Rise Up, Oh Heart, For There is Another Battle to Win

nnfandomz:

Dumb (and by dumb, I mean amazeballs) movie.

• Poe hanging around two giant space puppies more often than not, but being completely blindsided when Jess refers to Rey and Finn as his. And then smirking and thinking “damn right they are.” 
• Finn not being terribly bothered by how strict his doctor and nurse are, because they’re not mean, and it’s structure. He’s free, but he needs that structure now that he’s not running on sheer adrenaline and while trying to find his fit with the Resistance. He can’t break a lifetime of habits in a few weeks, but he can take baby steps.
• Poe having low key nightmares about Kylo Ren violating his mind, and waking up to find Rey standing over him. He accidentally kicks her in the gut the first time and it’s all a big mess, but eventually he just gets used to waking up to her being there and she gets it. 
• Finn making friends with Snap Wexley and Admiral Statura, first because they’re going over the information Finn can give them and cataloging this knowledge, and then because Snap gets the bright idea to teach Finn how to play poker. “You have your people, and then you have your poker buddies, Finn. And your poker buddies will make sure Poe doesn’t fleece you for the shirt off your back, the rotten shark.”
• Snap introducing Finn to fire whiskey. 
• Poe laughing at Finn’s first hangover, but then getting him a painkiller and cuddling with him.
• Finn trying sugary foods for the first time and loving them.
• Snap realizing he can bribe Finn with candy, and ruthlessly exploiting it to win his prank war with Poe.
• Poe teaching Finn to kiss, because his guy is ridiculously eager, but ridiculously awful at it. Not that Finn would have had a lot of time to practice in the First Order. Besides, Poe might have a teeny, tiny possessive streak, and be stupidly pleased he gets to teach him.
• Rey being so absorbed with her Jedi training, and trying to figure out the Force and “be at one with it”, that it takes Poe and Finn some time to realize she has some capital I issues. 
• Poe and Finn not figuring out two of these Issues until they’re sent on a rescue mission with her, Snap, Jess Pava, and fellow First Order deserter, Officer Phasma, to bust out Admiral Akbar. Namely that A) Rey can’t swim AT ALL and they crash land in a lake, and B) Rey is utterly ill-equipped to deal with the winter planet they’re on. (Which really, they should have thought about this sooner.)
• This leads to a comedy of errors where Jess and Phasma have to go free the Admiral and rendezvous with them at the exit point, and Snap and Finn securing the exit point while Poe has to get Rey across that channel, clinging to his back like a baby monkey because the water is deep and there’s only a tiny underwater ledge they can inch by on, and she’s terrified. (And hypothermic and turning an alarming shade of blue.)
• Finn, however, is very gallant and dashing and being an utter boss in making sure the exit gets secured and Poe and Rey are safe. Poe’s not even going to lie, he’s very turned on.
• Rey being utterly mortified once they get back to base, and Finn refusing to let her be embarrassed, because he’s learned that’s what a team and a family are for. Covering your back when you’re down.
• Finn learning astromech so he can understand what BB-8 keeps saying, but refusing to give up their special thumbs up signal. Poe realizes he’s about to be in trouble when he walks in on the two of them doing that.
• Lt. Connix and Jess taking Rey out on leave trips, because Rey needs friends and Rey is a big dumb space puppy who hasn’t realized that Finn and Poe are not just friends, and that maybe she needs people to talk it out with that aren’t a Jedi master or the objects of her affections.
• Rey can drink them both under the table, because the only alcohol back “home” was the equivalent of 100 proof moonshine, and you have to get used to it early.
• Then they realize she doesn’t even know she’s been given an account with credits.
• Lt. Connix and Jess realizing Rey might have an Issue about food, because she uses all of her credits to buy packs of really awful food rations, and she gives them out to people she cares about.
• Poe and Finn have several packs of awful food rations, but they eat them proudly because they realize Rey is a big dumb space puppy and giving food is the highest form of showing affection she knows.
• Poe was so very wrong. Rey is a ridiculously awful kisser. Still, that means there’s just that much more practice time for him and Finn.
• Finn wrangling the other two into bed the way he likes it, so he’s the one facing the door. If someone comes in for them, they’ll have to get through him first. Besides, Rey’s softer, and gets cold at night. And if she’s in the middle, Poe’s arm settles around Finn’s waist at the perfect level that makes him feel safe, too.
• Poe realizing that while courting is definitely a thing where he grew up, and with other cultures on the base, Finn and Rey have no clue what it is, and dammit, his dumb space puppies deserve to be courted properly.

kumagawa:

i dont know if you’ve been keepin up with the stories in Flint or not but my water deadass looks like this:

and a few friends are buying me bottled water and what not because I can’t use the tap and while I’ve been using it to bathe/wash its gotten to a point where i can’t really just shrug off the patches and shit on my skin. most of the water i’ve previously had i’ve given to my sisters to ensure my baby niece and nephew have access to untainted water for cleaning/bathing,  so if you could help out with bottled water or what not i’d really appreciate it, considering it’s getting really hard to get ahold of in my area or what not, or even if you just want to donate my paypal is beiialedge@aol.com, thanks i really appreciate it.

primarybufferpanel:

ifeelbetterer:

I’m already seeing a lot of portrayals of Finn’s backstory as a Stormtrooper hinging on wanton violence and trauma. But I wonder if anyone has considered that the way Troopers are conditioned might be by an excess of care/attention, not by violence? I mean, we have evidence of that reading in the fact that Finn’s negative reaction is noted and pursued by his commanding officer. That demonstrates a heightened awareness of each of the troopers, not a lack of care. I wonder if maybe the medical care for troopers–as an example–was absolutely the best that money can buy, but not offered with pleasantries. Like, maybe Finn has had medical care thousands of times but usually he was put under sedation at the drop of a hat rather than allowed to stay conscious and engaged with the medical process. Like, maybe the biggest difference between his current medical care and what he experienced as a trooper is that they’re going to explain what they’re doing at every step now and he’s going to have to push himself to heal, not rely on them making it easy on him.

Like, if a trooper got a spinal injury, wouldn’t it make sense for the clearly affluent First Order to simply replace the spine and, like, build new muscle tissue or whatnot, rather than putting a trooper through longterm physical therapy and making him choose which course of treatment he wants.

Also, I think it’s worth thinking about how everything is easy as a trooper, but nothing is personal and that might be another key difference. I totally buy the idea of Finn being chronically touch-starved and unable to assert choices, though. I am loving that trend in the fic. I bet other key differences could include:

• now he has to own things and remember where they are. Like, he takes off his shoes outside and then forgets that, you know, they’re his and he has to come back barefoot to find them later
• also remembering how stuff belongs to other people too. Like, he doesn’t recognize the gesture as significant when Poe gives him the jacket. It’s not until Poe says it, maybe even later when he thinks about it again, that it’s a gift.
  
