Princess Bride themed restaurant. Waiters say “as you wish” after taking your order.
Finish the Fezzik in an hour, your meal is free.
Come in a wheelbarrow, your meal is 10% off.
Every so often the hostess will say “bye bye boys, have fun storming the castle!” as people are leaving.
Miracle Max’s Cure for the Mostly Dead is on the menu and its a giant chocolate cakeball.
The servers will sometimes switch your wines after distracting you.
They sell Anybody Want a Peanut Brittle at the door.
“There are a shortage of perfect chicken breasts in the world. Twould be a pity not to order these.”
“Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya. I’ll be your server.
Prepare to dine.”Instead of “large,” you get an item of unusual size.
People on their anniversary get to listen to a recitation of the mawidge speech.
The kitchen door says “Brute Squad.”
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Abuse is often categorized into different forms. While some are fairly well known, others are rarely discussed outside of anti-violence activism and the like. In addition, many people are unaware of how various kinds of abuse are defined and what actions are considered abusive. Here’s a list to help make things a bit clearer. Please note that some actions are abusive in multiple ways and this list likely won’t be able to describe every abuse behavior. In addition, this list is designed to be as generic as possible so it can be applied to a variety of different situations rather than exclusively focusing on romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, friendships etc.
Emotional abuse:
Far more than ‘hurting someone’s feelings’, emotional abuse is a devastating form of abuse which can affect an individuals self worth, feelings of safety, and quality of life. It can even lead to mental health issues. While often dismissed as a ‘less serious’ form of abuse, the impact of emotional abuse can be devastating and last for a long time.
Behaviors include;
- Frequent, excessive and unwelcome criticism (as opposed to constructive criticism which is asked for and given in to help. Some people will claim their emotional abuse is actually meant to be constructive criticism, however, if its not requested and related to a specific thing a person is doing, then chances are, this is a lie)
- Put-downs and name-calling (this is also verbal abuse)
- Controlling the victim
- Invalidating their feelings and experiences
- Withholding (this includes ‘the silent treatment’, refusing to listen, and withdrawing emotionally)
- Excluding the victim
- Telling the victim that their thoughts, feelings, ideas, interests etc are wrong/bad/silly
Physical Abuse
One of the more well known forms of abuse, people often think that physical abuse is limited to romantic partnerships where one person hits, punches or attacks the other. While those behaviors are physically abusive, violence is not limited to contact that causes injury or even physical contact, and it can occur in any relationship.
Examples of physical abuse include
- Hitting, slapping, pinching, hair-pulling, biting, scratching, choking
- Pushing, shoving and grabbing
- Standing over someone to intimidate them
- Blocking a doorway or exit
- Any and all unwanted and non-consensual physical contact
- Throwing objects (whether at the victim directly or elsewhere)
- Breaking your possessions
- Threatening violence
- Threatening with a weapon (such as pointing a knife or gun at the victim)
- Forcing you to make eye contact with them
- Driving wrecklessly/dangerously while the victim or victims children or pets are in the car
- Harming the victims pets
- Forcing the victim to eat or not letting them eat
- Not allowing the victim to sleep
- Locking the victim in/out of the house
- Denying the victim access to medication
- Not allowing the victim to use the toilet or meet other physical needs
Psychological Abuse
Emotional and psychological abuse are often discussed together as emotional abuse since there is a lot of overlap. What affects us emotionally also affects us psychologically. It can still be helpful to distinguish the two sometimes. It’s also sometimes referred to as mental abuse.
Behaviors include
- Gaslighting; denying the victims experience and making them question their reality or perception, hiding the victims personal items then claiming the victim lost them, denying that something happened when it did, and more
- Invalidating the victim
- Calling the victim ‘crazy’, ‘insane’ ‘psycho’, often when they confront the abuser about their behavior
- Minimize or dismiss the victims achievements
- Behaving in ways that cause the victim to feel intimidated or afraid
- Using the victims fears against them (e.g forcing you to hold a spider knowing you’re afraid of them)
- Behaving in erratic or unpredictable ways to make the victim feel scared of what the abuser might do
- Terrorizing the victim
- Subtle threats which communicate that the abuser is dangerous or intends to harm the victim e.g cleaning or playing with a weapon in front of them
- Using mental health issues the victim has to blame them for the abusers behavior or deny that that certain things happened
- Threatening suicide or self harm if the victim leaves or doesn’t do what the abuser wants
- Making the victim responsible for the abuser
Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a broad term that is often thought of as forced sexual contact, however it also includes sexual behavior without touch. The behaviors below are sometimes related to age, for example, exposing a child to pornography is always sexually abusive whether or not the child wanted or asked to see it, whereas for adults, forcing the victim to watch pornography (whether by physical force or coercion) is sexual abuse.
