They really think “you’re ruining his life” is going to guilt trip me into silence. Victim blaming 101. If you’re a survivor of assault, know you aren’t ruining anyone’s life but saving your own. Abusers ruin their own lives.
They ruin their own life the second they make the decision to abuse you. Never forget that.
I felt so fucking bad when I realised the guy I took to court had a newborn kid.
Then I realised - whatever the outcome - HE made the decision to break the law. I didn’t make that decision. Everything that happens after that is a consequence of his decision, not mine.
(via yea-lets-do-this-shit)