• having to remember names is probably very hard. and then finding out people have two names each, that probably frustrates him and blows his mind equally.
  
• it might take him a while to understand how different people’s backgrounds are. like, maybe he assumes everyone knows how to use a lightsaber because Rey was good at it. If Rey knows it, he just assumes everyone knows it. That’s the way it was for troopers: everyone knew exactly the same things. You never chatted about your childhood because it was exactly identical to everyone else’s. He probably grows to really love hearing people talk about their pasts. He probably makes a lot of friends by being just utterly charmed by the most prosaic of stories.
• i bet the messiness of the base bothers him. i bet he has to keep telling himself it’s fine that no one has scoured that wall over there, it’s totally fine. because he clearly wants to go find a bucket and a sponge and just bleach the fuck out of that mold.
  
• god, he is actually probably the neatest ever. once he gets a hang of the idea of this being his room, he probably keeps it fucking spotless

#tfa spoilers#this is SUCH an excellent post especially the point about the difference between an excess of care and personalized care#I was just talking to someone about the first order’s strategies for depersonalization#(there specifically I was talking about sex and relationships between stormtroopers but the same principles apply)#the first order will treat you well they will look after you—you’ll have the best care availible#because the first order maintains their machinery#and that’s all finn is#he is not an individual any more than a wire is an individual or a circuit board is an individual; and the first order works hard#to ensure that mindset is instilled in their soldiers#but from the moment poe asks “are you good with finn?”#it’s a total paradigm shift#because being asked a specific and personal opinion is new#when the med-bot asks him if it is acceptable to administer the anti-cortisol shot finn just blinks at it#not realizing it’s actually waiting for a response#they serve—whatever the space equivalent of brussel sprouts is at the resistance mess hall and poe makes a face#scrapes them onto rey’s plate (she’ll eat anything like the desert ration-starved orphan she was)#and when finn asks why poe says “I’ve never liked brussel sprouts” like it’s nothing#like that’s….something you can say#finn is stunned and delighted at the amount of personhood he is suddenly allowed#it’s wonderful I love it#star wars#(touch-starved and delighted and overwhelmed and he is so loved)#(already)#(that’s the first thing he gets)#(what a BABE)

[tag novel by @notbecauseofvictories]

bonehandledknife:

heidibyeveryday:

unseenphil:

vaspider:

a-flickering-soul:

claidilady:

iphysnikephoros:

bonehandledknife:

bonehandledknife:

Leia has, for various reasons, a very dubious outlook on classic Jedi training methods. This is not just because of various circumstances surrounding her son, she’s had this opinion for many years before his birth. But Luke was insistent when Ben proved Force sensitive and there was nothing Leia could say otherwise that had any documentation, any records, any proof.

(she’s concerned that her use of the Force might be considered Other, or Grey, or Dark)

It’s like this: the Jedi are unsubtle.

It’s like this: Moving a blaster’s nose a half centimeter causes the shot to miss by a feet. It’s much easier to make 5 blasters miss than to throw 5 Stormtroopers backwards.

It’s like this: when Leia speaks, she is Forceful. When she speaks to a room, she starts with nudges to make everyone listen, she slides in quiet elation at her words, she ends with encouraging a feeling of being able to do absolutely anything in the Universe. 

And she lets her speech carry out the rest of the details, rather than her Force, she lets her people decide how to act, she lets choice finish their decisions and these decisions and choices lasts longer when she leaves the room than if she simply Forced someone to say, “I will do as you command.”

(she takes after her mother, she hears)

Leia wonders if that was how Palpatine caused her father to go Dark, and remains quiet when Luke trains her son.

And when Ben turns, she feels the reverberations, and can’t find it in her to blame Luke for it entirely.

(she wonders if she should have Spoken, or if it would have made things worse)

[[[because lol]]]

The base is collapsing around their ears, their TIE fighters are falling from the sky, and That Girl has come back with That Lightsaber and more training and for the life of him Kylo cannot hold his ground against her so he’s running but those are things he’s not examining too closely. Instead:

“HIGHLY TRAINED FIGHTERS, he says,” Kylo swears under his breath and dodges around more Stormtroopers, hoping they’d stall his pursuit. The Force tells him they don’t do a damn thing. “PICKED from a YOUNG AGE, he says, BETTER than CLONES, he says, THEN WHY CAN’T YOUR STORMTROOPERS HIT THE BROADSIDE OF A DEATHST–”

Hux suddenly skids to a stop. “She’s here.”

“WHO’S HERE?!”

“I don’t know what she has, the scientists can’t figure it out but when she’s around,” Hux staggers, panting, “at this point, no one can aim straight if she’s even on the same planet, let alone the same room and–”

“WHO?!” Kylo reaches out and grabs Hux by the throat, pulling him to his toes. “GIVE ME A NAME.”

A throat clears behind him.

“Ben,” His mother says.

Kylo freezes.

“Put that back where you found it. We need to talk.”

THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH. How else HOW ELSE I ASK YOU could a whole pack of storm troopers fire down a narrow hallway and hit nobody?

This is EXACTLY how I picture LEIA’S abilities holy shit good shit wow A+++ I want to write this a million times and have everyone write Leia like this.

@darkthestars I feel like you might be interested in this

@judicialmistrangementorder

(One fun part is that this was a totally thing in the old EU (And may even be a thing now- the first of the FFG RPGs post-Disney has it as an option.)

Jedi can aid and direct their side in battle.  If they’re good, strong enough, they can affect things on a planetary scale, making everyone on their side better and more coordinated. A true master of the technique could make a bunch of peasant farmers taking up arms against a tyrant fight every bit as well as she can. Thing is, you’ve got to be careful, or your override their wills completely, and things fall apart if you get taken out- there’s some theories that this is why the Imperial fleet went to pieces so fast at Endor after the Emperor’s death, far faster than word of his demise could have spread. 

Using it to throw off your enemy’s aim, to make them mishear orders or fire at things that aren’t there would just be an application of the same technique, only applied defensively rather than offensively, and really, isn’t that what a Jedi’s supposed to do?

It’s called Battle Meditation and it’s one of the rarest, most prized and most useful jedi abilities. Individuals with this ability change the outcomes of wars, they generally lead from the front and the only other jedi with this power that I know is a woman.

If Leia is some kind of Battle Meditation Savant then for one it would make her vastly more powerful than Anakin was ever displayed to be (at most he had very advanced precognitive abilities, common to all jedi). It would also explain exactly how the fuck ewoks triumphed over the best imperial regiment available, simply by virtue of the greatest display of force ability in known history.

