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plannedparenthood:

loveisrespect:

What is Sexual Coercion?

If someone makes you feel obligated or forced to do something you don’t want to, you may be experiencing coercion. By definition, sexual coercion is “the act of using pressure, alcohol or drugs, or force to have sexual contact with someone against his or her will” and includes “persistent attempts to have sexual contact with someone who has already refused.”

Think of sexual coercion as a spectrum or a range. It can vary from someone verbally egging you on to someone actually forcing you to have contact with them. It can be verbal and emotional, in the form of statements that make you feel pressure, guilt or shame. You can also be made to feel forced through more subtle actions. For example, your partner might:

• Make you feel like you owe them — for example, because you’re in a relationship, because you’ve had sex before, because they spent money on you or bought you a gift, because you go home with them
• Give you compliments that sound extreme or insincere as an attempt to get you to agree to something
• Badger you, yell at you, or hold you down
• Give you drugs and alcohol to loosen up your inhibitions
• Play on the fact that you’re in a relationship, saying things such as: “Sex is the way to prove your love for me” or “If I don’t get sex from you I’ll get it somewhere else”
• React negatively (with sadness, anger or resentment) if you say no or don’t immediately agree to something
• Continue to pressure you after you say no
• Make you feel threatened or afraid of what might happen if you say no
• Try to normalize their sexual expectations — for example, “I need it, I’m a guy.”

In a relationship where sexual coercion is occurring, there is a lack of consent, and the coercive partner doesn’t respect the boundaries or wishes of the other.

 

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shamelesslyunladylike:

ibleedkalejuice:

unicornsandbutane:

bulletproof-fantasy:

enjorlove:

pardonmewhileipanic:

thotbotsuperstar:

dynastylnoire:

perpetualdaydream:

baskintheafterglow:

expect-the-greatest:

champagnexstrawberrykisses:

expect-the-greatest:

Bruh

What the hell?

Niggas out here trappin women

Then wonder how your ass got burned

what the fuck…

I’ve had a dude do that before. that shit is terrifying. Dude went across the room like he typically would to get one. Came back and I didn’t know that he didn’t have one until he pulled out.

I FLIPPED. Cried all the way home. Cried for days. Got tested. Bought the morning after pill. Seriously, fuck dudes that do this. There should be laws against it.

There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE. 

If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”. 

This is incredibly important for everyone to see!! EVERYONE

yes YOU NEED THIS ON YOUR DASH EVERYONE

y’all should see this, just so you know.

Call the cops.

HERE is a list of crisis hotlines for rape and abuse. Most of them are 24/7 hotlines. 

HERE is a list of crisis hotlines by state. 

In addition to giving you the compassion your rapist clearly won’t, they might be able to advise you on possible next steps: what to tell the police, how to get a test done.

Stay safe, everyone. 

This is so disrespectful. This is literally the conversation that fuckboys be havin with each other and giggling about. Crucify a dude that tries to do this to you.

This is how men talk to each other about us. This is how men talk to each other about us.

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spookyaviator:

elrondxrn:

airyairyquitecontrary:

catnipsoup:

Straight men are the single most ridiculous creatures to ever walk the surface of this planet.

The only thing more laughable than this body of text are the list of ‘flaws’ that follow.

‘It’s fun when we do it! It’s bad when they do it. It hurts us! There is no possibility that it hurts them.’

*FANTASIZING OVER CHRIS EVANS/SEBASTIAN STAN/ANTHONY MACKIE/MISHA COLLINS/IDRIS ELBA INTENSIFIES 1000x*

#this is why when women write slash #or when women think about 2 dudes kissing #it’s treated as garbage #because the idea of a women controlling that narrative #EVEN WHEN SHE TAKES HERSELF OUTTA THE EQUATION #is treated as the most fucked up weirdness #but men get away with self-insert celebrity fantasies bc they are ‘normal’ #gimme a fucking break

These tags are important.

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travelersinthedark:

jathis:

popsofred:

motherfuckinoedipus:

despondentparamour:

Nightcrawler & Family  

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this is so fucking sad because he was abandoned and raised as a circus freak

I would like to point out that while Azazel was only interested in impregnating women (long story short: he needs children to stay in this dimension), Mystique fell for him when she first saw him. Azazel fell for her too despite himself. Azazel had to leave while Mystique was pregnant with Nighty because he was a target and did not want to have the same fate come to Mystique and the unborn child. Mystique was found out as a mutant and was chased after by a mob! And because of said mob, had to toss him down a ravine. Nighty either teleported or Azazel teleported him elsewhere.

It wasn’t like Azazel and Mystique were shitty parents and just decided to abandon him on the fly. Please don’t anyone think that. This is still one of the cutest families in all of Marvel that I know of.

Also he wasn’t raised as part of the freakshow.

The Roma who found him loved him and raised him as part of the acrobat act. He was adopted by the leader of the circus and raised along with her two children as a son.

So don’t demonize the people who found and raised him either like wtf

This is important. 

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the-maddabber:

psychedelicaslut:

mayhem-is-hand-wash-only:

diamond-sound:

eridans-bullshit-magic:

super-galaxy-gurren-lagann:

just in case you somehow forgot how horrible the pro life movement is

if people have the right to the hospital then i have the right to  critically wound them

If people have the right to education then I have the right to give them brain damage

If people have the right to speak freely then I have the right to silence them permanently.

Fucking hell

I just… What???
No no no

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always-going-forward:

redhester:

takealookatyourlife:

I have incorrectly been saying ‘burqa’ when I meant ‘niqab’ for maybe my whole life.

reblogging for informational purposes. i will come collect you if you reblog from me in a way that disrespects any of my sisters. 

educating yourself on other cultures is v important

do it

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