Behaviors include
- Forcing the victim to engage in sexual activities (rape)
- Engaging in sexual acts in front of the victim
- Discussing sexual activities in front of the victim (especially children, by adults)
- Exposing the victim to sexually explicit media such as pornography (especially children, by adults)
- Threatening to force sexual contact upon the victim
- Making inappropriate comments about the victims body, especially private parts
- Sharing private information about the victim’s body or sexual relationships without their consent
- Coercing the victim into performing sexual acts
- Performing sexual acts with the victim while the victim is underage, intoxicated or otherwise unable to consent
- Guilting the victim into sex or sexual contact
- Pressuring the victim into sexual contact
- Threatening the victim with harm unless they perform certain sexual acts or give the abuser sexual access
- In the case of BDSM relationships and sexual interactions, ignoring one of the participants safe word
- In the case of BDSM relationships and sexual interactions, blaming the victim for not using a safeword in circumstances where it is not applicable and/or possible, e.g. the abuser initiated a BDSM scene without prior discussion or consent, or one party is unable to vocalize
- Engaging in sexual contact with someone in any situation where the other party has not given clear, enthusiastic consent
- Any situation where an adult engages in sexual contact with a minor
- Sharing photos of the victim in their underwear/nude/engaged in sexual contact without their consent, or threatening to do so
- Knowingly exposing the victim to STIs
- Interfering with the victims birth control or safer sex methods
- Deceiving the victim about the circumstances of sexual contact
Social Abuse
Social abuse is a less often discussed form of abuse where the abuser undermines the victims relationships and autonomy. Like other forms, behaviors here are often also applicable to other categories.
Behaviors include
- Not letting the victim see or speak to their friends and/or family
- Making the victim feel guilty for having other relationships (except in monogamous relationships where one person is dating other people/'cheating’)
- Going through the victims phone, emails, text messages. etc without their knowledge and/or consent
- Spreading rumors about the victim
- Telling the victim that their family/friends said things that they didn’t say
- Telling the victim that only the abuser really cares about them
- Manipulating the victim into confrontations with family/friends (e.g. encouraging them to raise an issue then withdrawing support during/after the confrontation)
- Outing the victim if they are LGBT+
- Telling other people about mental health issues the victim has
- Telling people about abuse the victim has experienced
- Telling people that the victim is abusive when it’s not true, or claiming they did certain abusive actions that they didn’t do
- Humiliating or embarrassing the victim in front of others
- Criticizing or putting the victim down in front of others
- Engaging in subtle acts of abuse, manipulation, intimidation etc to show others how 'crazy’ or 'unstable’ the victim is
- Interfering in the victims relationships in any way
- Taking away the victims phone, computer, internet or other forms of communication
- Disallowing the victim to communicate in ways that they want or need to e.g. not allowing autistic children or partners to stim, disallowing deaf or nonverbal children or partners to use sign language
Financial Abuse
Financial abuse is another kind of abuse that’s often not discussed. It generally revolves around interfering with the victims finances. It’s also referred to as economic abuse.
Behaviors include
- Forcing the victim to give the abuser their paycheck or government assistance payment/s
- Telling the victim what they can and cannot buy
- Punishing the victim for spending money
- If the abuser is the sole income earner, forcing the victim to beg for money
- Refusing to provide the victim with things they need
- Stealing money from the victim
- Forcing the victim to share bank accounts
- Not allowing you to see or keep your own financial records
- Not allowing you to go to work or gain employment
- Jeopardizing your job by making you late, harassing you at work etc
- Spending money on themselves but not allowing the victim to do the same
- Forcing the victim to pay the abusers bills, car payments, rent, court fines etc
- Using their position as sole breadwinner to manipulate or control you
Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse is often thought of as swearing at the victim. While that is part of it, there are many more behaviors which are also verbally abusive.
Behaviors include
- Talking over and/or interrupting
- Frequent criticism
- Using sarcasm to dismiss or belittle the victim
- Constantly arguing with the victim
- Swearing at the victim
- Shouting at/over the victim
- Using their voice and/or words to cause fear and/or intimidate the victim
- Mocking and/or making fun of the victim, teasing them
- name-calling
Spiritual Abuse
Spiritual abuse is another form of abuse that’s often left out of discussions but is still very important. While it’s generally thought of in a religious context, it can also be used against those who are not part of organized religions or do not have spiritual beliefs. In essence, it undermines a person’s spiritual beliefs, or lack thereof.