It got better.

nearlyheadlessfinnick:

I just imagined Sirius being called out to sorting and the hat getting ready to shout SLYTHERIN! almost before even touching one of Sirius’ hair - just like it has done for every Black and Malfoy for centuries- and then suddenly all he hears is this eleven year old thinking “Don’t you fucking dare”

seiya234:

claidilady:

iphysnikephoros:

bonehandledknife:

bonehandledknife:

Leia has, for various reasons, a very dubious outlook on classic Jedi training methods. This is not just because of various circumstances surrounding her son, she’s had this opinion for many years before his birth. But Luke was insistent when Ben proved Force sensitive and there was nothing Leia could say otherwise that had any documentation, any records, any proof.

(she’s concerned that her use of the Force might be considered Other, or Grey, or Dark)

It’s like this: the Jedi are unsubtle.

It’s like this: Moving a blaster’s nose a half centimeter causes the shot to miss by a feet. It’s much easier to make 5 blasters miss than to throw 5 Stormtroopers backwards.

It’s like this: when Leia speaks, she is Forceful. When she speaks to a room, she starts with nudges to make everyone listen, she slides in quiet elation at her words, she ends with encouraging a feeling of being able to do absolutely anything in the Universe. 

And she lets her speech carry out the rest of the details, rather than her Force, she lets her people decide how to act, she lets choice finish their decisions and these decisions and choices lasts longer when she leaves the room than if she simply Forced someone to say, “I will do as you command.”

(she takes after her mother, she hears)

Leia wonders if that was how Palpatine caused her father to go Dark, and remains quiet when Luke trains her son.

And when Ben turns, she feels the reverberations, and can’t find it in her to blame Luke for it entirely.

(she wonders if she should have Spoken, or if it would have made things worse)

[[[because lol]]]

The base is collapsing around their ears, their TIE fighters are falling from the sky, and That Girl has come back with That Lightsaber and more training and for the life of him Kylo cannot hold his ground against her so he’s running but those are things he’s not examining too closely. Instead:

“HIGHLY TRAINED FIGHTERS, he says,” Kylo swears under his breath and dodges around more Stormtroopers, hoping they’d stall his pursuit. The Force tells him they don’t do a damn thing. “PICKED from a YOUNG AGE, he says, BETTER than CLONES, he says, THEN WHY CAN’T YOUR STORMTROOPERS HIT THE BROADSIDE OF A DEATHST–”

Hux suddenly skids to a stop. “She’s here.”

“WHO’S HERE?!”

“I don’t know what she has, the scientists can’t figure it out but when she’s around,” Hux staggers, panting, “at this point, no one can aim straight if she’s even on the same planet, let alone the same room and–”

“WHO?!” Kylo reaches out and grabs Hux by the throat, pulling him to his toes. “GIVE ME A NAME.”

A throat clears behind him.

“Ben,” His mother says.

Kylo freezes.

“Put that back where you found it. We need to talk.”

THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH. How else HOW ELSE I ASK YOU could a whole pack of storm troopers fire down a narrow hallway and hit nobody?

This is EXACTLY how I picture LEIA’S abilities holy shit good shit wow A+++ I want to write this a million times and have everyone write Leia like this.

FUCK AND YES

mel-0phobia:

thehomoschedule:

• be someone’s counselor and help them with all their problems if its bad for your mental health
  
• be there for someone 24/7
• remain friends with someone who emotionally drains you
• maintain negative relationships because you’ve been close for so long, because you’re related, or anything else
• do anything that makes you unhappy or puts your health at risk

This is so so so important and I took far too long to realise it and I know it’s tricky but cutting people out who aren’t good for you is the best thing you can do for yourself

coagulates:

As I get older the more I appreciate straight forward people. Like if you’re mad at me I will respect you if you tell me. I don’t understand adults that would rather stomp their feet and use passive aggressive behavior to communicate. Life does not have to be this difficult fam

HONESTLY.  If I have pissed you off, please feel free to be direct and blunt about it–note that this is different from getting pissy and telling me I’m a bitch or something.  If I think you make a valid point, I’ll apologize and change my behavior.  If I stand by my statement or behavior, that’s MY choice.

poseidhn:

goldentruth813:

27snowflakes:

rowena-on-broadway:

pynki:

pumpkingspicedpotter:

i-am-frillyknickers:

pumpkingspicedpotter:

somethingvaguetodo:

pumpkingspicedpotter:

Okay but what if all of the potions edits in Snape’s old textbook were just things he overheard James say in potions class because “no Padfoot you crush the bean! Cutting it doesn’t do anything! Trust me my dad told me”

But I love this because then when Harry always talks about how the prince is a much better teacher than Snape he would actually be learning from his father and grandfather…

I’m not crying
My eyes are just glistening with the ghost of my past

Based on what I’ve read on Pottermore, that’s basically 100% accurate cause James’ dad created a ton of potions (like Skele-Gro and the hair potion Hermione uses for the Yule Ball) and got super rich and that’s why James never had a job and left Harry tons of money. James would have handy potions making knowledge of that sort.

That’s exactly what I meant

A lot of people took this to mean that James was the one who was really good at potions and it was his favorite subject but all I meant was that he was probably very knowledgable about potions and couldn’t help giving his friends advice that Snape probably overheard

Like my dad is a doctor and although science may not be my thing I’m still probably more knowledgable than the average person especially with all of the lowkey medical work I’ve done over the years

OMG OMG OMG!

Ok, ok ok,

You know that joke that went around about “Why didn’t Harry recognize The Prince’s handwriting when he’d been staring at it on the board for 6 years?”

What if that was because it was James’s handwriting? He wrote the notes and Snape stole the book from James as a “Haha, fuck you, lets see how well you do without your cheat sheets” Then writing ”This book belongs to the half blood Prince.” to gloat that he took something from James Potter.

James is the only one we see use Levicorpus besides Harry.

I know that means James created sectumsempra, but still, it was a time of war and death eaters, maybe he created it as a last resort thing.

New head cannon

It actually makes more sense that James would have notated Sectumsempra “for enemies” because what would Snape care? If he wrote it, he would know what it does. Maybe James even overheard it or saw it used and wanted to warn himself in case he ever remembered the word but not the context and what would happen.

THIS THIS THIS OMG THIS @icanhelpyouthere @mangoapplepie @lycanthropuns THIS (also cry with me because harry wouldn’t know what james’ handwriting looked like)

That’s ok I’ll just cry myself to sleep tonight.

