Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
Also a lot of dick people don’t actually know this either so spread the word to the penis-owning people who follow me that no the first time is not supposed to hurt for the vagina people.
Sex is supposed to be pleasurable not painful. If something hurts, stop and figure out the issue 9/10 there’ just not enough lubrication due to lack of arousal and foreplay.
Also, if someone says it hurts, STOP. That aint some cute code for you to keep going. Listen to your partner.