My emotions are valid*
*valid does not mean healthy, or good, or to be privileged above common sense and kindness
A distinction for anyone who is young and hasn’t figured this out yet:
You are allowed to have whatever emotions you want. No one can control your emotions. Emotions are healthy responses to things.
You are not allowed to have behaviors that are harmful just because you have certain emotions. Your behaviors are what you can control, and they are far easier to control than your emotions.
You can be jealous about someone or their talents until you turn green, but it is harmful to yourself and to that person if you try to sabotage them because of it. You can be so angry you can literally feel your temperature rise, but this does not give you permission to rage at others.
Your emotions are valid. They are always valid. You are a person of value. However, you behaviors are not always justified just because of those emotions. You may not be able to control you emotions, but you can certainly control your behaviors.
and this one, i beg you to learn before you become right-wing fundamentalists: just because something gives you revulsion feelings does not mean it’s morally wrong.
you may be sex-repulsed; that doesn’t mean sex is dirty and bad. maybe you were bullied by teenage girls; that doesn’t mean teenage girls are a force of evil. perhaps a villain in a work of fiction reminds you of someone who abused you; that doesn’t mean people who enjoy that character or that fiction are abusive. your feelings about those things are absolutely valid, and it’s not right for people to tell you you shouldn’t feel that way. but it’s also not right for you to act out against others based on those feelings.
that instinct to generalize served our species well when we were hunter-gatherers living in small bands in a hostile wilderness. you nibble a delicious-looking berry, you throw up, you know that berry is BAD and you make the yuck face whenever you see it so the other hominids know it’s a bad one. but in the modern world, in the information age, there are so many complex things you might encounter, you’re going to have badfeels about a lot of things that aren’t actually across-the-board bad.
you need to not be ruled by your hominid yuckberry instinct. that’s where bigotry comes from.
You need to not be ruled by your hominid yuckberry instinct. That’s where bigotry comes from.
This is a beautifully succinct summary. Thank you very much.
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Headcanon that an outraged 6-year-old Charlie Weasley writes to an elderly Newt Scamander wanting to know why Gringotts keeps a dragon locked up underground and begging him to fix it. Newt writes back saying that sadly he’s been fighting that fight for years and no one ever wants to listen to him because the powerful families whose money is being kept safe by the dragon always shut him down, and that Charlie is the first person he’s heard of who’s as angry as he is about it. Charlie decides that day to dedicate his life to finding out everything he can about dragons so that one day he can free the poor Gringotts dragon. After the war, when they hear that Harry, Ron and Hermione freed the dragon, they celebrate and immediately begin petitioning to have it made illegal to imprison dragons so that nothing like that ever happens again. It’s only when Hermione becomes Minister that it’s finally signed into law.
This is the best Harry Potter headcanon I’ve ever seen
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piggybunny12 asked: Oh my god that prompt fill broke meeeeee--his last line ;adkjfa;djkj;ljd Thank you! I think... :P
Eep, oh, wow, I’m so glad you liked it! And I’m sorry…a little. Not much.
piggybunny12 asked: EXR--Point of No Return from Phantom...or really anything from Phantom. I saw it last night and all the sudden it's sophomore year of high school again for me...
Not gonna lie, baby, I have not…actually seen Phantom of the Opera, but I googled the song and Tried. Yeah, yeah, I’m a heathen, I know. I am Trying. And this. Oh god. I make SUCH a rule about not writing smut except on specific request, so I just…stopped before it progressed to actual sex. But rest assured that’s where this goes, and if you’re interested I’m glad to write it.
“Combeferre, make sure our weapons are prepared,” Enjolras was saying, the sort of rapid-fire rattle that commanded effortless attention. He’d worked his way through every present member of Les Amis and then some by now, even little Gavroche getting instructions as they readied themselves for the next day’s march. That just left… “And where the hell is Grantaire?”
“Madame Houchloupe commandeered him as waitstaff,” Courfeyrac said with a wicked grin.
“What?”
“He means that she asked him to fetch more wine from the cellar, it’s crowded tonight,” Combeferre translated with a sigh. “He’s probably still down there.”
“We are—this is not the moment for his antics,” Enjolras snapped, a scowl writing itself deeply into his features.
“He’s been gone barely ten minutes,” Joly said, waving a hand. “If you’re so thrice-blasted worried, go find him yourself.”
- “We’re your family, we’re allowed to make fun of you”
- “Come on, it’s just a joke”
- “toughen up and stop being a baby”
- “We’re just teasing”
BULLYING IS BULLYING NO MATTER WHO IT COMES FROM.
IT JUST HURTS A FUCKLOAD A LOT MORE WHEN ITS COMING FROM PEOPLE YOU TRUST
FUCK OFF.
this post will often go weeks without a note
and then there’ll be a holiday
and it resurfaces
and that makes me sad
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Immaculate Conception by Keaton St. James
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Actual Director of Magical Security Percival Graves is going to be able to get away with anything, literally forever, with everyone else in MACUSA
“Graves, your paperwork’s piling up.”
“Is it? I’m trying to work through the backlog that Grindelwald left. You know, when he stole my life, here, and worked with all of you. For months.”
“Graves, Goldstein is out of line again.”
“That’s funny. I could have sworn I’d given her a commendation. Oh well. Maybe it was Grindelwald. Who can tell the difference, right?”
“Hey, sir, uh, Picquery wants to make sure you’re briefed properly for the meeting.”
“Hey, remember when I was Grindelwald and no one noticed? Fuck you, Abernathy.”
HAHAHA YES. HE WOULD NEVER LET IT GO.
“Sir, we have the warrant for Credence Barebone’s capture and execution prepared as per your report.”
“You mean GRINDELWALD’S REPORT, because does this look like my writing style? It sure the hell doesn’t look like my writing style. Do I look like a moron who cannot recognise a magically gifted child who needs to be RESCUED from idiotic no-majs?”
This is the high-five grizzly of good luck. Reblog to keep 2017 from sucking. Or just because high-fiving a bear would be cool. (Probably terminal eventually, but cool in the meantime.)
Things I have learned from the high-five grizzly of good luck: a statistically unlikely number of you all appear to self-identify as grizzly bears.
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