And it makes sense for Snape to want to get much better at Potions. Lily was repeatedly said to be the star of the class by Slughorn, and Snape must have wanted to impress her just to have something in common to talk to her because let’s be real, they deviated from each other when he started hanging with the dark magic practitioners. And who better to cheat off from than James Potter, the guy who’s like his archnemesis?

rootbeergoddess:

theaugustinwonderland:

thechronicleofshe:

 @owenabbott​ 

• Apply to a  job, wait (1) day, then call.  Give them your first and last name. Tell them you submitted an application and that you’re very motivated to find [Enter field name] work. Let the conversation lead you wherever it takes. Be very polite. Say” thank you for your time, I’ll be looking forward to hearing back from you.” Rinse, repeat. This is to force them to be looking out for your application. 
  
  
•  When you get to the interview, shake their hand firmly,  tell them your first and last name.  
  
  
• Describe your experiences  as “ two years transcription and data entry” if you have a desk job interview and “ [however many years]  costumer service, retail and stock” for your retail jobs.  
  
  
• Don’t use job “ buzz words” I stg they hear them all day. Say  things like, “ I’m detail oriented and am very good at taking instruction.”  “ I would like to work for a company with integrity and I feel that [ company name] would be a good fit”
  
  
• When they ask you if you have “reliable transportation” say  YES. don’t tell them what kind of transportation, just say yes. (if you don’t do this, you wont get the job , I’m telling you right now). 
  
  
• Research the company. Know what they do, why they do it, how OLD the company is. WHERE it was founded, and what kind of position you’re intending to apply for.
  
  
• When they ask you “ give us a situation where you had to blah blah blah” Make one the fuck up. Make yourself sound good as hell, and like you put your company’s needs slightly above the customer’s needs, but make the customer happy. 
  
  
• If they ask you about being outgoing, Say you “like to focus on your work so you can concentrate on doing things right” (which buys you out of having to act friendly all the time)
  

Questions for after the interview:

1.  Does this position offer upward mobility?

2. Do you enjoy working for the company? (if you’re not interviewing for a temp agency who will send you anywhere)

•  Then, shake their hand,  Ask them to repeat their name (REMEMBER THIS) say thank you for your time, wish them a nice day and leave. write their name down outside if you have to, just remember the fuck out of it. 
  

• AFTER your interview, send a card directed to the name of the person who interviewed you (I’ll give you them) that says “Thank you for the interview, I appreciate the opportunity. have a great day” This shows  that you have an understanding of professionalism, and will have them thinking of you kindly (or at least remembering you) when they’re shuffling through the choices. 
  

• DO NOT tell them you just moved to the city over the phone.  In person, tell them you just moved to the city. Make it sound like the only reason you need a job is because you moved. Not because you’re desperate. 
  

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 The titles of each section are key words you can use to search for jobs on Snagajob.com  and Simplyhired.

Data Entry:

1. http://citystaffing.com/job/data-entry-specialistsmailroom-clerk/?utm_source=Indeed&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=Indeed
   
2. https://www.roberthalf.com/officeteam/job-search/chicago-il/data-entry-clerks-needed/43517752?codes=IND
   
3. http://www.simplyhired.com/job/data-entry-specialists-job/chicago-transit-authority/jepfivkhjk?cid=udsowkxtausyzitcfeecaeuzoxkltmbl
   
4. https://jobs-theprivatebank.icims.com/jobs/3435/temporary—data-entry/job?mode=job&iis=SimplyHired&iisn=SimplyHired&utm_source=simplyhired&utm_medium=jobclick&mobile=false&width=792&height=500&bga=true&needsRedirect=false&jan1offset=-360&jun1offset=-300
   

 Front Desk:

1. http://localjobs.joblur.com/jobapplication2/?jobid=99957&subaffid=300006&JobType=Food%20/%20Bev%20/%20Hosp&ix=1&c1=99957
   
2. https://jobs.ajg.com/job/-/-/109/1256110?apstr=%26src%3DJB-10280
   
3. https://pepper.hiretouch.com/job-search/job-details?jobID=32066&job=receptionist
   
4. http://accesscommunityhealth.hodesiq.com/jobs/default.aspx?JobID=5203566 (this one is close to the place you rented.)
   
5. http://ihg.taleo.net/careersection/all/jobdetail.ftl?job=R113601&lang=en&media_id=24863&src=Indeed&src=JB-10920
   
6. https://covalentcareers.com/employer/listing/86450f8517588197c9b04f5068ed4300/detail/?apply=1&ref=indeed&v=30&utm_source=indeed&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=indeed_optical
   
7. http://www.careerbuilder.com/jobseeker/jobs/jobdetails.aspx?APath=2.21.0.0.0&job_did=JHN0KY6823WBWZX21VM&showNewJDP=yes&IPath=JRKV0F
   
8. http://www.simplyhired.com/job/front-desk-receptionist-customer-service-sales-job/rosin-optical-co-inc/qaeoquzgdi?cid=ivdnhijkmxchdanahwfoupazcwisfnxt
   
9. http://www.simplyhired.com/job/receptionist-front-desk-job/all-us-jobs/fonj7wmldf?cid=trhyvmfcsgjltxkjxkemyinsjveewfjp
   

Other jobs you don’t need a degree for that aren’t retail:

1. Dental hygenist ( yeah, seriously, who knew!) They also make about 40,000 a year)
   
2. Stenographer-Court Reporter
   
3. Surveyer ( you need a certificate for this, but its something you can get while working a temporary job and doing this on the side. Also, they make like $55,000 a year sooooooo) https://sjobs.brassring.com/TGWEbHost/jobdetails.aspx?jobId=1406428&PartnerId=16023&SiteId=5118&codes=IND
4. Real Estate Broker
5. Purchasing agents, except wholesale, retail, and farm products ( basically you arrange to buy large things) they make like 60K
   
6. Claims adjuster 
7. Loan Officer
8. Subway driver (trains) they make like 60K,
9. Duct Cleaner: http://jobview.monster.com/Duct-Cleaners-950-00-Weekly-Entry-Level-Flexible-Hours-Call-to-Apply-Job-Chicago-IL-US-161970321.aspx?intcid=re

I knew this but I’m reblogging cause someone might not know

I’m saving this.

bookelfe:

really what I want out of the Star Wars franchise now is an ensemble sitcom set in the Resistance base in the style of Brooklyn 99, with General Leia in the role of Captain Holt.

password-simulator-2016:

earthboundricochet:

idosmellbooks:

You probably know that the current situation for same sex couples in this country isn’t the brightest. Pretty much no recognition. At all.
Now, the government is finally working on a law for registered partnerships that would guarantee some rights to couples and the so-called “stepchild adoption” – though this point, still different from a “full” adoption, is really controversial and could undergo changes.

