Abuse is often categorized into different forms. While some are fairly well known, others are rarely discussed outside of anti-violence activism and the like. In addition, many people are unaware of how various kinds of abuse are defined and what actions are considered abusive. Here’s a list to help make things a bit clearer. Please note that some actions are abusive in multiple ways and this list likely won’t be able to describe every abuse behavior. In addition, this list is designed to be as generic as possible so it can be applied to a variety of different situations rather than exclusively focusing on romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, friendships etc.
Emotional abuse:
Far more than ‘hurting someone’s feelings’, emotional abuse is a devastating form of abuse which can affect an individuals self worth, feelings of safety, and quality of life. It can even lead to mental health issues. While often dismissed as a ‘less serious’ form of abuse, the impact of emotional abuse can be devastating and last for a long time. Behaviors include;
Frequent, excessive and unwelcome criticism (as opposed to constructive criticism which is asked for and given in to help. Some people will claim their emotional abuse is actually meant to be constructive criticism, however, if its not requested and related to a specific thing a person is doing, then chances are, this is a lie)
Put-downs and name-calling (this is also verbal abuse)
Controlling the victim
Invalidating their feelings and experiences
Withholding (this includes ‘the silent treatment’, refusing to listen, and withdrawing emotionally)
Excluding the victim
Telling the victim that their thoughts, feelings, ideas, interests etc are wrong/bad/silly
Physical Abuse
One of the more well known forms of abuse, people often think that physical abuse is limited to romantic partnerships where one person hits, punches or attacks the other. While those behaviors are physically abusive, violence is not limited to contact that causes injury or even physical contact, and it can occur in any relationship. Examples of physical abuse include
Any and all unwanted and non-consensual physical contact
Throwing objects (whether at the victim directly or elsewhere)
Breaking your possessions
Threatening violence
Threatening with a weapon (such as pointing a knife or gun at the victim)
Forcing you to make eye contact with them
Driving wrecklessly/dangerously while the victim or victims children or pets are in the car
Harming the victims pets
Forcing the victim to eat or not letting them eat
Not allowing the victim to sleep
Locking the victim in/out of the house
Denying the victim access to medication
Not allowing the victim to use the toilet or meet other physical needs
Psychological Abuse
Emotional and psychological abuse are often discussed together as emotional abuse since there is a lot of overlap. What affects us emotionally also affects us psychologically. It can still be helpful to distinguish the two sometimes. It’s also sometimes referred to as mental abuse. Behaviors include
Gaslighting; denying the victims experience and making them question their reality or perception, hiding the victims personal items then claiming the victim lost them, denying that something happened when it did, and more
Invalidating the victim
Calling the victim ‘crazy’, ‘insane’ ‘psycho’, often when they confront the abuser about their behavior
Minimize or dismiss the victims achievements
Behaving in ways that cause the victim to feel intimidated or afraid
Using the victims fears against them (e.g forcing you to hold a spider knowing you’re afraid of them)
Behaving in erratic or unpredictable ways to make the victim feel scared of what the abuser might do
Terrorizing the victim
Subtle threats which communicate that the abuser is dangerous or intends to harm the victim e.g cleaning or playing with a weapon in front of them
Using mental health issues the victim has to blame them for the abusers behavior or deny that that certain things happened
Threatening suicide or self harm if the victim leaves or doesn’t do what the abuser wants
Making the victim responsible for the abuser
Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a broad term that is often thought of as forced sexual contact, however it also includes sexual behavior without touch. The behaviors below are sometimes related to age, for example, exposing a child to pornography is always sexually abusive whether or not the child wanted or asked to see it, whereas for adults, forcing the victim to watch pornography (whether by physical force or coercion) is sexual abuse. Behaviors include
Forcing the victim to engage in sexual activities (rape)
Engaging in sexual acts in front of the victim
Discussing sexual activities in front of the victim (especially children, by adults)
Exposing the victim to sexually explicit media such as pornography (especially children, by adults)
Threatening to force sexual contact upon the victim
Making inappropriate comments about the victims body, especially private parts
Sharing private information about the victim’s body or sexual relationships without their consent
Coercing the victim into performing sexual acts
Performing sexual acts with the victim while the victim is underage, intoxicated or otherwise unable to consent
Guilting the victim into sex or sexual contact
Pressuring the victim into sexual contact
Threatening the victim with harm unless they perform certain sexual acts or give the abuser sexual access
In the case of BDSM relationships and sexual interactions, ignoring one of the participants safe word
