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Still, [Junot] Diaz admits that writing in a woman’s voice comes with certain risks. “The one thing about being a dude and writing from a female perspective is that the baseline is, you suck,” he told me. “The baseline is it takes so long for you to work those atrophied muscles—for you to get on parity with what women’s representations of men are. For me, I always want to do better. I wish I had another 10 years to work those muscles so that I can write better women characters. I wring my hands because I know that as a dude, my privilege, my long-term deficiencies work against me in writing women, no matter how hard I try and how talented I am.”

For one of the most lauded writers of his generation to say he needs another decade of practice to write better women is no small thing. But Diaz told me that he’s often appalled by the portrayals of women in celebrated novels.

“I know from my long experience of reading,” he said, “that the women characters that dudes [write] make no fucking sense for the most part. Not only do they make no sense, they’re introduced just for sexual function.”

He gave a high-profile example, though he wouldn’t name names.

“There’s a book that came out recently from a writer I admire enormously. A woman character gets introduced. I said, ‘I promise you, this girl is just here to throw herself at the dude, even though the dude has done nothing, nothing, to merit or warrant a woman throwing herself at him.’ And lo and behold. This brilliant young American writer, that everybody sort of considers the god of American writing, turns around and does exactly that. When I asked my female friends, we all had a little gathering, and I was chatting. I was like, ‘Have you heard of a woman doing this?’ They’re like, ‘Are you fucking nuts?’”

On the other hand, Diaz said, “I think the average woman writes men just exceptionally well.” He cited Anne Enright, Maile Meloy, and Jesmyn Ward as examples of younger writers who write great male characters—and pointed to two of his idols, Jamaica Kincaid and Toni Morrison, as timeless masters. But he also detects an across-the-board improvement even in woman-penned books that are less than high-brow, especially in Young Adult fiction. “Look how well the boys are rendered in The Hunger Games,” he said.

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this quote is complete magic to me (from this article). (via nailure)

This is one of those things that’s so obviously the case that it blows my mind people can still manage not to notice it.

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micdotcom:

Caitlyn Jenner just showed the world how to use privilege for good 

During her ESPYs speech, Jenner went out of her way not only to talk about the struggling, bullied transgender youth every where but the challenges facing transgender women of color specifically. She mentioned advocates like Laverne Cox and Janet Mock, but also those whose lives we’ve lost like Mercedes Williamson.

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Broke af?

ok2befat:

avari20:

But still interested in feeding yourself? What if I told you that there’s a woman with a blog who had to feed both herself and her young son…on 10 British pounds ($15/14 Euro) per week?

Let me tell you a thing.

This woman saved my life last year. Actually saved my life. I had a piggy bank full of change and that’s it. Many people in my fandom might remember that dark time as when I had to hock my writing skills in exchange for donations. I cried a lot then. 

This is real talk, people: I marked down exactly what I needed to buy, totaled it, counted out that exact change, and then went to three different stores to buy what I needed so I didn’t have to dump a load of change on just one person. I was already embarrassed, but to feel people staring? Utter shame suffused me. The reasons behind that are another post all together. 

AgirlcalledJack.com is run by a British woman who was on benefits for years. Things got desperate. She had to find a way to feed herself and her son using just the basics that could be found at the supermarket. But the recipes she came up with are amazing. 

You have to consider the differing costs of things between countries, but if you just have three ingredients in your cupboard, this woman will tell you what to do with it. Check what you already have. Chances are you have the basics of a filling meal already. 

Here’s her list of kitchen basics. 

Bake your own bread. It’s easier than you think. Here’s a list of many recipes, each using some variation of just plain flour, yeast, some oil, maybe water or lemon juice. And kneading bread is therapeutic. 

Make your own pasta–gluten free. 

She gets it. She really does. This is the article that started it all. It’s called “Hunger Hurts”.

She has vegan recipes.

Don’t have an oven or the stove isn’t available? She covers that in her Microwave Cooking section. 

She has a book, but many recipes can be found on her blog for free. She prices her recipes down to the cent, and every year she participates in a project called “Living Below the Line” where she has to live on 1 BP per day of food for five days. 

Things improved for me a little, but her website is my go to. I learned how to bake bread (using my crockpot, but that was my own twist), and I have a little cart full of things that saved me back then, just in case I need them again. She gives you the tools to feed yourself, for very little money, and that’s a fabulous feeling. 

Tip: Whenever you have a little extra money, buy a 10 dollar/pound/euro giftcard from your discount grocer. Stash it. That’s your super emergency money. Make sure they don’t charge by the month for lack of use, though.

I don’t care if it sounds like an advertisement–you won’t be buying anything from the site. What I DO care about is your mental, emotional, and physical health–and dammit, food’s right in the center of that. 

If you don’t need this now, pass it on to someone who does. Pass it on anyway, because do you REALLY know which of the people in your life is in need? Which follower might be staring at their own piggy bank? Trust me: someone out there needs to see this. 

<3 

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uh-im-cool-i-guess:

kiercns:

hypeoverload:

kiercns:

ur not punk if ur not nice

wrong

UR NOT PUNK IF UR NOT NICE 

“in a room full of fuck you, the most punk thing is thank you.” -Patrick Stump

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shanology:

necesitamos:

FRIENDLY REMINDER THAT you are allowed to feel proud of yourself for things that might seem silly to other people, like getting better at a video game or putting together a nice outfit for the next morning or finishing a book. You deserve to feel proud for your accomplishment.

The only friendly reminder I’ve ever seen on tumblr that was, in fact, friendly. 

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mysharona1987:

This is great.