Opposition came quickly and the most traditionalist side of the country (mainly catholics) organized a “Family Day” to protest against the law – which will be discussed on January 28.
But LGBT associations are going to respond. They are all joining forces. They organized manifestations on the exact same day chosen by the traditionalist protestants, January 23 (turning the Family Day into a Family Gay) in 72 different cities all over Italy. And still counting. IT’S GONNA BE HUGE.

So Italy is going to look like this:

We really want to make our voices heard. We are tired of being invisible.
This is still so far from marriage equality, so far from what many other European countries have achieved. We are stil very far behind, and it’s just not fair.
But all those red marks stand for squares that will be crammed with people. All on the same day. All asking for equality. All over the country.
And they won’t be able to ignore us anymore.

I wouldn’t usually ask this, but in this case I’d appreciate if people shared this to let everyone know what’s going on in this country.

Gay marriage might have been legalized in the US and in other European countries, but here it feels like we’ll never even have partnership rights :/ this isn’t even the first time it’s been attempted and it’s always been refused for ridiculous reasons.

As always, Italy stands out for lagging behind when it comes to LGBT rights…

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PS: Here (in Italian) is a list of the places where it’s organized if anyone who is in the country wants to participate.

The only way to get shit done is to make your presence large and known.

It’s exactly what we had to do in the U.S. and other parts of the world are no different.

Be patient and keep at it, Italy. You got this.

bonehandledknife:

frenchieleigh:

annlarimer:

disparition:

where I grew up in California not only is “dude” generally non-gender-specific, half of the time it doesn’t even refer to a person at all.

I said it to a faucet today. 

I use it to curse the weather.

I pretty much have used it as every part of a sentence at some point today.

I use ‘dude’ indiscriminately for all genders, species, and inanimate appliances.

primarybufferpanel:

sacrificethemtothesquid:

winjennster:

lilyvonpseudonym:

keyofjetwolf:

docholligay:

Tumblr, I have an idea. You’re desperate to monetize this site. I get that. Running websites costs money, I know how the world works.

I am desperate for you to create a website I can use effectively.

I was on livejournal back in the day, and they had a thing called “paid accounts.” The free account was always free, but the paid accounts had special benefits.

If you offered paid accounts, I would buy one. I would give them away for giveaways. I would give them to my friends as gifts. I had a paid account back in my LJ days!

I think 25-30 dollars a year is fair for the amount of entertainment I get off this site, considering that tumblr, inc, does not make the content but serves as a vessel. That works out to 2.50 a month at the high end, which is more money than you are making off me currently because I use an ad blocker because we are at war. (Previous to you taking replies away, I actually didn’t! Because again, I understand how costs and money work) But also low enough that I think you’d be surprised how many takers you’d get.

Let’s stop fucking with each other and just turn this into a monetary exchange. I’m tired of the horseshit. You need money, I need a fucking useable fandom website. Leave free tumblr accounts as they are, I don’t care. But here’s what I want in a paid account.

NECESSARY:

• I want replies back. No ‘we’ll get around to it’ no ‘replies are coming.’ I want them back the day you run my Paypal. You have the code, don’t even tell me you can’t turn it on for a particular blog, because you did the exact thing with messaging. 
• I want to be able to upload videos direct to tumblr that are longer than 6 damn seconds. Give me some storage space. 
• Custom themes or some bullshit, I don’t actually care about this but other people might
• No ads for paid users
  

I would LIKE:

• To create a button where I can decide to make a post rebloggable or not when I create it.
• To have a quick dropdown when I ask a question so I can ask it from a sideblog.
• Fanmail back
  

Now, I am not a great fool, and realize there will be GREAT HUE AND CRY if you try to establish this. I don’t care. And you shouldn’t either. First of all, there’s great hue and cry every time you do literally anything. Secondly, the people who will complain the loudest are very likely already using an adblocker, because we are on the internet and savvy to it, and you are not making money on them anyhow.

And please don’t insult me, tumblr, by telling me it’s about ‘the love of the site’ or some crap. The changes you’ve implemented are designed to make this more of a look-reblog-move on site where things go viral and advertising can easily be slipped in, versus a conversational place. But I am telling you, ‘I will give you money to stop fucking with me’

Let me give you money. And stop fucking with me. 

@staff. Cash for services. We’ll both be happy.

In the optimistic event that someone actually takes a look, here’s my list.

As a paying user I would NEED:

• Replies back. Actual replies. At minimum, exactly like they were. I would happily accept them larger though, say the size of a question reply box or an Ask.
• A Tumblr-side blacklist tied to my account that filters on the server end so the content I don’t want to see never hits my dash. That blacklist filters on mobile as well.
• Better communication about things happening on the development side. By which I mean any communication at all.
• No ads for paid users.

As a paying user I would LIKE:

• An increase in post limits.
• Post-level control over what is or isn’t rebloggable.
• Some quality of life improvements offered by Xkit (like say tag bundles), if only because there’s no reason they don’t already exist I mean come on.
• An easy way to export/back-up posts. JUST IN CASE SOMETHING MAY HAPPEN TO SOMEONE’S BLOG AT SOME POINT PERHAPS I DUNNO.
• A way to organize the Ask Box, my god, please.

I’m not hard to please, I’m really not. You want money, I want to stay here. I fail to believe there’s not some way to make both our dreams come true.

I agree with all of the above, and would gladly pay for a membership if these features were available to users. Please start just asking for our money instead of sabotaging the social media aspects of your social media network to try and sell my content to advertisers.

Agreed. I’d be one of the first to hand over my dough. HOWEVER - my paid site should work on my phone and tablet too. I shouldn’t have to pay more than once.

One of the first purchases I ever made with my shiny new debit card was to upgrade my LJ account. It was worth every penny. 

I am 100% in agreement on all of these points.  

@staff are you listening? Have credit card. Will pay for actual proper functionality.

twisted-pine:

They will grow up completely untrusting with a general sense of sadness and guilt.

Manipulation includes:

- “I just wish [something passive aggressive involving your child]”

- “You do whatever you want to do.” and then getting mad when they make the “wrong” choice

- Not believing them when they tell you something someone did or said to them, including their friends, your friends, family members, or even you

- Doing something shitty and then pretending you didn’t in hopes they’ll forget?

- Getting upset when they open up to you. About anything. Even if it’s something angering or disappointing. Don’t show them it’s dangerous or counterproductive to talk to you.

- Making them feel bad for the friends/significant others they choose, career path (or lack thereof), school choice (or lack thereof), gender/sexuality (or lack thereof) literally anything that either they didn’t choose or that they would be miserable without

- Do NOT EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES pressure them to talk to you about personal things.

