Rise Up, Oh Heart, For There is Another Battle to Win

May 22

skinnysteven:

can we please talk about how t'challa, a very masculine, badass, powerful character, admits he was wrong as soon as he realizes it?? he was really, tremendously wrong and he admits it and changes his behavior with like… no problem or ego or bullshit whatsoever? he doesn’t hang on to that masculine “i must be right all the time” thing. he doesn’t. that’s just so magical and pure. t'challa for president 2k16

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agnellina:

judeoceltische:

zozi-schlegel:

sootonthecarpet:

varlandgear:

HEY TEAM. Let’s not put “inspirational” coco chanel quotes on things. she was literally a nazi. like i don’t give a fuck what she said about being a woman or an individual or whatever. i promise you there are quotes from other people that can get the same point across. People who didn’t directly get incredibly rich off nazi seizure of jewish owned businesses and property. People who weren’t literally NAZI SPIES AND PAID AGENTS OF THE SS like coco chanel was. Remember when you put “A girl should be two things: who and what she wants. - Coco Chanel” on some post that what and who Coco Chanel wanted to be was Abwehr Agent 7124, code name “Westminster"

oh, here’s an article with more info about coco chanel’s history and antisemitism and stuff. it’s a bit long, but like, if you’re curious or want receipts.

Coco Chanel was a collaborator, the most despicable thing that anyone could choose to be in Nazi-occupied France, and it’s revolting that people brush over that. There was a reason she fucked off to Switzerland after the war and didn’t re-enter fashion until she was 70, and it’s very telling that the British and Americans embraced her comeback but the French didn’t. That should reflect very badly on English and American people, tbh…

I would, however, like to mention that the company Chanel S.A. is owned by Alain and Gerard Wertheimer, the nephews of Chanel’s Jewish business partner, whose share she tried to convince the Nazis to seize for her. (He’d already sold the company to a Gentile friend and gotten the hell out of France, so that came to nothing. He later won control of her name on the product in court.)

So buy their lipstick with a clear conscience. If you can afford it.

Thank you for adding this! I bring that up all the time, but sometimes feel like I’m the only one.

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derinthemadscientist:

tyrianterror:

kunchuu:

So my dad has new clients and their son is transgender. He got pregnant with his boyfriend and put the baby up for adoption and the baby was adopted by a gay couple….which means that his baby daughter has 4 dads and no mom.

This kid is going to own at the ‘my dad can beat up your dad’ game.

“My dads can out-barbershop quartet your dads”

I just choked on air, I hope you’re proud of yourself.

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Anonymous asked: robot friend does not agree. 'failure' is inability to fulfill directive. human has no programmed directive. human evolutionary directive is to live. you are alive. everything else is bonus.

roboticdreams:

I’ve been saving this message in my inbox for a long time because it always makes me feel better. I needed it today. Thank you

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thedarkside-and-thelight:

handypolymath:

mominmudville:

soyeahso:

There are a couple of things about current shipping culture that confuse me.  

1. The focus on whether or not a pairing will become canon as a reason people should ship something or not.  Do you not understand what the “transformative” part of “transformative works” means?”

2. This idea that saying “I ship that” means “I think that, as presented in canon,this is a perfect, healthy relationship that everyone should model their relationship after.” 

Sometimes shipping something does mean that.  Sometimes shipping something means “Person A is a trash bag who doesn’t deserve person B but I would love to explore how Person A might grow to deserve Person B.” Sometimes it means “I want these characters to live together forever in a conflict free domestic AU.”  Sometimes it means “I want Person A to forever pine after Person B.  Nothing is beautiful and everything hurts.”  And sometimes it just means you like their faces and want to see Person A and Person B bone in various configurations and universes. 

Listen to your parents, kids.

This really should be one of a handful of Public Service Announcements randomly and chronically inserted into one’s dash.

PSA

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Anonymous asked: Have you read Sunshine? What did you think? (I am low-key always creeping for other people who know who the hell Robin McKinley is and who like her stuff.)

leupagus:

BOY HAVE I. I love that fucking book, even though McKinley, like a real asshole (and I mean that with affection and respect) has declared throughout the years that she’ll only write a sequel if the muse comes to her or the moon is in the seventh house or whatever the fuck. Lady, you sit your ass down and YOU WRITE ME THE SEQUEL.

I love that book a lot; it’s one of my comfort reads, in part because it’s a book that at one point discusses the concept of comfort reads. Sunshine came out during a time when I was having a difficult relationship with my mom, and I really connected with the way that Sunshine’s mother was such a huge, palpable presence in the book - and yet never actually appeared in a scene, never had any dialogue, was never there in the solid sense. That also made me realize that character can be written in ways I’d never previously imagined, much less tried myself, and so it inspired me to write more creatively. It’s such an interesting book that would be impossible to make into a movie, although I’d definitely watch a tv show of it; there’s so little action and so much introspection, so much meditation on the importance of memory. It is - and I mean this sincerely - what Twilight could have, and should have, been: a story not about love so much as partnership and faith and bravery. It makes me believe in people.

But seriously McKinley what the fuck bro.

ultrafacts:

“To show your true color” = You reveal who you really are, your true character when you show your true colors.

Early warships often carried flags from many nations on board in order to elude or deceive the enemy. 

Sailing into battle under false colors went against the Articles of War, but unscrupulous captains and officers who cared more for payback and beating the enemy than stuffy rules and regulations, would often go into action with false colors in order to gain the element of surprise. [x]

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Some rarely-mentioned signs that parents are abusive

clockwork-mockingbird:

all-about-abuse:

I see a lot of lists of things that abusive parents do. But some things I have never seen in a list so far and I would like to add them, because according to the other lists, I’ve never experienced abuse from my parents. But just because it doesn’t appear on a standard list doesn’t mean it’s not abuse, so here is an addendum.

