SO my freshman year of college I had a friend/roommate who was dating a guy kind of off-and-on and there was one particular instance where he made her cry for like…four hours straight.  And she asked me for advice after about the second hour of her crying on my lap, because apparently I seemed like a good shoulder to cry on (and I genuinely didn’t mind, I got that she was upset, but it confused the fuck out of me because most people opt for the word ‘terrifying’ to describe me).  And I was like “…dude did something you’d already asked him not to do and he made you cry for multiple hours.  This is not the first time he’s made you this upset.  Dump his ass immediately.”

Yeah, two years later, they’re still dating (still off-and-on, seems to be pretty much the same situation), but we’re not still talking.