- Kids do not owe their parents anything. They did not choose to be born. You chose to get pregnant/chose to carry to term/chose to raise a baby (even if you didn’t choose all of these things, you at least chose one) under the assumption that you would love this child no matter what.

scifigrl47:

keyofjetwolf:

seananmcguire:

I am currently in the process of porting a lot of my older fanfic onto AO3, because I want it all in one place/don’t want it to be lost/want to revise it to be a little more in-line with my current standards of both quality and language use.  It’s so quick and easy!  I can’t remember why I didn’t do this before!

…oh, right, she says, as the hit counter goes higher without the comments, or even the kudos, to match.  Because I feel like I’m screaming into the void.

I come from very comment-heavy fic environments, and like most fanfic authors I have known, I am a little twitchy about “what if this is awful what if I am awful what if nobody likes my shit at all.”  So when I have 50 hits and one kudo, I actually feel pretty rotten, which makes me less eager to do the job of cleaning and posting.

This is hence a plea on behalf of all fanfic authors: remember that the people who write the stories you enjoy are not getting paid for their time in anything other than “you did good, have a cookie” comments from people.  Please consider commenting if you liked a story.  Please consider leaving a kudo if you read all the way to the end.  There are stories that are qualitatively bad that I’ve left kudos on, because hey, I read them, they gave me an hour of enjoyment, they deserve a cookie.

We have infinite cookies to give.  We should share them freely, because wow, does it suck when fanfic makes fanfic writers sad.

That’s all.

This feels particularly relevant to a lot of chatter I’m seeing cross my dash.

Writing is hard. Writing is scary. Writing takes time and effort and care and love love love. Which is true of any fanwork of course, but fanfiction also requires a significant investment from its audience before it can even begin to be seen. With art or gifsets or any other visual medium, the work can be consumed, appreciated, and commented/reblogged/whatever within seconds. It takes longer than that just to read the description on a work of fanfiction.

But in the same vein, your fanfic writers give you hours of entertainment in return. Whether it’s a smile or a sob delivered in ten minute ficlets or 100k monsters you’re still reading at 3 am, fanfiction will give you a level of immersion unique to the fandom experience. With fanfiction, the characters live forever and the story never ends.

Still, that commitment from the audience means we’re already looking at a sliver of the same attention, without hope of the same scale of interaction and response. That makes what we DO get so very critical.

If you read something, take a moment to click those kudos or likes or whatever. If you liked it, leave a comment, If you loved it, love your fanfic author back and tell them. TELL THEM EVERYTHING I PROMISE YOU WE WANT TO HEAR

Remember that the only thing that nourishes fandom creators are your responses. Your fanfic writers are timid, starving creatures. Feed them. Love them. I said the characters live forever and the story never ends, but that’s only true if the storytellers keep telling stories. To do that, they need an audience. Make sure they know they have one.

Think of your fan creators as skittish, timid forest creatures.  If you speak in a kind voice and leave scraps of food around, chances are, they’ll keep visiting the yard of your fandom.  Yell at them, ignore them, or make your fandom yard an unpleasant place to be, and they disappear, leaving you wondering why your yard is so empty and boring.

gabbysilang:

zeegoesthere:

ok so like. obviously the whole scene with finn and poe on the tie fighter is one of the most important things of our time, but what I especially love about it is their mutual giddy enthusiasm? like, I guess just because finn had just finished being an evil storm trooper and poe had shown himself to be a smartass I was expecting some like, growly banter and gruff dislike-but-I’ll-work-with-you dynamic, but instead they’re both just sunshine and puppies right off the bat. poe gives finn his name and finn is like “I love it :DDDD” and poe is like “I love you :DDDD” and when finn makes the shot and flips out about it poe doesn’t mock him for being excited he’s just like “YEAH WHOO THAT WAS AWESOME!!” and then they tell each other they’re both awesome and laugh a lot and it’s all smiles and giddiness and a romcom escape from the First Order and I just. they’re both so happy to meet each other and IT KILLS ME.

i’m such a sucker for this thing where people meet and are immediately like oh, finally, thank god, it’s YOU. 

bystander3:

Can you imagine?

You are moping on your island of self-imposed exile, and then this girl shows up.

• She’s flying your best friend’s ship. The ship that Han thought he lost for ever. The ship that was stolen and passed through so many hands that he was sure he’d never see it again. The same ship that took you away from home for the first time.
  
• She’s accompanied by your personal droid. The droid you left behind and abandoned. The droid that C-3PO was sure would never be the same again.
  
• She holds out her hand and she’s holding your father’s light saber. The sword you were sure was lost forever. The light saber that you dropped down a bottomless air shaft on a gas giant thirty years ago. The light saber you knew you would never see again.
  
• You look up and you see her eyes. Maz Kanata says that if you live long enough, you see the same eyes looking out of different faces. The girl’s face is different, but those eyes are the same. You know those eyes. They’re the eyes you thought you’d never see again.
  

And that’s when you know it.

You’re screwed.

They say sometimes the Force works in mysterious ways. Sometimes, the Force will send you little signs. Subtle clues.

Other times, the Force will just beat you repeatedly over the head with a gigantic neon sign that says: “You can’t run away from your past anymore, Luke. I won’t let you. Look, here is your past come back to haunt you. Now deal with it.”

dragonreine:

darthstitch:

notreadytosettle:

ozhawkauthor:

If you wish to take part in any fandom, you need to accept and respect these three laws.

If you aren’t able to do that, then you need to realise that your actions are making fandom unsafe for creators. That you are stifling creativity.

Like vaccination, fandom only works if everyone respects these rules. Creators need to be free to make their fanart, fanfics and all other content without fear of being harassed or concern-trolled for their creative choices, no matter whether you happen to like that content or not.

The First Law of Fandom

Don’t Like; Don’t Read (DL;DR)

It is up to you what you see online. It is not anyone else’s place to tell you what you should or should not consume in terms of content; it is not up to anyone else to police the internet so that you do not see things you do not like. At the same time, it is not up to YOU to police fandom to protect yourself or anyone else, real or hypothetical.

There are tools out there to help protect you if you have triggers or squicks. Learn to use them, and to take care of your own mental health. If you are consuming fan-made content and you find that you are disliking it - STOP.

The Second Law of Fandom

Your Kink Is Not My Kink (YKINMK)

Simply put, this means that everyone likes different things. It’s not up to you to determine what creators are allowed to create. It’s not up to you to police fandom. 

If you don’t like something, you can post meta about it or create contrarian content yourself, seek to convert other fans to your way of thinking.  

But you have no right to say to any creator “I do not like this, therefore you should not create it. Nobody should like this. It should not exist.”

