People shaming jo for supporting a black hermione now, but in past saying emma was exactly how she envisioned her are really missing the point. Jo is white, and she saw a lot of herself in the character so it makes sense for her to see hermione as white. But despite this she has always, ALWAYS said it’s amazing how people see the characters differently and she has always supported that.
So don’t start attacking her now for being fake, instead maybe question why you have to be so bitter and cynical despite this happy and amazing casting.
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THE GODS WILL STRIKE YOU DOWN FOR THIS.
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me trying to comfort a sad friend
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yo btw if u ever have a crush on an aromantic person or anyone on the aro spectrum please don’t try to put the other person on the spot for not returning your feelings.
Like, don’t go “oh my gosh imagine if you weren’t aro! We would have so much fun…” Or “aw man, I wish you weren’t aro…” Because that’s disrespectful and makes it seem like the other person is at fault for the feelings YOU developed.
So if you ever have a crush on your friend who’s aro, please don’t be rude or disrespectful. Don’t invalidate their identity and romantic orientation because you want a romantic relationship with them. They don’t.
This goes for everyone. It’s really rude to tell someone that their sexuality or gender (who them are) inconveniences you because you like them.
What the fuck, is this a thing people do? Who does this? This is so shitty. If you want to privately be sad that someone is (FOR WHATEVER REASON) not returning your romantic interest, that’s okay. But then remind yourself that…shit, man, that person doesn’t owe you anything. No. Nothing. Your unrequited feelings are your problem, not their fault.
Shit, I want to punch something.
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So I’m in theatre class
We’re working on Shakespeare scenes for competition
A couple of freshmen boys are doing a scene that mentions a sword
The teacher is trying to tell them that they do not need to have a prop sword
They are not understanding
So young
So naive
“90% of the time” she says
“When Shakespeare says ‘sword,’ he’s not talking about a metal sword”
They are still not understanding
The rest of the class understands
We know what we are witnessing
The destruction of innocence
They are so new to the ways and language of the bard
Cinnamon rolls
Pure
Unaffected by theatre kids
Untouched by the horrors of the world
They still do not understand
The teacher does not know what else to do
She knows they cannot go to competition wielding an actual prop sword
She knows they will eventually learn
The class knows this too
We are dying to know what she will say next
She opens her mouth
We are on the edge of our seats
She yells
“LETS TALK ABOUT PENISES!”
Whoop.
There it is
The secret is out
Shakespeare makes dick jokes
Theatre teachers sometimes say things other teachers don’t
It is a shock to their system
In their minds, the kill bill siren
Their world has turned upside down
We can see it in their face
We lose it
We are accustomed to this
We have heard worse
But seeing their faces
It is too much
At this moment
The door opens
A sophomore enters
This is his first theatre class
All he heard was
“Let’s talk about penises”
He shouts out in a confused horror
The cycle is never ending
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I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.
Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:
- A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly
- He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out
- But he doesn’t do that to guys, and
- He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and
- When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable
- And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space
- and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness
- And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy
- So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills
- And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women
- And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target
For example:
- Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.
- Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.
What went wrong here?
- Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.
- Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right.
- Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness
- Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong
- Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy
A rule of thumb for men:
- If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t
- Listen to them about what they tell you
- If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.
- If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men
- Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable
- If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose
- Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men
tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.
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