Behaviors include
- Not allowing the victim to attend religious services, gatherings or meetings
- Telling the victim that their beliefs are wrong, bad or silly
- Telling the victim that they’re 'going to hell’ or are 'damned’
- Forcing or coercing the victim into changing their religious or spiritual beliefs, or lack thereof
- A person in a position of authority within a religious or spiritual organization demanding unquestioned loyalty or making unreasonable demands
- A person in a position of authority excluding certain individuals, often on the basis of sexual/romantic orientation or transgender status but can also be due to ethnicity, gender, class, disability etc
- Shaming individuals for not paying tithing or giving money to a church/religious/spiritual organization/group
Hopefully I have covered most kinds of abuse here, however I will certainly add to this if I’ve missed anything. I know it’s a long post, but if you would be able to share this to raise awareness, I would really appreciate it. Many people are aware that abuse happens but far less people know how abuse is defined. This is not a complete list but I hope that it can serve as a guide to those wondering if what they are experiencing is in fact abuse.
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when i was five, and romance didn’t exist for boys, it did exist for me. “she’s going to break hearts one day,” people said, speaking about me over my head. i smiled, because that is something little girls are supposed to be pleased to hear.
when i was six i was supposed to kiss my best friend because he was a boy, and when i wouldn’t, he pushed me down hard enough that my palms bled. he said if i told a teacher, he’d tell everyone i kissed him and i was bad at it. i washed off in the school’s bathroom sink and cried about it all through recess.
at eight, i stopped wearing dresses because i couldn’t turn cartwheels in them. “a tomboy,” somebody said about me, over my head, as if i couldn’t hear them. i said, “i don’t want to be a boy,” and they laughed. “we know, sweetness.” i said, “i’m not sweet, i’m serious,” and they laughed again. “you’re cute,” they said. i smiled at that, because that’s something little girls are supposed to be pleased to hear.
at nine, i had too many friends that were boys. “i don’t like it,” my father said, standing in the kitchen. i didn’t understand it. “your body is going to start changing soon, and i don’t want those boys looking at you. i don’t like it,” he’d repeat. we moved away that summer. i lost everybody.
when i was eleven, my teacher took me out of the classroom and asked me to put on another layer because even though it was hot in there, all of the boys were staring at the little forming bumps on my chest. i remember embarrassment spiking down my spine like lightning. i begged my mother to take me bra shopping. it was terrible there, in those bright stores with bright lights and beautiful women with tight thighs. it was terrible and embarrassing to touch or look at or even think about these things.
at thirteen, my best guy friend wrestled me to the ground and covered me in kisses no matter how much i asked him to stop it. “it’s supposed to be like this,” he kept repeating, “just stop struggling.” he told me i was pretty and lovely and that boys and girls can’t be friends. he told me to stop being so mad at him, that little girls are supposed to be pleased about these things.
the same winter, i was catcalled for the first time in my whole life. i jumped when the car pulled up by my side. they said “baby” over my head as if i wasn’t who they were discussing. i didn’t smile about it. i had to sit down to stop myself from vomiting.
when i was fifteen, half of my friends were boys. my best friend was in love with me. he told me i was breaking his heart. he said that if i didn’t love him back, he’d have nothing to live for anymore. the story with the rest of them is all the same. either they left me or they thought they fell in love with the idea of somebody i wasn’t.
that summer when i was sad - and i was sad categorically, always - i tried reaching out. when i turned to the boys, all i heard was, “don’t cut, you’re beautiful,” “don’t kill yourself, you’re so pretty,” “think of the scars, sweetie,” “when you cut yourself, i’m the one who starts bleeding.” i didn’t smile, although i think girls are supposed to be pleased to hear these things. i didn’t know how to say: i don’t feel beautiful, and even if i did, what i’m doing to myself has nothing to do with you, or what i look like, or how fuckable i am to you. instead i told them i was fine, and fixed, and nothing bad was happening.
when he broke my heart, it was because i told him no. when he left, i cried because it hurt to watch my best friend go. when he left, he said that he’d never liked me for my soul: only for my curves, the only real way to measure worth in a girl.
at sixteen, i had only girl friends. they were gentle, and different, and walked me through things. they held my hand when classes got too loud for me, and it meant friendship. they kissed me on the cheeks when i was crying, and it meant friendship. they slept next to me and it was friendship in the way i wasn’t used to. i was used to “stop being a tease,” to “why are you doing this to me.” it was just friendship, and it was excellent.
i was called a dyke, a lesbian, a man-hater. i thought of the men who had hurt me, who had spoken over my head, who had given me their full opinion even though i never asked for it. i was hated by basically everyone. i was sad and lonely so often that i often thought i’d never feel happy again.
at nineteen, in college, i had friends who were boys again, because college boys are supposed to be old enough to see you as a person. they all called me Steve, short for Steven. at first i thought it was some kind of inside joke, that it was cute, that it meant they loved me the way i loved them all. one day while we were both drunk, i asked one of them why they wouldn’t just say my name. he laughed. he said, “god, you’re going to hate me when i explain.” he said that they’d all formed an agreement behind my back that none of them would fuck me, that if i was going to be one of the bros, i couldn’t be a girl to them. i could only be seen as a boy if i wanted to be their friend. he said this all while staring at a point over my head, and tried to kiss me at the end. when i pushed him away, he said, “sorry, steve,” took a breath, “but if i start seeing you as a girl, i’m gonna try to kiss you again.”
