Is he a feminist if he proclaims, on a first date, that he could see himself taking his wife’s last name? (Maybe his own name is pretty generic.) If he insists on doing the dishes after you’ve cooked dinner together but proceeds to whip the dish towel at your ass, is that playful or objectifying? (Both.) Is he sexist if he cancels an Uber ride because a female driver is on her way to pick the two of you up? (Definitely.)
Does he need to believe that men and women, are equals and should be treated as such? (Uh, yes.) Does he need to be actively fighting for social, political and economic justice for women — and for all people, really — to identify as a feminist? (Not necessarily. But if he’s doing that, great.)
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How to find a feminist boyfriend
I feel the need to add though, that just because they do “un-feminist” things like whip you with a towel, it doesn’t mean you should totally write them off. People can mature and change, sometimes a guy or gal honestly doesn’t realize the misogyny behind their actions. The issue comes when you point it out and they don’t agree to change the behavior.
(via femininefreak)
(Source: femininefreak, via cthulhu-with-a-fez)