It’s not up to you to decide what other people are allowed to like or not like, to create or not to create. That’s censorship. Don’t do it.

The Third Law of Fandom

Ship And Let Ship (SALS)

Much (though not all) fandom is about shipping. There are as many possible ships as there are fans, maybe more. You may have an OTP (One True Pairing), you may have a NOTP, that pairing that makes you want to barf at the very thought of its existence.

It’s not up to you to police ships or to determine what other people are allowed to ship. Just because you find that one particular ship problematic or disgusting, does not mean that other people are not allowed to explore its possibilities in their fanworks.

You are free to create contrarian content, to write meta about why a particular ship is repulsive, to discuss it endlessly on your private blog with like-minded persons.

It is not appropriate to harass creators about their ships, it is not appropriate to demand they do not create any more fanworks about those ships, or that they create fanwork only in a manner that you deem appropriate.

These three laws add up to the following:

You are not paying for fanworks content, and you have no rights to it other than to choose to consume it, or not consume it. If you do choose to consume it, do not then attack the creator if it wasn’t to your taste. That’s the height of bad manners.

Be courteous in fandom. It makes the whole experience better for all of us.

Yup.

Slaps onto blog.

I’m reblogging this everytime I see it, because holy hell, it seems that some people need to be reminded of this every now and then. And it always needs repeating with every new “generation” of fan, or when new fandoms appear.

lifeisajourney10:

gloriousbacchus:

religiousmom:

tumblr friendships are hard to maintain like im sorry i know i havent talked to you in 5 months but you’re still super rad and i still consider us friends im just dumb

#if you’re wondering if this is for you #it’s probably for you

If I have ever messaged you or messaged me and never heard from me again, I still consider us friends. I just suck

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

duhdean:

omg this dude is like yelling a phone conversation outside im pretty sure his gf is breaking up with him 

i have discovered her name is sarah and he “loves her so fucking much” and that “these words should not be leaving her mouth right now”

this has been going on for like an hour he just keeps going around in circles

i think its finally over because he just screamed and threw is phone

now hes cursing up at the gods and petting his own hair i feel like i should do something

hes like walking around screaming and sobbing and cursing idk what to do

i just yelled out the window “its okay dude dont worry you’ll find someone else” and he went totally silent i dont think he knows where my voice came from because he looks really freaked out now …what have i done 

HE JUST SCREAMED “HOW DO YOU KNOW?!” WHAT DO I DO I STILL DONT THINK HE KNOWS WHERE MY VOICE IS COMING FROM BC IM SCREAMING FROM MY UPSTAIRS BATHROOM

OH MY GOD I PANICKED AND REPLIED WITH “because you are a very good looking young man and any woman would be lucky to have you” I SOUND LIKE A FUCKING GRANDMA

he seems satisfied with this reply

i think i actually calmed him down he seems almost okay now

he just picked up his phone i think hes going home now. i hope his phone is okay

goodbye random heartbroken dude i wish you luck on your journey home.. wherever your home may be

bisexualdavidjacobs:

stephrc79:

eveanyn:

If you have never been in, or aren’t around people who’ve been in, I would dearly love to give you a few pointers.

Let me preface this: I love it when people write military fics (be they AU or canon-fic). I love the characterizations, the story arcs you create, and the love with which you create the stories.

But I’d like to help you make the actions of military personnel as accurate as possible, so someone who’s actually in doesn’t start to read your fic and roll their eyes at some of the things you unknowingly write.

-First off, you do not salute in civilian clothes. It’s actually unauthorized. There are only two exceptions to this rule: the President is allowed to salute in civvies, and if the national anthem is playing outdoors, combat veterans are now allowed to salute. (That came about in 2010, for accurate reference.)

-Do not salute indoors, unless during a formation (but I doubt people who don’t have intimate knowledge of drill and ceremony would bother writing about a formation, so that point is mostly just thrown in for shits and giggles). 

-The army and air force do not say, “sir, yes sir”. That’s a marine thing (I’m not sure about the navy, since I’m not in the navy, but I’m sure someone else could help out if there’s a question about it).

-Saying “black ops” isn’t really something we do. For the army, you’ve got SF (which is how we refer to special forces–the guys you’re probably thinking about (”green beret” is an old term for them that’s not really used anymore)) and Rangers for the two big special operations forces. SEALS are the navy force, and I apologize, but I don’t know the other branches’ special forces. Again, ask someone who’s served in that branch.

-People don’t usually refer to themselves (or others) by their ranks. Exceptions are usually made if hanging out with people from your unit speaking about a superior, such as “Yeah, LT and I were talking the other day and …”. 

-Sergeants are not referred to as “sarge”. You have no idea how many people got the shit smoked out of them in basic for that error.

-Army goes through Basic Training (or Basic Combat Training now; BCT for short), and marines go through Boot Camp. Yes, there is definitely a difference in terms. Army people tend to refer to their initial training as simply “basic”. I don’t know about marines or other branches.

-Calling someone “Soldier” is really something only done on TV/film. It’s usually mocked by people who are in.

-In the army, it is against regulation to just stick your hands in your pockets. We mockingly call them “Air Force gloves”, though I don’t know if they typically put their hands in their pockets. There is also a big stigma against wearing “snivel gear”: the poly pro cold-weather protection gear worn underneath your uniform.

-The everyday Army uniforms are called ACUs (Army Combat Uniform). They are never called anything else, but especially not fatigues. If you’re going back to 2003 or earlier, the uniform was BDUs, or the Battle Dress Uniform. The tan uniforms worn during the Gulf War and first few years of Operation Iraqi Freedom (OIF) and Operation Enduring Freedom (OEF; Afghanistan) were called first chocolate chips (gulf war-era) and then DCUs (Desert Combat Uniform). 

-The dress uniform is called something different depending on what time period you’re going for. Saying “dress uniform” is usually a good bet, because you’ve also got Class A’s, Class B’s, ASUs, Dress Blues, Khakis, etc. 

-Typically when meeting someone else who’s in, the first things you ask are, “What’s your MOS (military occupational specialty–your job)? Where were you stationed?” Giving out rank and deployment backgrounds out of the blue don’t usually happen. 

-Time spent in the military is usually referred to as simply being “in”. “How long were you in for?” is heard way more often than “how long did you serve for?” That question is usually asked by civilians. 

-There are enlisted, and there are officers. Enlisted are those who start out as privates, work their way up through the NCO, or non-commissioned officer ranks: sergeant (called “buck sergeant” in a derogatory term for someone who has been freshly promoted), staff sergeant, sergeant first class, and eventually get to first sergeants and sergeants major after fifteen to thirty years in. Officers also usually start out as privates and specialists, then graduate from college and commission as second lieutenants (the derogatory term is “butter bar” and is usually used in reference to said officer’s lack of experience and knowledge) before working up to first lieutenant, captain, major, lieutenant colonel (”light colonel”), and colonel (”full bird”). The general timeline is making captain (”getting your railroad tracks”) after about 5-8 years for competent officers, and spending 5-10 years as a captain. 