In the case of BDSM relationships and sexual interactions, blaming the victim for not using a safeword in circumstances where it is not applicable and/or possible, e.g. the abuser initiated a BDSM scene without prior discussion or consent, or one party is unable to vocalize
Engaging in sexual contact with someone in any situation where the other party has not given clear, enthusiastic consent
Any situation where an adult engages in sexual contact with a minor
Sharing photos of the victim in their underwear/nude/engaged in sexual contact without their consent, or threatening to do so
Knowingly exposing the victim to STIs
Interfering with the victims birth control or safer sex methods
Deceiving the victim about the circumstances of sexual contact
Social Abuse
Social abuse is a less often discussed form of abuse where the abuser undermines the victims relationships and autonomy. Like other forms, behaviors here are often also applicable to other categories. Behaviors include
Not letting the victim see or speak to their friends and/or family
Making the victim feel guilty for having other relationships (except in monogamous relationships where one person is dating other people/'cheating’)
Going through the victims phone, emails, text messages. etc without their knowledge and/or consent
Spreading rumors about the victim
Telling the victim that their family/friends said things that they didn’t say
Telling the victim that only the abuser really cares about them
Manipulating the victim into confrontations with family/friends (e.g. encouraging them to raise an issue then withdrawing support during/after the confrontation)
Outing the victim if they are LGBT+
Telling other people about mental health issues the victim has
Telling people about abuse the victim has experienced
Telling people that the victim is abusive when it’s not true, or claiming they did certain abusive actions that they didn’t do
Humiliating or embarrassing the victim in front of others
Criticizing or putting the victim down in front of others
Engaging in subtle acts of abuse, manipulation, intimidation etc to show others how 'crazy’ or 'unstable’ the victim is
Interfering in the victims relationships in any way
Taking away the victims phone, computer, internet or other forms of communication
Disallowing the victim to communicate in ways that they want or need to e.g. not allowing autistic children or partners to stim, disallowing deaf or nonverbal children or partners to use sign language
Financial Abuse
Financial abuse is another kind of abuse that’s often not discussed. It generally revolves around interfering with the victims finances. It’s also referred to as economic abuse. Behaviors include
Forcing the victim to give the abuser their paycheck or government assistance payment/s
Telling the victim what they can and cannot buy
Punishing the victim for spending money
If the abuser is the sole income earner, forcing the victim to beg for money
Refusing to provide the victim with things they need
Stealing money from the victim
Forcing the victim to share bank accounts
Not allowing you to see or keep your own financial records
Not allowing you to go to work or gain employment
Jeopardizing your job by making you late, harassing you at work etc
Spending money on themselves but not allowing the victim to do the same
Forcing the victim to pay the abusers bills, car payments, rent, court fines etc
Using their position as sole breadwinner to manipulate or control you
Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse is often thought of as swearing at the victim. While that is part of it, there are many more behaviors which are also verbally abusive. Behaviors include
Talking over and/or interrupting
Frequent criticism
Using sarcasm to dismiss or belittle the victim
Constantly arguing with the victim
Swearing at the victim
Shouting at/over the victim
Using their voice and/or words to cause fear and/or intimidate the victim
Mocking and/or making fun of the victim, teasing them
name-calling
Spiritual Abuse
Spiritual abuse is another form of abuse that’s often left out of discussions but is still very important. While it’s generally thought of in a religious context, it can also be used against those who are not part of organized religions or do not have spiritual beliefs. In essence, it undermines a person’s spiritual beliefs, or lack thereof. Behaviors include
Not allowing the victim to attend religious services, gatherings or meetings
Telling the victim that their beliefs are wrong, bad or silly
Telling the victim that they’re 'going to hell’ or are 'damned’
Forcing or coercing the victim into changing their religious or spiritual beliefs, or lack thereof
A person in a position of authority within a religious or spiritual organization demanding unquestioned loyalty or making unreasonable demands
A person in a position of authority excluding certain individuals, often on the basis of sexual/romantic orientation or transgender status but can also be due to ethnicity, gender, class, disability etc
Shaming individuals for not paying tithing or giving money to a church/religious/spiritual organization/group
Hopefully I have covered most kinds of abuse here, however I will certainly add to this if I’ve missed anything. I know it’s a long post, but if you would be able to share this to raise awareness, I would really appreciate it. Many people are aware that abuse happens but far less people know how abuse is defined. This is not a complete list but I hope that it can serve as a guide to those wondering if what they are experiencing is in fact abuse.
