It’s called Booster Buddy, it’s free, and it’s available for both Android and iOS.
It works by giving you ‘quests’ (daily tasks) that you are encouraged to complete each day. They are very small things and it caters to you (it asks you questions at the start about what you struggle with).
It’s designed to be child friendly and easy to understand. I’m finding it really helpful. You can also input medication times for a reminder and emergency contact details.
I love this app and I had to share it with you all!
thank you for this.
“PLEASE come wake me up again tomorrow”…think of all the lives this app could save
I’ve got this app and seriously it really helps. Not only do you have a calendar to record medication and feelings but you also want to wake up every morning to help the animal. It pretty much made my life better.
there has been a pretty far-reaching trend on this website to blog about the effects of mental illness and trauma on emotional regulation and an aggressive campaign to get people to not only understand but accept boundary-crossing behavior from people because it is a reflection of their mental illness/trauma, as far as to imply that you are ableist if you are not able to tactfully handle and accept someone else’s dysfunctional coping mechanisms and behavior despite your own discomfort. i see this most often with posts about bpd but there are other topics as well. i haven’t commented on any of it because it’s not a pie i wanted a finger in, but it has over time led me to develop severe discomfort around people who follow that line of thought to the point that i have disengaged, unfollowed, and unfriended many people who agree with it.
the stuff i’m seeing passed around now about “supporting perpretrators” in addition to survivors is the horrifying track down which that train of thought has sped, because what people don’t seem to understand is that mental illness and trauma do no make you an exception to the boundaries of those around you. it is necessary to be aware of the ways that survivors and mentally ill people may lash out emotionally at those they are close to but it is not actually necessary to be “accepting” to the point that it is harmful to you. your emotional boundaries are important, more important than whatever obligation you feel to “accommodate” someone’s trauma.
it is not “okay” that survivors sometimes display manipulative/abusive behaviors towards the people around them and it is important to handle these situations with tact, sure, but not to the detriment of setting your own boundaries and checking the behaviors in question. when friends i know are mentally ill/ trauma survivors have lashed out at me with emotionally manipulation tactics in times of great distress, i have supported them afterward, but i have always followed this up with a discussion about how these kinds of behaviors can not and will not continue or our relationship will end. this is not “ableist” or refusing to support survivors’ trauma, it is setting strong boundaries within the context of supporting each other and providing the community in which we all can heal. what is important here is that these are isolated incidents – learned defense mechanisms arising in times of panic and stress – and not consistent grabs for power. these are not people following the deliberate, overarching pattern of actions abusers use to isolate and control victims, and their actions are easily distinguishable from such.
my point is that this discourse has allowed people to blur the line between these behaviors and abuse when it comes to community support. we should support abusers in our communities as well, they say, because otherwise we would be isolating vulnerable marginalized people who are just struggling with their own trauma. this is exactly what abusers want. this is not a radical attitude. abusers depicting themselves as helpless victims of emotions and circumstances out of their control has pretty much always been the abuser party line. there is nothing productive or useful or valid about carving out community resources for “accountability” in ways that perpetuate bad abuse politics and logics that have been used to silence survivors for years and years. you cannot support survivors and also support their abusers by continuing to welcome them in the same community spaces, period, and it takes some ridiculous mental gymnastics to pretend otherwise.
this is like entirely irrelevant to art but i’ve seen a lot of people give this advice without a proper explanation and it’s really easy to dismiss anything without one so like?? an explanation on the Eat Something If You’re Feeling Especially Depressed thing also featuring Why Is Mental Illness So Fucking Exhausting
k so i know it really doesn’t feel like it especially when these moods hit you but your brain does a Lot to keep a lot of shitty things at bay, especially if you’re mentally ill. (this stuff applies to people who aren’t as well obviously, it’s just more of an issue if you are.)
it’s working at keeping stuff away p much constantly, and that’s on top of everything else brains do daily (which is a metric fuckton, our brains control absolutely everything that happens with our bodies and the cognitive processes even in something as simple as perception are absolutely batshit)
and it takes a lot of energy that neurotypical people would have spare for other stuff, so you’re obviously going to get tired faster with all that going on all day, right?