-We do not stand at parade rest unless forced. Ever.

-Or at attention.

-When talking to an NCO, a lower enlisted will stand at parade rest. When talking to an officer, an enlisted will stand at attention.

-The highest ranking NCO is lower ranking than the lowest ranking officer. 

-If you want to throw in some humor, if there is a lower enlisted (E-4 (specialist) or below) joking with an NCO, and the lower enlisted says something, the NCO can snark back with, “I’m sorry, I didn’t hear you because you weren’t standing at the position of parade rest.” It’s a dick move usually to call people out for that, but it happens often enough that if you put that in a fic, someone who’s in will likely laugh at that for a few minutes.

-There is a term for a slacker in the army called POG (pronounced “pohg” with a long o). It stands for Personnel Other than Grunt, meaning everyone who’s not infantry. The term has transformed to mean anyone who shirks their duty or is kind of a shitbag and should be kicked out. 

 -There’s also a bit of a stereotype that infantry are made up of dumb guys, because you don’t need a high GT score to get that MOS. Their nomenclature for their MOS is 11B (eleven bravo), which is often referred to as an “eleven bang-bang” when trying to insult them. 

-If someone is making someone else do push-ups, they do not say “drop and give me x number”. They’ll tell them either to push, or tell them to get in the front-leaning rest. The front-leaning rest position is the starting position for the push-up. 

-Usually referring to basic training and AIT (advanced individual training, where you learn your military occupational specialty), you get “smoked” on a regular basis. This refers to PT (physical training), usually in the form of push-ups, flutter kicks, and sprints. It’s not fun. One of the least favorite phrases to hear in basic is, “Platoon, attention! Half-left face! Front leaning rest position, move. In cadence! Exercise!” Because that is the full command for getting people to do push-ups. There is literally no other reason for the half-left face movement. It honestly exists only for push-ups.

-It is awkward as fuck to be told “thank you for your service”. It’s wonderful that people want to show their support, but it is very difficult to respond to that without sounding like a douche.

I know I said a lot about basic training in there, but that’s because I tend to read a lot of fics that are either about basic or about deployments. I can give some pretty firm answers on basic, but everyone’s deployment is different, and I also could be violating a shit-ton of OPSEC (operation security) by telling you guys specific details about deployments. Everything I’ve told you is information you can look up on your own on the internet, but this is a bit more insider’s culture for you to help make your stuff more accurate.

And if you ever find yourself writing a military fic and have questions, by all means, inbox me. I’ve been in for almost nine years and I do have one deployment under my belt, so I can give you accurate army info. I’ve never served in any other branch, though, but I can probably give you a little bit more accurate info than what the movies do if you’ve got general questions.

Also, if you’ve got questions about PTSD, I can help with that. It’s not the cake walk that a good deal of fics portray it as, and it doesn’t always involve nightmares and aversion to touch. It can present as depression, intense anger issues, pulling away from loved ones, driving in the middle of the road, freaking out over pops, bangs, crashes and other unexpected noises, being easily startled by things other than noises, hypervigilance, the inability to sit with one’s back to the room, sudden bouts of anger, depression, tears, silence, or mood swings, among many others.

-Also, please, please, if you’re going to write about someone with a disability, or something that gave them a medical discharge, talk to me about the VA first, unless you’ve got a lot of knowledge about them. Not only am I in, but I’ve also worked professionally for the VA, some of that time in enrollment and eligibility, so I know a lot about disability pensions, who would qualify, what type of benefits they would qualify for, etc. I also know the ways that people can accidentally get screwed over from the VA. (It’s actually one of my long-term professional goals to change some of those things, so I am very passionate and very knowledgeable about it.)

TL;DR: I know shit about the military and the VA. Ask me if you have accuracy questions.

This is AMAZING. Thank you,. OP!

Thank you for offering up this info! It’s honestly where I end up hitting a wall a lot of the time.

genuinewarmdecentfeeling:

Consider this: Finn stealing a fry off of Rey’s plate because he heard that’s a cute thing couples do and he wants to balance out their “I’LL SAVE YOU!” emotional intensity with some cute things, only Rey freezes and Finn’s like, shit, I just stole food from someone who grew up without it, what Attack Mode did I just activate. But then she just fucking dumps all of her food on his plate all “I’LL FEED YOU, YOU’LL NEVER GO HUNGRY WITH ME” and they’re right back in the emotional intensity, and Finn doesn’t even like fries that much.

flawlessastrology:

cubanflagemoji:

hey if any if you want to donate cases of bottled water to residents in flint, send them to:

Triumph Church
1657 Broadway Blvd.
Flint, MI 48506

omg please do, they can’t even bathe without getting rashes, let alone drink water. this hits too close to home

nocturnalvisionary:

This is REALLY important. This is for any doctor appointment. Whether it be cuz you are sick, or disabled, or ANYTHING. Unless it’s a MRI, Xray, Catscan, etc where NO ONE can be in the room with you (cuz of machines and radiation etc), you do not have to listen when someone says you can’t bring someone back with you.

You are the patient. This is YOUR body. Don’t let them tell you it’s ‘a small room’ don’t let them tell you that it’s not common. This is YOUR body. If you are more comfortable with someone in that room with you- INSIST. Insist multiple times if you have to, be REALLY upset, show that you are upset.

As someone who has been in PLENTY of different doctors offices and procedure rooms, the only real reason to not allow someone else in that room is if it’s because of sanitation/safety reasons (ie - surgeries, MRIs, X-rays, Catscans). Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

^^  Very much this.  I usually take a great deal of pride in being able to deal with anything alone, and I’m old enough now that it’s strange for me to bring people back with me.  BUT I was severely traumatized during a dentist appointment when I was seven and I still REALLY NEED to have someone with me who knows me well enough to tell a dentist (or literally anyone who puts me in a chair and comes at my face, really) to back the fuck off in the event that I start to panic harder than usual.  So hell fucking yeah, you better believe I tell them my mother’s damn well coming back with me, and when they give me shit I trust her to press the point.  If you’re too anxious or unwell to argue with a medical professional (the stress of visiting a medical professional makes me lapse into old behavior patterns in which I view any authority as a direct threat, which is AWESOME and super helpful), discuss it ahead of time with the person you want to bring with you.  It’s so much easier to defend someone else rather than yourself, and a good friend or a trusted family member can make the whole experience less painful.