Let’s be real

people will accept you saying the word they in the singular form up until they know you’re talking about someone who’s trans or nb or intersex.  Like the number of times I’ve said they to my parents that I’m hanging out with someone and refer to them as them (I basically use it for most cases now) with them not raising an eye is incredible and I thought that they’d just accepted it.

But nah, I’m going out with my translady friend and I call them they and THAT’S when the jokes and the purposeful misunderstanding come in.

And I’ve seen this in dozens of other cases.  So let’s be honest: opposition to they/them pronouns has shit to do with grammar.  It’s entirely about policing people’s pronouns.