i said, “i don’t want to be a boy, though,” and he laughed again.
he said, “i know, sweetie.”
at twenty-two, i am sick of boys who are “nice,” who are “not like other boys,” who are offended when i don’t immediately trust their intentions. i have been hurt over and over and over again. i only talk to about three of my boy friends and the rest i lost because i dared not to fuck them.
at the same time, i kept most of my girl friends. i have had crushes on most of them. it never impacted our relationships. even girls who are gay like i am know that being friends doesn’t mean i owe them. they hold my eyes when i talk to them.
i’m sorry, i’m sorry, i’m sorry. i love so many people, and many boys are wonderful and charming and excellent. i’m sorry i flinch away from a friendship. i’m sorry i will be cold and unaffectionate and scared of getting too close
it’s just that, since i was five, i was told i break hearts.
” — girls don’t owe you shit, dude: a polite reply to a post which inadvertently blames girls for distrusting the affections of a guy friend // r.i.d(via inkskinned)
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- #trigger
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- #trigger cw
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blacklist scripts like blacklist on xkit and tumblr savior look for the word only in the first word when its a tag !!! please tag your triggers the right way and help your friends !!!!!!
bless this post I had no idea
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I just found an amazing scholarship and college research website.
It is called raise.me and it basically gives you mini scholarships for doing things like getting an A in a course, doing community service, or just taking an AP class in general.
For example, you can receive up to $6,000 for a school because you completed over 200 hours of community service.
$30 per hour you work. Guys, that is nearly triple minimum wage.
Also, a few other schools offer mini scholarships for students who get B’s in a class or are taking a foreign language for more than 2 years.
This is the scholarship website we’ve been looking for.
Now you don’t have to spend dozens of nights writing scholarship essays when you can make money throughout your school career.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE spread the word of this website. It is very helpful and will provide many people with the opportunities to graduate college!
And
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- ‘you’re a celebrity incognito trying to hide from paparazzi and you’re sitting right next to me and i’m the only one that recognizes you’ au
- ‘someone starts a rumor that we’re dating so let’s turn the tables’ au
- ‘you made an obscure literary reference and i’m the only on that got it’ au
- ‘we were both late to class and walked into each other in the hall and oh god do you have a concussion? i’m so sorry’ au
- ‘oh my god you’re my ex’s other ex’ au
- ‘we’re both actors and keep showing up for the same auditions’ au
- ‘i keep overhearing you make fun of me so i finally try to stand up for myself and it actually had nothing to do with me at all i’m sorry i never meant for this to happen’ au
- we’re both teachers and all our students ship us’ au
- ‘i kissed the wrong person on news years’ au
- ‘i’m yelling to my friend about how attractive this celebrity is and then plot twist you’re the celebrity and in front of me wtf’ au
- ‘the only two people in the movie theater’ au
- ‘we showed up at a party wearing the same exact outfit. this is awkward.’ au
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Queen Hatshepsut of Ancient Egypt. She has a lovely smile for someone who’s been dead for thousands of years.
she wasn’t a queen. she was a pharaoh and wanted to be referred to as such. she even had her statues modeled after the male pharaoh’s statues to state her dominance and authority. she was actually one of the most successful pharaohs in all of ancient egyptian history and she reigned longer than any other woman in power in egypt.
damn no wonder she died and smiled for a trillion years afterwards
The fact that we know about her is marvelous.
the next Pharaoh after her Tuthmosis III tried to erase Hatshepsut out of history ,chiseled her name off her monuments ,covered the text on her obelisks with stone,knocked down and defaced her statues .
she was even left off the list of pharaohs ..talk about some patriarchy bullshit
her name was lost for a couple of millennia, her body was found in a unmarked grave in early twentieth century
sad part is in Egyptian belief is if your are forgotten in the living world you don’t exist in the afterlife,so he was trying to kill her even in death
My best friend throwing down some herstory. A+ commentary
She wore a fake beard, you guys.
She was the fucking boss.If we remember her now does that save her from an awful afterlife?
I’m just picturing the Kemetic afterlife. All the Pharaohs are hanging out in some kind of swanky club, drinking and congratulating each other on being bros.
The doors slam open and Hatshepsut strides in, glorious, robes swirling, rocking the fake beard and the insane amounts of wealth and power. “Miss me, bitches?”
Then she punches Tuthmosis III straight in the dick.
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photo from SLC Comic Con (via CliveBixby22)
Best cosplay ever.
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