Do you mean doctors who spent years learning about abled white cis men’s bodies
do you know anything about the world besides what you read on tumblr
Okay but this is true?? Shut up with your bullshit, the medical industry for a very very long time has used the able bodied white cis male as their standard and that has very real healthcare consequences for a lot of people.
Do you know why most women don’t know when they’re having heart attacks? Why heart attacks kill more women than men? Because symptoms of a heart attack are different for women and the ones that doctors usually recognize and publicize are the symptoms experienced by men. Do you know why it’s so difficult for Black and Brown people to get diagnosed if they have skin cancer? Because doctors have been taught to recognize it on white people. People of size are constantly told that their problems are entirely because of their weight and doctors don’t even bother to look beyond that to be sure that’s the case. So those people have medical conditions go undiagnosed properly for years, and die in the process. Fuck, even just the fact that people think it’s okay to charge women more for healthcare because “they have extra parts” (?????) is indicative of the way the male body has been considered the standard for fucking ever. And the healthcare needs of disabled people or trans people? Forget about it.
OP is 1000% right. The medical industry has used the able cis white male body as their standard of care for CENTURIES and that has real consequences for the rest of us today. It’s getting better but it’s not where it should be. So fuck off with your snarky commentary, you’re wrong. The healthcare industry is not equipped to handle the needs of people with disabilities, women, PoC, trans people, people of size, etc. and that’s in large part due to the fact that the established body of medical knowledge was created by studying able, cis, white male bodies almost exclusively.
Hey there folks, speaking as a trained EMT and a pre-med student, I can confirm that the above person is approximately 7000% accurate. In my EMT training, I would repeatedly ask ‘’but what if my patent is a woman” or “what is my patient is a person of color” and at first all I got was shock. Then I got confused bumbling. I got some answers–basic symptoms of a heart attack in women, how to recognize cyanosis in someone of color, the basics of how to work with an autistic patient or someone who for whatever reason can’t communicate well with you. In fact, EMTs and other EMS workers are getting a lot better at learning the differences between the health care for a person of color or someone disabled. We were even told that we would need to ask our patients for their biological sex (I know, I’m really sorry, I know that there are people who find this intensely uncomfortable or even harmful, but there are real medical reasons for this and most decent EMTs will use whatever pronouns you ask them to). But most if not all of the answers we were given about women were directly related to gynecological issues. The guys teaching me? They were good guys. Nice. Funny. Smart. Devoted to caring for patients. Impassioned about protecting people, especially women and teenaged girls, from assault. Largely not sexist toward me or their coworkers. Hell, they were even smart enough to say “listen, boys, the women in this class have a higher pain tolerance than you, they just do, and as a rule if a women says their pain is a 5 on a scale of 1-10, assume it’s somewhere around an 8” when a kid laughed during the gyno unit. But they just didn’t know what to say when I asked “so if you’re supposed to palpate the patient’s chest, what do you do if your patient’s a triple-D” or when I asked “so if your patient gets menstrual migraines, how do you know if this headache is a stroke or not.” They had never been taught. This is a real problem, one that many medical professionals work hard to remedy once they start practicing. But this is not bullshit. At all. The standard patient is a cis white guy with no disabilities or chronic illnesses. It’s a huge fucking problem and I’m going to need you to step down with your bullshit, there, friend.
This is an issue with mental health too, where people of color (black and Hispanic people especially) are less likely to be taken seriously with mental issues, and where community outreach for these groups is very very different from the kinds of programs that might be effective for white people.
Autism is rarely diagnosed in women because the symptoms doctors look for are all specific to men. Doctors used to blame depression and other mental illnesses in women on a misbehaving uterus, and it’s still a struggle for women to get their symptoms taken seriously enough to merit proper treatment.
Mental health for LGBT people has a long history of being an oppressive shitshow, given how long it took the medical community to stop pathologizing sexuality and gender identity. (Conversion therapy is still legal!)