when i was five, and romance didn’t exist for boys, it did exist for me. “she’s going to break hearts one day,” people said, speaking about me over my head. i smiled, because that is something little girls are supposed to be pleased to hear.
when i was six i was supposed to kiss my best friend because he was a boy, and when i wouldn’t, he pushed me down hard enough that my palms bled. he said if i told a teacher, he’d tell everyone i kissed him and i was bad at it. i washed off in the school’s bathroom sink and cried about it all through recess.
at eight, i stopped wearing dresses because i couldn’t turn cartwheels in them. “a tomboy,” somebody said about me, over my head, as if i couldn’t hear them. i said, “i don’t want to be a boy,” and they laughed. “we know, sweetness.” i said, “i’m not sweet, i’m serious,” and they laughed again. “you’re cute,” they said. i smiled at that, because that’s something little girls are supposed to be pleased to hear.
at nine, i had too many friends that were boys. “i don’t like it,” my father said, standing in the kitchen. i didn’t understand it. “your body is going to start changing soon, and i don’t want those boys looking at you. i don’t like it,” he’d repeat. we moved away that summer. i lost everybody.
when i was eleven, my teacher took me out of the classroom and asked me to put on another layer because even though it was hot in there, all of the boys were staring at the little forming bumps on my chest. i remember embarrassment spiking down my spine like lightning. i begged my mother to take me bra shopping. it was terrible there, in those bright stores with bright lights and beautiful women with tight thighs. it was terrible and embarrassing to touch or look at or even think about these things.
at thirteen, my best guy friend wrestled me to the ground and covered me in kisses no matter how much i asked him to stop it. “it’s supposed to be like this,” he kept repeating, “just stop struggling.” he told me i was pretty and lovely and that boys and girls can’t be friends. he told me to stop being so mad at him, that little girls are supposed to be pleased about these things.
the same winter, i was catcalled for the first time in my whole life. i jumped when the car pulled up by my side. they said “baby” over my head as if i wasn’t who they were discussing. i didn’t smile about it. i had to sit down to stop myself from vomiting.
when i was fifteen, half of my friends were boys. my best friend was in love with me. he told me i was breaking his heart. he said that if i didn’t love him back, he’d have nothing to live for anymore. the story with the rest of them is all the same. either they left me or they thought they fell in love with the idea of somebody i wasn’t.
that summer when i was sad - and i was sad categorically, always - i tried reaching out. when i turned to the boys, all i heard was, “don’t cut, you’re beautiful,” “don’t kill yourself, you’re so pretty,” “think of the scars, sweetie,” “when you cut yourself, i’m the one who starts bleeding.” i didn’t smile, although i think girls are supposed to be pleased to hear these things. i didn’t know how to say: i don’t feel beautiful, and even if i did, what i’m doing to myself has nothing to do with you, or what i look like, or how fuckable i am to you. instead i told them i was fine, and fixed, and nothing bad was happening.
when he broke my heart, it was because i told him no. when he left, i cried because it hurt to watch my best friend go. when he left, he said that he’d never liked me for my soul: only for my curves, the only real way to measure worth in a girl.