I think most of these points are specific for kids who are disabled, mentally ill or neurodivergent, and that this is the reason why they never appear on other lists. But these kids are especially vulnerable to (emotional) abuse, so I made this.

1. Shaming you for your disabilities, mental illness or neurodivergency. This includes undiagnosed conditions. If a parent sees that their child is having problems, they should try to help or, if they can’t, get external help.

It is not okay for parents to shame you for self-harming.

It is not okay for parents to shame you for having meltdowns.

It is not okay for parents to shame or punish you for things you cannot help, no matter how hard it is for them.

Yes, if parents do honestly have no clue what is happening, they might misinterpret your (re)actions. But no later than when they talk with you about it, they should eventually realize that you’re not doing it on purpose. Parents can and should get help from others and/or professionals if it’s too much for them.

2. Shaming you for mistakes. People make mistakes. Inexperienced people make more mistakes. Young people are by definition inexperienced. Especially those of us who are mentally ill, neurodivergent or intellectually disabled, (but really literally everyone) is bound to make mistakes while growing up.

You might not know that there is a difference between cleaning agents and shower gel. You might not know that lotion isn’t good for a potted plant. You might now know that there is a reason why the cat is in that cage. You might think that something is a good and harmless trick but it actually has really bad consequences.

You might not know these things even if everyone else your age does. It’s not your fault. 

It’s okay for parents to be angry, disappointed or shocked. It’s not okay for parents to let it out on you. It’s their job to teach you and if they didn’t do it correctly, it’s not your fault. 

(For example, I didn’t know that cleaning agents and shower gel are different things until I was 18. As a little child, I was told to stay away from cleaning agents and not to touch them and I was never told otherwise, so I just accepted that until I was taught otherwise by someone else.)

3. Breaking promises. This sounds vague, I know. And I know that sometimes promises can’t be held. Sometimes they are forgotten. Sometimes even parents don’t have the energy to keep up their end of the bargain. It happens.

But if it’s a constant pattern, if you are coerced into doing things you don’t like by promises that will never be held, it’s not okay any more.

4. Threats. It’s one thing to explain to a child or teen the consequences of their actions. It’s okay to explain that you need to study or else you will fail your tests and it’s okay to explain what happens then.

It’s not okay to threaten you with grave consequences for minor failures. It’s not okay to remind you of these consequences every time you do something wrong. It’s not okay to keep threatening you when you are unable to do whatever it is they want you to do.

5. Threatening you with things that should not be threats. It’s not okay to threaten a child or teen with doctor’s appointments, hospitals, psychotherapy or psychiatry. These things are supposed to help. You should not grow up to be afraid of needing a doctor or a therapist.

Seriously, instead of a parent threatening their child with psychiatry, they should just go there and try to get help for the whole family because it’s probably desperately needed.

6. Sudden and unjustified punishments. It’s not okay to suddenly punish you for something that has previously been okay. 

If parents are fed up with their children’s behaviour, they should establish rules and explain and justify punishments, and give their children a chance to actually comply (while also considering their children’s abilities).

(For example, as a teen I never helped with housework. I didn’t have the executive functioning and I never got taught how to do it. But suddenly I was punished for not helping with housework.)

7. Unpredictability. It’s not okay to suddenly change the rules without warning.

It’s not okay if it’s “You should go out more often” one day and “No you are not allowed to go out” the next.

Some parents have trouble offering a constant reliability due to their own illness/disability/neurodivergence. It happens. 

But the moment it makes you as their child afraid of their reactions, afraid that they might have a sudden change of heart, it’s not okay any more.

8. Assuming bad intentions where there are none. As I already said, people make mistakes. People even make stupid mistakes. People misjudge, miscalculate, people lose their temper. This happens to parents as well as to their children and everyone else. 

What is not okay is for parents to see you doing something wrong and immediately assuming you’re doing it to harm them.

(For example, I always stayed up late. My parent had trouble sleeping. When I made too much noise, they assumed it was intentional in order to deny them their sleep.)

9. “I want you to do the thing but I also want you to want to do the thing.” This is a tricky one, but I have heard this from so many people that I’m including it as an extra point. I think it’s actually some sort of double bind, because you can only do it wrong or do it wrong in a different way.

It’s okay for parents to demand their children do things they do not like, for example doing chores, doing homework and similar things. (However, it’s not okay to demand more than you can actually do.)

It’s okay for parents to ask their children to do them a favour, for example sometimes do a little more housework, helping them with other stuff, going to the store and so on.

It’s okay for you to not want to do something. It’s okay to do something even if you don’t want to. Actually, most favours work that way, you rarely ever like them but you do them anyway because you want to do something for someone else. Most chores work that way. Almost nobody likes doing the dishes.

However, it’s not okay to make you feel bad for doing something anyway. If you don’t like doing something, you don’t like it, and nobody has the right to demand you to feel differently about it. 

10. Making you feel bad for opening up to them. If you tell a parent about your experiences, your feelings, your problems and your secrets, they should be accepting and loving.

Punishing you for things they would have never known if you hadn’t told them is wrong. Shaming you for things they would have never known if you hadn’t told them is wrong. It’s a parent’s job to offer their child emotional support. It’s wrong for them to show you that you can’t trust them.

And nobody gets this. There were times in my childhood that I wished they would just hit me, because the mentality of adults is a bruise is the only proof of abuse. I would tell people what was happening and they would brush it off.

“Parents are supposed to be like that.”

“You’re not supposed to get along great with your folks as a teenager.”

Eventually, even I thought I wasn’t being abused. I just thought I was screwing up somehow and my parents hated me. I bottled that shit up for years.

It took me twenty-two years to finally go see a shrink and one session for her to tell me I was abused my entire life.

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