As well as autism rarely being diagnosed in women, it’s also harder for a person of colour to be diagnosed, as it’s perceived as being a middle-class+ white man’s disease.
And! We didn’t know how large the clitoris was until THE NINETIES because no-one thought it was worth investigating. Thanks to a female researcher in Melbourne, Australia, we know that it’s roughly a wishbone shape, and has two ‘legs’ that extend down under the labia majora.
Okay, so he’s got a girly face, and he wears tights and some high boots. Sure.
But check out that noble steed. That’s one ready-to-kick-ass-and-take-names steed.
While other princesses just run away and leave nothing, Philip gets AN INVITE TO HER HOUSE. He gets a song, a dance, and a first date.
He comes home, just to tell his dad he’s not going to marry the princess because he’s in love.
No. Other. Reason. He rides in and is just like, “I met the girl I’m going to marry. Now I’ve got a birthday party to be at. Bye Dad.”
Now how much do you think his dad weighs? That short fat little man? Probably pretty heavy.Not a problem for Prince Philip.
And then he gets jumped by goblins, both hands tied behind his back
But that’s not enough to stop Prince Philip.Oh no.
He breaks his hands free and starts chuckinggoblins.
Look at that face. That face. The “BITCH JUST YOU WAIT” face. He may be tied down by a dozen goblins but he’s not gonna take no shit from this witch.
In fact, he’s so strong, she ends up keeping him chained to the wall, but he still fights back.
Now when he finally does get free–
He’s ready to go into battle UNARMED. He don’t need no shield or sword, he’s going to go punch Maleficent’s face in with his fist. If Flora didn’t stop him, he probably would have, too.
Backed up against a cliff edge, nowhere to go. Fighting off goblins. But there’s so many and just one Philip.
NBD I’LL JUST JUMP AND SLIDE DOWN THE ROCK PILE IN MY SKIN-TIGHT TIGHTS.
Gate closing?
who gives a fuck? certainly not prince philip.
Lighting hitting rocks around me?
NBD BRO
Giant forest of thorns?
Bitch, get out of my way. I’ve got a princess to save.
“Last Monday morning was a little colder than I expected, so I made sure that there was a warm change of clothes in my daughter’s backpack in case she wanted to change. She’d had her heart set on wearing her rainbow sun dress since the weather warmed up so I finally acquiesced and let her. Still it wasn’t too surprising to me to see her walk out of school that afternoon with her T-shirt on over the dress and her jeans on under it.
“Did you get cold, sweetheart?” I asked her.“No,” she said a little crestfallen. “I had to change because spaghetti straps are against the rules.”
I’m not surprised to see the dress code shaming come into my house. I have after all been sadly waiting for it since the ultrasound tech said, “It’s a girl.” I didn’t think, though that it would make an appearance when she was five years old.
Five. You get me? She’s five. Cut her hair and put her next to a boy with no shirt on and she is fundamentally identical. I guess you could argue that a boy would not be allowed to wear a shirt with spaghetti straps either, but the day they sell anything like that in the boys section of a Target I will happily withdraw my objections.
Have you ever stopped to think how weird a school dress code really is? I went and checked out the one for my daughter’s school district and it’s amazing in how hard it tries not to say what it actually means. There are literally no male-specific guidelines anywhere on that list. I mean prohibitions against exposing the chest or torso could hypothetically apply to boys except that they don’t. Not really. They don’t sell boys clothes that do that. There’s nothing that is marketed to boys that is in anyway comparable to a skirt or a sun dress. Essentially, a school dress code exists to prevent girls from displaying too much of their bodies because reasons.
I didn’t pick up my daughter’s dress at My First Stripperwear. It’s not repurposed fetish gear from a store for very short people. It’s a dress from a mall chain store in her size. It covers everything but her shoulders and a small section of her upper chest and back. She’s worn it to church, and in the growing heat she was looking forward to wearing it a lot because it’s light and comfortable.