at sixteen, i had only girl friends. they were gentle, and different, and walked me through things. they held my hand when classes got too loud for me, and it meant friendship. they kissed me on the cheeks when i was crying, and it meant friendship. they slept next to me and it was friendship in the way i wasn’t used to. i was used to “stop being a tease,” to “why are you doing this to me.” it was just friendship, and it was excellent.
i was called a dyke, a lesbian, a man-hater. i thought of the men who had hurt me, who had spoken over my head, who had given me their full opinion even though i never asked for it. i was hated by basically everyone. i was sad and lonely so often that i often thought i’d never feel happy again.
at nineteen, in college, i had friends who were boys again, because college boys are supposed to be old enough to see you as a person. they all called me Steve, short for Steven. at first i thought it was some kind of inside joke, that it was cute, that it meant they loved me the way i loved them all. one day while we were both drunk, i asked one of them why they wouldn’t just say my name. he laughed. he said, “god, you’re going to hate me when i explain.” he said that they’d all formed an agreement behind my back that none of them would fuck me, that if i was going to be one of the bros, i couldn’t be a girl to them. i could only be seen as a boy if i wanted to be their friend. he said this all while staring at a point over my head, and tried to kiss me at the end. when i pushed him away, he said, “sorry, steve,” took a breath, “but if i start seeing you as a girl, i’m gonna try to kiss you again.”
i said, “i don’t want to be a boy, though,” and he laughed again.
he said, “i know, sweetie.”
at twenty-two, i am sick of boys who are “nice,” who are “not like other boys,” who are offended when i don’t immediately trust their intentions. i have been hurt over and over and over again. i only talk to about three of my boy friends and the rest i lost because i dared not to fuck them.
at the same time, i kept most of my girl friends. i have had crushes on most of them. it never impacted our relationships. even girls who are gay like i am know that being friends doesn’t mean i owe them. they hold my eyes when i talk to them.
i’m sorry, i’m sorry, i’m sorry. i love so many people, and many boys are wonderful and charming and excellent. i’m sorry i flinch away from a friendship. i’m sorry i will be cold and unaffectionate and scared of getting too close
it’s just that, since i was five, i was told i break hearts.
”—girls don’t owe you shit, dude: a polite reply to a post which inadvertently blames girls for distrusting the affections of a guy friend // r.i.d
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‘you’re a celebrity incognito trying to hide from paparazzi and you’re sitting right next to me and i’m the only one that recognizes you’ au
‘someone starts a rumor that we’re dating so let’s turn the tables’ au
‘you made an obscure literary reference and i’m the only on that got it’ au
‘we were both late to class and walked into each other in the hall and oh god do you have a concussion? i’m so sorry’ au
‘oh my god you’re my ex’s other ex’ au
‘we’re both actors and keep showing up for the same auditions’ au
‘i keep overhearing you make fun of me so i finally try to stand up for myself and it actually had nothing to do with me at all i’m sorry i never meant for this to happen’ au
we’re both teachers and all our students ship us’ au
‘i kissed the wrong person on news years’ au
‘i’m yelling to my friend about how attractive this celebrity is and then plot twist you’re the celebrity and in front of me wtf’ au
‘the only two people in the movie theater’ au
‘we showed up at a party wearing the same exact outfit. this is awkward.’ au
These are what the ages of four supreme court justices will be in 2016, which means the next president very well could choose the next four supreme court justices when those four retire within the next eight years.
Why does this matter? Because the supreme court control all our laws, and we need supreme court justices that will be on the right side of the history.
Who picks the supreme court justices? The president.
This is the president who we need to choose the next four supreme court justices.
This is the president who owes no one, but the people who voted for him.
This is the president who hasn’t swayed from their beliefs for over 40 years.
This is the president who has always been on the right side of the history against all odds.
This is the president we need.
PLS READ.
