That autism/ADHD feel where intellectually you KNOW something is important, but it’s just not interesting to you so for the life of you you cannot care or concentrate on it.
My
gf of 3 years is the queen of “wherever” and “I don’t care” when it
comes to this. This little game fixed our problem immediately. It takes
the pressure off of her, but still gives her a choice about where to
eat.
(this can also work with kids and indecisive friends)
My brain (and my impending deadline) says work on my thesis, but my heart says continue writing Cesare/Micheletto fic. Someone please motivate me to do the responsible thing here.
Anonymous asked: hello dear i read once that if you just stare at someones nose it looks like you're looking at their eyes so maybe that is useful to you? anyway have a great day
A GOOD TIP, MY DEAR. I’ve perfected the fine art of letting my eyes focus on a point just past someone’s nose because it makes them think I’m Really Focused while I wonder how big a set of unfixed wings would need to be in order to lift a human off the ground.
filed under: things I wish I had known earlier but are quite obvious when you think about it
One thing this doesn’t mention that I know I have problems with is the executive function involved in going to bed. It takes so much organization to stop whatever task you’re working on, change into PJs, wash your face, brush your teeth, etc. So not only am I lying in bed Thinking™ for an hour, I’m doing that late at night because it took ages to cajole myself into getting ready for bed.
But how do you FIX IT?
HOLY SHIT SOMETHING I ACTUALLY HAVE ADVICE ON FOR ONCE! I have ADHD and depression and have Much Experience with the no sleep and/or fucked up sleep things.
I would love to advise on the executive dysfunction of Trying to Get Ready for Bed but frankly I suck at that part BUT! THE OTHER PART!
There are two different things I will do if I absolutely need to sleep and my brain is just not having it:
1) find a relatively comfortable position where nothing will go all pins and needles for a few hours and just… don’t move. It sounds so much easier than it is, but seriously, do whatever breathing or focusing techniques you need but just DO NOT MOVE. I read somewhere once that of you can hold completely still for fifteen minutes you can trick your body into thinking its sleepy time. In my experience this can really work.
2) This kind of follows/goes hand in hand with one and is almost more of a meditation/focusing technique? When you’re lying in bed, after you have found the aforementioned semi comfortable position, start at your toes, end at your head and just focus on relaxing each muscle or muscle group one by one. I like to do feet, calves, thighs, abdomen, upper chest, shoulders, arms, neck - and then start at the feet again. Just focus on breathing deeply and evenly and on each exhale try and relax a muscle group.
I am also a big “write stories in my head while trying to fall asleep” person but I know not everyone can or wants to do that. Hopefully those two suggestions up above will help someone.
Wait, ‘intrusive sleep’ is a thing? That feeling of “I am literally blacking out right now and I couldn’t stop it if my life depended on it” when you’re bored is A THING?
CAN I JUST GET A LIST OF THINGS THAT ARE NOT ME BEING A FUCKUP?
who wants to buy this book I will never get around to writing
Chapter 1: Haha Just Kidding, ADD Was Made Up By Pfizer. Anyway Unrelated I Am Uniquely Bad At Being Alive and No One Can Figure Out Why
Chapter 2: Where Did I Put That? Nope, It’s Gone
Chapter 3: Why Being Bored Is Literally The Same As Dying
Chapter 4: ADD And Your Love Life: Why Bother?
Chapter 5: A Short Story I Drew About A Little Rabbit Named Herbert Who Goes On Adventures
Chapter 6: I Don’t Have Time To Not Be Photoshopping
Chapter 7: You Interrupted Me in the Middle of Tetris And Other Reasons I’ll Be Making Your Life A Sulky Hell All Day
Chapter 8: Where Can A Grown-Up Go to Scream? (Nowhere.)
Chapter 9: You Just Told Me Huge News About Your Life, but I Don’t Know What It Was Because There’s a TV in the Corner of This Bar
Chapter 10: I Would Love to Tell You Why I Am Crying, but I Already Forgot. It’s Just Happening Now
Chapter 11: Bankruptcy
Chapter 12: I Have Walked into This Room Five Times and Neglected to Address The Reason I Originally Did So Each Time
Chapter 13: Public Embarrassment: Is it Real?
Chapter 14: All the Facts I Learned When I Read Wikipedia for Five Hours Yesterday
Chapter 15: You’re Right, This Is Exactly The Same As When You Feel Sort of Unfocused Half An Hour Before You Leave Work
Chapter 16: Will My Employer Believe Me When I Let Them Know I Have a Learning Disability and Mental Illness or Will They Keep Assuming That I Don’t Care Enough About My Job To Listen to Instructions the First Time
Chapter 17: Thank God You’re Here to Argue With Me that I Don’t Have This Diagnosis Invented to Explain Why Small Children are Fidgety. Oh Good, You Have Examples of Times I was Productive and Calm
Chapter 18: That Was Hilarious, Please Tell Me More Stories of Times I Couldn’t Figure Out Something That Was Common Sense
Chapter 19: Goodnight Sweet Book I’ll Never Finish
Chapter 20: I Couldn’t Do It Right The First Time I Tried, Burn the Evidence
Chapter 21: I Could Say Something, or I Could Say it in My Head Where No One Will Hear it if the Words or Syllables are in the Wrong Order, Assuming I’m Using The Correct Words At All Instead of Mismatching Them
Chapter 22: 5pm, Time For Breakfast
Chapter 23: Following Directions on a Piece of Paper. Just Kidding it’s Still Under The Pile on My Desk.
Chapter 24: “Just Do It” Well Fuck Why Didn’t I Think of That. Goddamn Genius Doctor Superman Over Here.
Chapter 25: People that Walk Around Without Gesturing to a Conversation Only They Are Having. How Do They Do It?
Chapter 26: This Book Is Too Long, Do You Actually Expect Me To Read All Of This
Chapter 27: Guess What I Did With My Free Day
Chapter 28: My Academic Career Is Falling Apart
Chapter 29: Why You Never Turn In Homework
Chapter 30: I Would Write Study Tips But I Literally Once Procrastinating Studying For Finals By Putting Sticky Tabs In My Math Book Instead Of Actually Studying
Chapter 31: Maintaining Relationships
Is Difficult
Chapter 32: Doesn’t Everybody Struggle With Basic Self Care?
Chapter 33: I feel thirsty; I think I’ll make a cup of tea.
Chapter 34: Why is there a cold cup of tea on the cupboard?
Every time…
Chapter 35: Let Me Tell You About the Wonders of Hyperfocus and How I Stayed Awake for Two Days Because I Didn’t Have Plans and Nobody Distracted Me From the Internet Until I Literally Passed Out. Twice.
Chapter 36: Did That Happen Yesterday or Three Years Ago?
Chapter 37: Did That Actually Happen or Was It A Dream?
Chapter 38: I Went Three Months in the Dark Because I Forgot the Lightbulb Was Broken Until I Needed It at Night.
Chapter 39: I Need a List to Tell Me What to Write a List For.
Chapter 40: What is a Normal Sleep Phase?
Chapter 41: The V O I D
Chapter 42: Did I actually write this chapter? Or was it in my head and I skipped it cause I remember writing it so clearly