your brain getting run down trying to keep the bad shit at bay means it exhausts itself and isn’t able to keep the bad shit at bay, which is why when you’re hungry it can literally feel like the world is ending and why all the little things that didnt bother you that much just nyoom the fuck up and suckerpunch you in the throat out of nowhere
you don’t feel that bad just because you’re hungry (in case you needed to hear that bc know i end up feeling like a melodramatic little bitch) it’s because your brain doesn’t have the energy to fight back against stuff anymore, and that’s why it’s important to eat when things feel especially bad
*seconds this earnestly*
If eating seems really hard, literally eat anything that might appeal past the depression funk. Eat a candy bar. Eat poptarts. Eat a popsicle. Drink a glass of juice. Like, in those moments, don’t make “healthy” or dieting a focus, you’re getting emergency fuel to your brain so you can eat something else in a couple minutes. I have poptarts and little candy bars in my room for exactly this reason. Sometimes that little bite sized butterfinger is enough to motivate me to eat, and then whoops, wow, food sounds awesome now.
ok but if youre gonna support the idea of removing negative people and ending relationships that one no longer benefits from, you must also be willing and open to understanding why someone may do just that to you
I suspect this post is predicated on the assumption that most people who advocate ending negative relationships are naive, or hypocrites. I think the OP might have this preconceived notion that “people wouldn’t recommend doing this if they truly understood the consequences.”
The thing is that everyone has their own list of compromises they’re willing to make vs. consequences they’re willing to put up with. Some people would rather compromise more, so they can avoid negative consequences. Some people would rather face more negative consequences, so they can avoid having to compromise.
Everyone has a different conception of “acceptable compromises” vs. “acceptable consequences” and everyone thinks that their conception is universal, and that anyone who claims otherwise is naive, or hypocritical.
Take for example someone saying “I did everything I could.”
They might mean “I did everything I could short of compromising my personal morals”
They might mean “I did everything I could, including things generally deemed immoral.”
They might mean, “I did everything I could without damaging my mental and/or physical health.”
They might mean, “I did everything I could including damaging my mental and/or physical health.”
They might mean, “I did everything I could within what I consider an acceptable level of risk.”
They might mean, “I did things that could have killed me and/or others.”
They might mean, “I did slightly more than what I would usually do.”
And here’s the thing — whatever they did mean, they’re going to assume most people mean the same thing. Everyone naturally assumes that their line in the sand is the standard line in the sand.
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Or as George Carlin once said, “everybody who drives slower than you is an idiot, and everybody who drives faster than you is a maniac.”
Now me? I’m not going to stay friends with someone out of fear of loneliness, misplaced loyalty, habit, or because I think I can change them. I would rather lose a friendship than have someone stay friends with me for these reasons. I can say that with authority, because I’ve been on both sides of that scenario.
These are valid points; for me, personally, however, I reblogged the post because I found it to be a bit of an interesting mental exercise. This is coming from the position of fully believing in [and practicing] cutting ties with people/relationships once they become a drain and/or source of toxicity as opposed to a fulfilling addition to my life.
That being said, I do think it is absolutely important to take a moment to realize and consider and internalize that other people can and will do this to you for exactly those reasons–not in the sense that it should discourage you from doing so, but in the sense that you should use that self-awareness to understand their reasons, their needs, and their motivations; that is to say, instead of becoming angry or resentful over it [although it’s generally somewhat unavoidable; no one likes feeling like a burden and no one likes being cut out of someone else’s social circle, and feelings aren’t usually super rational anyway even if you can logically process the reasons behind something], to understand where that other person was/is coming from and either a/ not take it [too] personally and/or b/ modify your behaviour in current/future relationships [in the case of you being a drain or toxic presence on another person’s life].
So yes, I think it’s important to take a moment every so often to apply the rules and standards you have to your own life and choices to the behaviours and actions of other people. I, personally at least, can occasionally get sucked into a slight unconscious solipsism in that sense, and reminding myself of these things is helpful, and I’m of the opinion that it’s helpful for other people to do so as well.