Finally
it’s also worth mentioning that those four justices are Scalia (80), Kennedy (80), Ginsberg (83) & Breyer (78) - Scalia & Kennedy are both Reagan appointed justices who’ve been the main momentum behind most of the regressive decisions by the supreme court. Breyer is part of the liberal wing & Ginsberg is our Lord & Savior
so the point being is that the next president will have the opportunity to fundamentally shift the balance of power for the american judicial system.
if bernie is that president we could be looking forward to a liberal political climate for another 20-30 years.
Imagine the power and growth of individual rights and equality of 20-30 years of liberal politics.
This is why we need Bernie Sanders to be the one to choose.
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF THE HEAD NUBS ON A GIRAFFE?
THE ANCESTORS OF GIRAFFES LIKELY HAD ANTLERS FOR COMBAT PURPOSES, LIKE DEERS AND MOOSES. AS THEY GOT COMICALLY TALL, THE WEIGHT OF ANTLERS GOT TOO HEAVY FOR THEIR HILARIOUS NECKS, AND ANTLER FIGHTING BECAME OBSOLETE AND RIDICULOUS, SO THEY EVOLVED PAST ANTLERS. THE NUBS, OR “OSSICONES,” ARE VESTIGIAL STRUCTURES IN THE GIRAFFE’S SKULL. THEY’RE LEFTOVER SUPPORT STRUCTURES FOR THE ANTLERS GIRAFFES USED TO HAVE BEFORE THEY BECAME THE BIOLOGICAL JOKE WE KNOW AND LOVE TODAY.
“College kids are the absolute last people you want to mug. They’re in peak physical condition, they have no money, and most of them have such a twisted view on the value of life they would rather you shoot them than give you the $4.37 in change at the bottom of their book bag.”—ztejas (via bl-ossomed)
please consider the fact that steven grant rogers a.k.a captain america probably got the bulk of his sex education from a pack of chorus girls
and like obviously you could jump to the conclusion that he had a bunch of educational sex romps with a harem of hot young ladies but if you have ever hung out with a pack of women for any significant length of time you will probably have observed them discuss every single facet of every single sexual encounter with every single romantic partner with one another, while cackling.
steven grant rogers a.k.a captain america sitting at the very end of the makeup trailer, meekly brushing a chorus girl’s hair, as six other girls share a bottle of gin and compare the median dick length of hook-ups in the west coast vs the east and how that might correlate with willingness to give head and a seventh girl keeps making lesbian jokes
steven grant rogers a.k.a captain america realizing all of bucky’s romantic ‘conquests’ probably went straight back to their friends and reported on his performance and suddenly being really glad he’s a virgin
steven grant rogers a.k.a captain america on one of his sadness errands goes to visit the last chorus girl in her nursing home and she’s like ninety and hooked up to a wheely oxygen tank and knitting some baby booties for her great-grandkid and she asks him right there in front of all the cameras, ‘you found a nice young man to pop that cherry of yours yet, rogers?’ and he goes ‘i’m waiting till you die, ethel, the last thing i need is another lecture on the clap’
the morning after sam and steve do it, steve resignedly answers his cellphone to the dulcet tones of a cackling ninety year old woman with a lecture for him on the clap.
okay not shanghai and derail your shippy post but i need to shanghai and derail your shippy post for a minute bc i’m so in love with the original concept here of steve rogers spending a fair amount of time being surrounded by thirty gossiping women and he hears all about the times their asses have been pinched, and the cat calls they’ve gotten on the streets, and that one creep in the bar that just wouldn’t leave the one of them alone and so steve rogers learns the difference between a woman flirting and a woman politely saying no and this is how he learns to respectfully take rejection
and steve rogers listening to 30 women talk about menstruation like it’s the weather and he finds himself learning about the symptoms and exactly how bad they can be and steve rogers starts getting hot water bottles for the women who are cramping so bad they’re having trouble getting out of the chair and he does it without being asked or told he just knows now
and steve rogers learning about the intricacies involved in the world of the female experience and learns that women are people in way there’s no going back from and so he no longer has the capacity to see them as things like sex objects or super spies and that’s why nat can let her guard down around him and be a bestie because for once someone sees her as a fucking person