You know what really grills my cheese about it? It’s not even the shirt they made her put on over her top, it’s the pants they made her wear underneath. It’s a full-length dress that she has to hold up to keep from getting wet in uncut grass. She even had a small set of shorts underneath because it was gym day. But because the top part of her dress apparently exposed the immoral sinfulness of her bare shoulders she also had to pull on jeans even though her legs remained completely covered as part of her punishment.”
“I swear to God and all his Alf pogs I really didn’t think that I would have to face that particular dragon before she even entered a numbered grade.
Now I have this child, the one that argues scientific points about everything from the top speed of land animals in Africa to the classification of the planets with me endlessly, wordlessly accepting that a dress with spaghetti straps, something sold in every Walmart in America right now, is somehow bad. Wrong. Naughty. And most importantly that the answer is to cover up.
Make no mistake; every school dress code that is not a set uniform is about policing girls and girls alone.”
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sonnetscrewdriver asked: Here's something I've been wondering that you might be able to tell me based on one of your Wezuru protags; How would I express being non-binary in Welsh, and does Welsh have a singular non-gender-specific personal pronoun?
This is such weird timing! I literally just spent yesterday and today talking to someone about this, and I genuinely just had a moment of “But I’m sure you read my blog” before remembering that the whole conversation was actually in Welsh. What a fool I feel.
So, Steff and I put our heads together over a term for ‘non-binary’, because you’ll be unamazed to learn that Welsh has not yet had to form a lexicon on this subject. We’ve come up with “anddeuaidd”, which more or less literally means ‘non-binary’ but also kind of has to cover all forms of atypical gender identity because the language does not yet have the nuance to cover it all. That includes ‘agender’ - Welsh doesn’t have a word for ‘gender’, only ‘sex’, and so ‘agender’ literally - “diryw” - would actually mean ‘sexless’, and have all the same connotations that word has in English.
“Anddeuaidd” isn’t in common parlance or anything, of course. That’s literally just what Steff and I came up with, using his authority as a Translator and Guardian of the Language. And, just like if you said “I’m non-binary” to most people in English, the majority of your audience won’t have a clue what it means, so you’ll still have to follow it up with a brief explanation. But, it’s a word, and I feel a pretty good one.
Pronouns, though. Trickier. Because, you see, Welsh is a more heavily gendered language than English anyway, so there’s no neutral pronouns, but… well.
So, without getting too deep into the grammatical quirks of the Welsh ‘to be’, we’re looking at three pronoun sets rather than the two in English - so while English would have ‘she/her’, for example, Welsh would have ‘she is/her/her (possessive)’. So the trick is something different for each.
With the first, “mae e’n” is “he is” and “mae hi’n” is “she is”. So, for a truly gender-neutral experience, you go for “mae’n”. Which I suppose translates to “_ is”. This is also pretty well ensconced in oral Welsh these days, actually, which is handy. To be hyper correct and formal, for example, “it’s sunny” would traditionally be “mae hi’n heulog” (because weather is feminine), but these days almost everyone would say “mae’n heulog”. So, you just apply that to a human. Simple enough.
The second - starts getting a bit trickier. There’s just no equivalent of “it”. But, that’s fine, really, because you can use “nhw” (“they”), like you would in English. It’s slightly more odd than it is in English, but only slightly. These things get normal with use, anyway.
But, the third! So this one is great, and really fucking Welsh, okay get this. So in Welsh, the word for “his” is “ei”. The word for “her” is “ei”. They’re both “ei”! Hooray! Hoorei! Eh? Ei?
Problem: Welsh mutates. The way in which you distinguish between a masculine “ei” and a feminine “ei” is through the mutations that immediately follow them. Masculine “ei” gets a soft mutation, feminine “ei” gets an aspirate mutation. That’s not foolproof, actually, because some letters are immune to both of those - “ei sanau”, for example, means who the fuck knows the gender of whoever owns those socks. But “ei gi” is “his dog”, while “ei chi” is “her dog”, so. You work it out?
