I think as a culture we have all forgotten that fandom is supposed to be fun.
It’s not that serious.
It was never supposed to be that serious.
Especially since most of the drama and hurt revolves around shipping.
All of the ships are fictional. Being canon doesn’t actually negate the fact that the ship isn’t real.
No ship, or any aspect of a fictional universe, is important enough to treat another real life human being badly.
It’s not that serious.
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i wish there wasn’t such a stigma around being proved wrong, bc it’s a part of life, no one can be right all the time. if we didn’t feel as much shame about it i think a lot of things would change a lot faster
we all need to practice saying “I hadn’t thought of it like that” “I hadn’t seen it that way before” “I must have misunderstood the first time I heard about it” “if I had known those facts I wouldn’t have thought like I did”I need to learn this 🙈
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In case anyone was curious, I’ve never really…drunk alcohol before. So I’m sitting with my best friend and our legal-to-drink buddy and they’re playing alcohol and I’m on Tumblr and making snarky remarks and between the three of us we’ve gone through most of a bottle of rum in well under an hour. Updates will be forthcoming as events occur.
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pros and cons of gryffindor house
pros:
- enthusiastic and willing to help
- they’re the kid who gets stuck holding the door for everyone, but they’re grinning the entire time
- brave enough to be the one to order pizza
- protective of everyone, it doesn’t matter who they are
- loud and powerful
- beautiful and radiant as the freaking sun you will remember them
cons:
- loud as hell
- big on trying to push people far out of their comfort zones
- tend to be conceited
- you know that kid who lectures everyone about how they should be better people and then just sort of turns around and bullies the class jerk? they’re probably a gryffindor
- and they probably think they’re helping the class
- they always want to be the best
- over the top
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am i the only person not affected by generalized positivity… like post it notes in bathrooms that say ‘you’re beautiful’ or posts that are like ‘smile! you are a beautiful sunshine flower!’ i’m just like … okay…
I just heard a psychologist (Guy Winch) say that the people that positive affirmations help most are actually the people who have high or at least normal self-esteem. They really do cheer those people up!
But for the rest of us they run so counter to our general worldview (we’re fundamentally bad and deserve nothing) that our brain rejects them immediately as lies and uses that moment to remind us of how terrible and abnormal we actually are.
What usually works for people with low self-esteem is stuff like writing out a list of very specific things we know we’re good at, and revisiting it every day to write a paragraph elaborating on one of those things (i.e. “I’m a compassionate person and here are five examples”) to try to set our brain on a different track long term.
That makes so much sense.
the psychology behind the “ok that sounds fake but ok” meme
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i adore how much Dirty Millennial Writers focus on found family as a central theme. we love it so much! we all just wanna move in together in a big house with all of our friends and marry everyone, and i think that’s nice
ia we’re all super dysfunctional organisms and we all want to come together to form one MUCH LARGER dysfunctional macroorganism and i think its a very noble ambition
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