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File under: Things I did not expect in this month’s Cosmopolitan, but I am quite impressed by. Now if they could write a little more about it that would be great.
(Also if someone who was asexual could actually confirm this is an appropriate and nice response, because I’m assuming it is.)
reasons why asexuality & ace spectrum orientations need to be recognized and discussed in the mainstream media. i wonder how many people realized asexuality existed after reading this article? and looked into it and felt that relief of “i’m not alone!!! i’m not a freak!!!”
Color me impressed.
Yes, it is not only a nice response, but an honest, insightful and compassionate one. The writer has put their finger on what I think is probably the primary damage most asexuals grow up with: In a world where everyone seems obsessed with sex, where there seems to be absolutely nowhere to turn and no one to look to if you’re not, the almost inescapable conclusion (typically reinforced by the people around you if you seek advice from friends) is that you must be broken.
(And let me tell you, going through life with every movie, book, TV show, news article and poster ad—not to mention friends and family—telling you basically, “But you should want to bang this hot person right here!” starts feeling pretty rapey after a while.)
Stumbling across a small article in a random magazine that says, “Have you considered that maybe you’re not broken? There are other people like you. Look, there’s even a name for it” is…holy shit.
thank you
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Left:
I want a go home I’m tired
Right:
Don’t Hit ME
what’s happenin in koreaYou want to know what’s happening? Korea’s education system is literally the most rotten piece of shit to ever exist.
Let me explain the context of the poster on the left.
The average time a kid spends in school in the US is 900 to 1000 hours per year, spread between 175-180 days (x)
In 2007 there were mass student protests in Netherlands because they increased the hours spent in school to 1040 hours per year, or 8 hours a day, 130 days a year. (x)
Korean high schools, on the other hand, enact a 3150 policy, 225 days of school with 14 hours a day, or from 8 am to 10 pm (x)
Also due to the private education sector of hagwons and the fierce competition of Korean high schools, basically after school kids go to hagwons, or personal academies, till 2, 3 in the morning, fit in maybe 4, 5 hours of sleep and go back to school. (x)
It was only in 2012 that schools went from having classes on Saturday excluding the first and third Saturday, and it was only in 2007 when they changed from having class every Saturday. (x)
This system is literally the epitome of the factory schooling system which comes as a result of a capitalistic schooling system and it works kids too hard which is one of the reasons Korean school kids are some of the unhappiest of pretty much any OECD country. (x)
For the photo on the right, physical punishment is not fully banned in Korea.
Since 2011, Seoul, Gyunggido, Gangwondo, and Julla Bukdo have banned the use of direct physical punishment, or basically hitting kids with either tools or physically with their body. That being said that’s basically only about half of South Korea.
Also, indirect physical punishment such as making kids to planks, make them kneel with their hands up, making them run laps, or of the sort is still fully acceptable in all Korean schools. (x)
Anybody who’s a Korean in a Korean school right now already has experience with getting beat by a teacher and some kids still have to deal with physical punishment by teachers.
14 hours a day.
14 hours a day.
14 hours a day.
14. HOURS. A. DAY.
When my mom was young and she was in high school, kids often got punished for not bringing materials in on time and sometimes when one kid in the class got in trouble, the whole class had to pay for it as well and they would get beaten on the hands, butt, calves, etc. with a meter ruler. Students also have to run laps, and make them kneel with their hands up, or other physical punishments if they run late to class. Students also get home at around 10 PM and eat dinner then.
Thank you mom and dad for immigrating to Canada
THING NOT MENTIONED:
You can get punished for:
- dying your hair
- having piercings
- wearing accessories
- having long hair
- wearing your uniform in a way that is “inappropriate”.
- excessive makeup
Compared to the things above, these things might seem superficial, but I think that people, especially girls, would definitely feel a strain on their freedom if this happened in the states as well.
LET ME REPEAT THIS: KOREA HAD TO PASS A LAW SO THAT STUDENTS WOULDN’T BE OUT STUDYING AT HAGWONS UNTIL 2AM. EVEN SO, THAT LAW IS BROKEN BY STUDENTS WORRIED THAT THEIR GRADES WOULD DROP.
((this part is irrelevant)) Newflash: korea isn’t perfect !