What this means is, mutations are sometimes pronouns. Just to make everything really nice and clear. Sigh.
SO, when you ask people to use your new pronouns, you also have to request the mutations of your choice. Personally, I think the easiest way here must be to just drop all mutations after your possessive pronouns. Given that most people struggle with mutations anyway, that’s probably for the best. But hey, fuck it, if you identify as a third gender, why not use the third mutation type? Nasal mutation! “Ei nghi”! I mean, that’s awful, and no one will do it. But. Philosophically. Pretty cool.
So, TL;DR:
“Non-binary” = “anddeuaidd”
“NB he/she is” = “Mae’n”
“They” = “nhw”
“NB his/her” = “ei” + mutation of your choice (probably drop the mutation).
Okay, so we’ve been giving this a bit more thought, and I’ve done some research. Tagging in @sonnetscrewdriver and @galahheadgalahad as the two people who asked about this.
In fact, there are two words in Welsh that can be used to mean ‘gender’ instead of ‘sex’, and they are ‘cenedl’ and ‘rhywedd’. At first glance, ‘cenedl’ seems to be the way to go, because that’s the word used when you talk about grammar, i.e. “’Chair’ is feminine so you need a soft mutation, Timmy, you little shit.” Under those circumstances, if you use the word gender, you use ‘cenedl’. Problem solved!
… Except it’s not, because if you tried using ‘digenedl’ for agender, people would hear the other meaning of ‘cenedl’, which is ‘nation’. You would, in effect, have said “I’m nationless.” Very different statement, and it might set UKIP on you.
‘Rhywedd’, though, is bang on the money, I think. I’ve searched to check for context, because the last thing we need is for me to recommend this to a learner and then it turns out it’s also an old West Walian dialect word for a breeding sow or something, but one of the first hits I got back was NHS Cymru’s page on gender dysphoria in Welsh, and they are using ‘rhywedd’ - also Citizen’s Advice have a Welsh page on gender-based violence that uses it, and a Gender Conference Report looking at sexual discrimination in STEM fields, and the University of Wales Press uses it for its translation of Gender Studies, and yeah, I think we’ve found our match.
And then, I found NASUWT Cymru’s guidance for teachers on gender, which was extremely helpful because it had a paragraph (in both Welsh and English) that included the terms ‘non-binary’ and ‘non-gender’. Turns out, in Welsh you just take the long way round at the minute - they went with “y
rhai hynny nad ydyn nhw’n ddeuol” for ‘non-binary’ (”those who are not binary”) and “y rhai
hynny sy’n teimlo nad oes ganddyn nhw ryw” for ‘agender’ (”those who feel they don’t have a sex”).
So, basically, yeah, we need single words. Going with their declension endings and stuff, I would therefore revise “anddeuaidd” to “anddeuol”, and I would give ‘agender’ as “dirywedd”.
“Agender” = “dirywedd” (pronounced “dee-REW-eth”, where the ‘th’ is pronounced like in the English ‘them’, and the middle syllable rhymes with the slang word ‘ew’, i.e. “omg he’s a transphobe? Ew.”)
So there’s a blind kid in my class, and today we were having really bad thunderstorms in our area. All of the sudden there’s a huge crack of thunder and all the lights go out. Some girl screamed “Oh my god i can’t see anything!” and the blind kid goes “Me either!!” and i just lost it
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This is awesome. I know picking up the phone and calling someone can be dreadfully intimidating, so here you lovely darlings go. Talk to someone!
“if trump loses will clinton really be any better?” YES. yes holy shit why is this even a question yes she will fucking be better!!!! have you read her policy!!!! have you paid attention to what she’s saying!! you may not like her but she wants women to have access to abortion, she wants gun control, she doesn’t want to overturn same-sex marriage. she doesn’t want to ban muslims from immigrating to the country. like the amount of hatred for hillary clinton is honestly insane when your other option is donald trump