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gailsimone:
“This was my favorite moment being a fan of comics.
The Westboro Baptist Church had announced that they were going to boycott San Diego Comicon. They said that we were worshiping false idols (seriously, they were talking about Superman),...

gailsimone:

This was my favorite moment being a fan of comics.


The Westboro Baptist Church had announced that they were going to boycott San Diego Comicon. They said that we were worshiping false idols (seriously, they were talking about Superman), and that the tolerance of gay people was bringing God’s wrath down upon us.

People picketing the con for religious reasons is no new thing, you can hardly walk to the con from a block away without facing someone with a sign. But the vast majority of those protesters are fairly civil and unobtrusive, and for the most part, their message isn’t hateful, not like the creeps at WBC.

They made good their threat. They showed up in a van, and brought out lots of horrible signs. You’ve seen the signs, you know what they say. 

People have a lot of weird theories about the WBC but I will say, after studying them for years and having encountered them a couple times, what they care about is press. Lots and lots of press. They knew every news agency had a reporter here for this event, they do every year. And they knew they would get a lot of publicity for their shitty, hate-filled message.

But they really, really misunderstood the cosplayers and fans at SDCC that year. 

There was to be a counter-protest. As soon as I heard about it, I knew we had to be there, for sheer numbers, if for no other reason. I blew off a meeting I was supposed to go to and we made it as the counter protest had just been going on for a little while. 

This is where the WBC’s plan went all backfire, and it was one of the happiest moments of my life. 

There were cops surrounding the counter-protesters. Not to keep us from becoming a mob, really, but to make sure no one attacked the WBC people, because they are famously litigation-happy. 

There were very few WBC people, I think I remember four or so. They each held a BUNCH of signs, to blow themselves up like a puffer fish and look like a bigger splash.

They were immediately hateful, screaming and singing hymns where they had changed the lyrics to make them about how gay people were going to hell (but much worse).  They looked like nothing so much as Manson family members to me, disheveled and unkempt, like they’d been eating nothing but their own hate for days. Up close, they are extremely creepy…it goes beyond what you see on tv. They just exude hate.

On our side though, we had COSPLAYERS. 

And that made all the difference. We had Bender and Jesus from that Kevin Smith movie and Fry and lots of superheroes. And here’s what made it so great.

They met that wave of hate from the WBC, not with matching rage or contempt, but with humor. When the WBC were signing their awful songs, the much bigger cosplay crowd started signing songs back, but with filthy sexy lyrics. It was absolutely hilarious and joyful. 

The cops, who clearly were on OUR side, were smiling and talking casually to the cosplayers, complimenting their costumes…the WBC have had several campaigns applauding the death of cops. They got no support from the police at this event.

When the scraggly matron of the WBC started singing about gay people burning in hell, a chant from our side went up.

“What do we want?”

“GAY SEX!”

“When do we want it?”

“RIGHT NOW!”

Someone handed the Bender cosplayer in this photograph a bullhorn. When the WBC lady screamed something foul, he yelled back, “BENDER SAYS BITE MY SHINY METAL ASS.”

Honest to god, I have never been so proud to be a nerd.

And here’s the thing. We beat the WBC. We didn’t just win, we sent them fucking PACKING.

Because they wanted publicity. And they were about to get it, reporters DID show up.

Only, there was a better story, you see. Do the reporters film these unphotogenic and screaming zealots, or do they film the partying, laughing, singing people wearing costumes and having a blast?  Do you film the lady with the badly made signs and dirty van, or do you film the cartoon robot cosplayer and the attractive Power Girl cosplayer?

Reporters know what works. They completely ignored the WBC.

And this infuriated them. 

We could see them start to act unsure of themselves. Cars were going by honking and waving for us, ignoring the WBC signs entirely. The cops turned their backs, wouldn’t even LOOK at the protesters. The reporters all stopped to ask questions of US, not THEM. And it was something they had never experienced. They were being outgunned entirely.

To be blunt, they threw a tantrum and no one was watching.

And it was the best feeling in the world. Their songs got quieter. Their voices cracked. One of the protesters just gave up and seemed to wander off a bit. The lead screecher lady, her voice finally just cracked in the middle of a chant when she realized not only was no one outraged, no one was even paying ATTENTION.

So the protest, which was supposed to go on all day, ended abruptly. They just got in their van and left. And they looked so defeated, so perplexed, it was ALMOST possible to feel sorry for them.

Almost.

That night, the news all over the world was COMICON ATTENDEES STAGE COUNTER-PROTEST TO WESTBORO BAPTIST CHURCH and every story I saw barely mentioned the WBC at all. 

Hate fought Bender and Bender won.


I was never, ever so proud of comic readers as that day. And this is just one of the reasons that if you start bashing cosplayers in my presence, be prepared to face my wrath, because cosplayers are goddamn awesome.


And the WBC have never come back. 


:)

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xplorah:

filmelf:

I love this generation so much we went through shit like drug scares and eating disorders and being punks and emos and self harmers and depressed and suicidal and now now now you start to see all these flower crowns and pastels and it’s like we’re all slowly slowly healing and growing up and it’s s obeautiful we’re all taking selfies and coming into our own and we’re all scared but we’re all here for each other and we’re unlearning inter-community hate and we’re all just such nice girls and boys and everything else we’re stars and flowers and fae and sunshine and we care about the world and we are just s obeautiful and powerful and new

ok holy shit

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Consent is like a traffic light.

whoopsrobots:

When they say ‘stop’, you stop.

When they say ‘maybe’, you get ready to stop.

When they say ‘go’, you go.

And like a traffic light, their signals are not optional.

For example, if they say ‘stop’ or ‘maybe’ and you decide to keep going, you will get hit by a truck.

MY truck.

I will run you over.

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