i cannot stress this enough, young ladies.
find a slightly older female friend. like… two to ten years older than you. they will save your life, they will teach you so much, they will give you such great life lessons. they are so vital and helpful and important.
If you are the older friend don’t kid yourself that you’re not learning from younger friends too. That’s how you become that old person who is bewildered by hairstyles and slang.
my friends have honestly taught me more about adult life than my mom ever did re: my mom and I have a strained relationship at best
- my therapist in college was the only person who ever told me how to set up a gyno appointment, and she also gave reviews of places and told me its not rude to ask for a female doctor
- one friend brought me on my first apartment hunt, and all of them, having already run that gauntlet, have a lot of tips and tricks that have been super helpful
- one of them reformatted my resume and cv to the kind that med students use, and helps me respond to frightening work emails
- a lot of advice about looking for jobs and applying to grad school
- how to hunt for a sale, and how to put together an adult outfit
- cleaning literally everything, getting stains out, fixing things
- how to have difficult conversations
but meanwhile I’ve also done my share of teaching:
- introducing them to the pink tax, and how men’s products were cheaper, I could almost hear ‘a whole new world’ playing in the background, mind blown
- I bake more pastries than anyone else
- I bring the memes
like, any relationship, no matter the dynamics or ages, should have a give and take sharing of emotions, knowledge, and skills
you always have got to be careful, especially young ones, of people taking advantage of inexperience etc, but if you can find a good group of people to run with, run with them
my friend group has a mix of ages between 24 and 44 and no one person is more than 3-4 years away from anyone else. its a range, we have shared interests, and we like each other. we also have diverse backgrounds, skills, and experiences, so we have a pool of shared knowledge that can solve most problems.
(Source: cchapel, via windbladess)