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u ever like have a crush but its not a crush its not romantic ur just like “-looks into persons eyes- u….r my bro………….4ever……………..our broship will never die…………..ill fight 4 u in HELL we ride……………..ride………….ride on the roads of bro hell 2gether………………………………..”
(Source: princeprimrose, via dadnetos)
so i go to a private school where tuition costs more than most people make in a year and lemme tell you, rich kids are so unaware that they’re rich it’s hilarious and frightening at the same time
I go to a private school too and a while back I was complaining about how I was never home alone and a guy legitimately said “just buy a hotel room”
Rich kids are scaryThey really are.
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i’ve been doing research about jobs/companies that are accepting of trans and the like since i’m going job hunting again next month, and i found this list, which lists trans-friendly businesses. it links to this page, a directory for employers.
tagging so people can see it, i figured this might come in handy for some people!
BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOST
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- Have you eaten in the last 4ish hours?
- Have you had something to drink today?
- Can you have something, even if just milk or water or cup’o’noodles or toast with something yummy on it, if you haven’t, please?
- If you have any injuries, can you please take care of them for me
- Also please take any meds if you should and haven’t, yet?
Whatever you have or haven’t done today just know you’re super strong and I am so proud of you
Okay you can go back to blogging now~ <3
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“
So, we’d been together for ten years, and we were going through kind of a— we’d been going through this kind of rough patch, and it was a little bit about like “are we gonna do this forever; what’s gonna happen,” and she was opposed to the idea of the institution of marriage because gay people couldn’t get married, and it’s kind of a fucked up thing anyway, and I wasn’t— but I wanted, I wanted to do it. It was somehow important to me, and— um— I really didn’t know what she thought about it, and we had this weird thing where we really didn’t talk about it— um— but I thought it was a crossroads, like, we’re either gonna do this or we’re gonna not and we’re gonna move on.
And so, I was working on a movie that was shooting on an island off the coast of Maine, and I was there for like three months, and I found this little jewelry making shop, and the guy— there’s three guys that work there, but one of them had just died so his bench was open. And they let me come in and work at this jewelry making bench, and I spent like a month— I didn’t— I’d never made any jewelry before, so I didn’t know what I was doing, and it took me a really long time. It took me about a month to make this ring, and— uh, and I did. It was gold. I carved the wax, and I cast the gold and set the stone. And I had built— I had made a little wooden ring box a couple years before that I still had with me ‘cause I’d been thinking about it for a long time.
So, anyway, she— uh— she comes out for our ten year anniversary, and she gets there. I have this elaborate picnic out on the pointe. I— uh [chokes up and laughs at himself] I don’t know what happened to me. I need more sleep.
Um, so I got down on bended knee. I said, you know, “We’ve been together for ten years, do wanna get married?”
And she said, “Ten years?… No, we’ve been together for nine.”
And I’m like, “No, no, it’s ten… Is that a yes?”
And she sort of looks at me incredulously and says, “I guess so.”
It was really deflating and totally unsatisfying, but she took the ring, and she put it on, and then I actually had to go shoot that day, and I came back to the inn where we were staying, and— uh— we crawled into bed together, and she was sort of squirming under the sheets really excited.
[audience laughs] Come on, people, this is a sweet story.
And she— uh— she slipped a ring on my finger, and I was like, oh that’s so sweet, while I shooting she had gone out and she had gotten a ring for me, and— uh— it turns out, in fact, she had stayed up after I had gone the sleep the night before, and after I fell asleep she had sized my finger and called back to the jewelry—
[starts tearing up again] This is pathetic. This was ten years ago too, so I’ve had time to deal with it.
She had called back to the jewelry making shop in Santa Monica where she had been making me a ring. and I beat her to the punch by— by one day, so she was likearrghh. But she had made this ring that had— which I’ve now lost— but she made this ring that had nine holes, one for each year that we’d been together. So when she found out that it was actually ten, she was like, ohh no.
Now I see why we’re not supposed to do those stories. I get it now
” — Misha “I can’t even anymore with this man, dear god where is mine” Collins (via idkwtfablogis)(Source: youtube.com, via winjennster)
“I hate people generally, but I like people individually.” — introverts - janesblueheaven (via perfect)
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