The other night, I had plans to go to an engagement party with the new guy I’m dating - it was for his best friend, and it was at a bar AKA the first time we would be drinking together.

Before we left for the bar, he and I were sitting on his bed talking, and he says, “Oh, I forgot I wanted to ask you something.” He proceeds to ask about when we get home from the bar, if I am wanting/trying to have sex with him, should he have sex with me, and/or what he should look for to know if I am too incapacitated to give consent.

That is the first and only time a guy has ever preemptively considered and asked about what consent would and would not look like with me.